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Self-help gurus are quickly taking over

the internet. From podcasts to YouTube

channels and GAP commercials, you can't

avoid them, even if you try really,

really hard. Self-help used to live on

the fringe, quiet corners of a bookstore

and niche seminars. But now it's

mainstream. It's a space where experts,

gurus, and idiots like me all sit side

by side in your feed. There's a lot of

good that's come from this obsession

with self-development. I mean, we got

this B-roll of Ali Abdal in the shower.

But there's also a dark side. Because

when the rewards are power, money, and

influence, things like morality, ethics,

and honesty often take a backseat. I

want to uncover how self-help gurus win

followers, help to open your eyes, and

then your wallet. This video is

sponsored by Squarespace. More on them

later. So, I think I'm in a pretty

unique position to explore this topic.

I've been a fan of self-help content

since I was probably 16 years old. I've

read many self-help books. I've

implemented a lot of that advice into my

life and I've seen real improvements

because of it. I also started this

YouTube channel nearly 10 years ago

sharing the things I've learned and

documenting my own habit experiments.

I've done over 30 of them on everything

from cold showers to powerlifting. I've

made documentaries with self-help gurus.

I've interviewed them on my channel and

I've even built my own course on habit

change, which I eventually shut down,

but more on that later. Over that time,

I've seen how the self-help industry has

completely exploded in popularity,

especially on YouTube. There are

thousands of channels teaching you how

to fix your business, improve your

relationships, master your finances, or

unlock your inner masculine energy. If

you're not ripped, if you're not rich,

if you ain't rare, if you don't stand

out, if you ain't across the board

successful, it doesn't mean to me.

>> At their best, people share their ideas

honestly and from a genuine desire to

help others. On the other hand, you have

those driven primarily by personal gain.

This is where you find most self-help

grifters. A self-help grifter is someone

who promises transformation, purpose, or

success, but whose real skill lies in

manipulation. They rely on unethical

marketing tactics and misleading

communication, not to make a difference,

but to grow their influence and line

their pockets. It's hard to know

someone's true intentions, but we can

look at their actions. So rather than

attacking someone's character or style,

I want to focus on the core principles

that help people rise to the ranks of

self-help guru and more importantly how

those principles can be twisted in

deceptive ways to build fame and wealth.

The first and most foundational among

them building a strong parasocial bond

with your followers. This isn't a new

idea. Psychologists have been studying

this for decades. In his classic book,

Influence, Robert Chaldini calls it the

liking principle, and it's one of the

most powerful tools in persuasion. When

we like someone, we instinctively trust

them more. And that's exactly why so

many self-help gurus put so much effort

into being relatable, charming, or

funny. Because once you like them,

influencing you becomes much easier.

>> Wow, there's so much choice. How does

anyone decide what has to be?

>> But here's the catch. This is a one-way

relationship. In a parasocial

relationship, the audience member feels

like they personally know the creator

because of the intimacy of the content.

Eye contact with the camera, direct

address, personal stories,

behindthe-scene glimpses, but the

creator doesn't really know them at all.

Sure, they might read some comments or

shake a few hands at an event, but they

don't really know the millions of people

watching their videos.

>> Logically, we know that Taylor Swift has

50 million Twitter followers and that in

all likelihood, she is not talking

directly to us. We know that we don't

have real two-sided relationships and

yet sometimes it feels like we do.

>> Take one of the biggest self-help

podcasters in the world, Mel Robbins.

Journalist Scott Carney, who spent years

investigating the self-help industry,

has talked about how Robins uses

parasocial bonding to make viewers feel

an emotional closeness to her. Mel

Robbins has never met you. She has no

real relationship with you. And yet

there's a certain genius as to how she

makes her audience believe that she's

actually their friend.

>> It is always an honor to spend time with

you. I'm so glad that you're here with

me right now. I want to say it's always

such an honor to spend time and to be

together with you. Here's what I know

about you. I know you're the type of

person you value your time. You're the

kind of person who values information

that can help you take control of your

health. I know you're the kind of person

who values showing up for yourself. It

is the perfect thing for you to listen

to at this exact moment in time and you

will feel better. I mean, just imagine

that future. I can see that for you. And

in case no one else tells you today, I

wanted to tell you I love you that I

love you. I love you. I love you for

listening to this and I believe in you

and I believe in you and I'm proud of

you for hitting play on this episode.

What you're hearing today is meant just

for you. Whether you love Mel Robbins or

not, it's worth thinking about this type

of communication closely. If you've

never spoken directly to camera before

like this, you might not realize how

strange it actually is. As someone who

does this for a living, I can tell you

it is not natural. So, I know it's easy

to forget when you're watching a video,

but this is what I'm looking at when I'm

actually filming a video. There's no

humans here. So, let's see if I can

channel my inner Mel Robbins. If you're

watching this, I want you to know that I

love you. I love the person you are. I

love the person you're becoming. So,

make sure that you share this with your

friends so they too can feel that love.

And so we can grow our engagement

numbers, increase ad revenue, and maybe

even turn this into a book deal. I

wasn't feeling that one, guys. Let's

let's do that one more time. If you're

watching this, I want you to know that I

love you. I think there are two ways to

interpret this kind of communication.

The generous view is that people are

trying to help their viewers feel seen

and supported. It's their way of

spreading compassion and using language

to lift people up. The less generous

view is that it's a strategy. Much

similar to how AI uses flattery to win

you over. This type of messaging is a

way to build affection and loyalty. We

can't know people's true intentions. But

speaking as a creator myself, I find the

style of communication to be

disingenuous. While I'm sure I've

slipped into this kind of language at

times, it's something that I'm much more

mindful of and actively try to avoid.

While the communication itself might

feel genuine, it's really just a

performance into a camera in an empty

room. You know, I wasn't really feeling

that one. Let's do that one more time.

If you want to understand why some

people build massive followings, even

when their ideas are questionable, you

have to understand the power of

authority. Much like likability,

authority changes how we listen. It

shapes how much weight we give to

someone's words, how skeptical we are of

their claims, and how quickly we accept

what they say as truth. If someone looks

the part, sounds the part, or signals

expertise in just the right way, we're

far more likely to trust them, often

without even realizing it. It's the same

reason someone in a high viz vest with a

clipboard can stroll past security

without an ID. We're wired to look for

signals that help us make quick

decisions about who to trust. Titles,

credentials, uniforms, these all act as

shortcuts that save us time and mental

effort. And while some people are

genuine authorities in their fields,

others stretch or exaggerate their

qualifications to appear more credible

than they really are. Take Dr. Joe

Despensza. He talks extensively about

neuroscience and quantum physics. So you

might assume that his doctor title is in

one of those fields. It's not. His

doctorate is in chiropractic care. Sure,

you can technically put doctor in front

of your name, but that's not the same

thing as holding a PhD or an MD. It's

possible that Dispensza's title just

carried over from his previous training

as a chiropractor, but you can't deny

that it helps him look more legitimate

when he's technically as qualified to

talk about quantum physics as your

dentist. Another big name in the

self-help world is Mr. Green Eyes.

Sorry, that's Dr. Green Eyes. J Shetty

Shetty first exploded on Facebook where

he has over 30 million followers. He's

since built massive audiences on

Instagram and Tik Tok as well. And if

you've watched his content, you know the

vibe. earnest, dramatic, very serious.

>> Forgive yourself for letting someone

make you feel like you were easy to let

go. Forgive yourself for making them

number one when you were just a second

thought. Forgive yourself for helping

them heal when all they did was hurt

you.

>> Forgive me. No, don't do it, Matt. Don't

do it. I promised myself that I wouldn't

make any personal attacks, and I I'm not

going to do it. Jay, he's not my cup of

tea. But putting aside personal

preferences, he has been criticized for

very legitimate reasons, including

rampant plagiarism early in his career.

>> It's not like he reposted somebody

else's meme. He crops their name out and

puts in J Shetty. That's stealing.

>> See, the challenge is that we're meant

to love people and use things, but today

we use people and love things. We spend

more times holding our phones than we

hold each other. When you're young, you

say, "I love you because I need you."

when you grow up, you realize I need you

because I love you.

>> But it wasn't just the plagiarism that

raised concerns. His entire backstory,

the foundation of his authority itself

in the self-help space, has also been

called into question. One of the biggest

pillars of Shett's brand is his origin

story. A story he's told many times in

podcast, books, and interviews. He

describes being a business student

destined for corporate life until one

transformative lecture from a monk

changed everything. It was the most

captivating presentation I've ever been

to. And he spoke about selflessness and

service and kindness and it just got me

hooked.

>> He left behind the material world, moved

to India and returned with timeless

wisdom. It's a compelling narrative. We

have warm, fuzzy, almost romantic

associations with monks, humility,

wisdom, and discipline. We love this

idea of someone abandoning a comfortable

western life for spiritual

enlightenment. But according to an

investigation by John McDerman of the

Guardian, there are several

inconsistencies with his timeline.

>> Jay never misses an opportunity to

remind people that he was a monk for 3

years. And typically when he describes

this, he says, "I was a monk in India

and I traveled around a little bit

across Europe."

>> Decided to turn down my corporate job

offers and go and live as a monk in

India for 3 years. So I looked into it

and I found ample evidence that he was

actually stationed in Watford, which is

a city just outside of London for the

vast majority of the time that he was a

monk, and that he had been in India for

just a few months.

>> Some people might think it's perfectly

acceptable for someone to embellish

their story, to remove facts, or to

smooth out timelines for the sake of a

tight 5-minute television appearance.

But there's clear benefits that gurus

get when they bend their experience to

create this kind of authority. As we

climb further up the self-help ladder,

we reach one of the most powerful forces

in the guru playbook, the halo effect.

Many gurus start out in one specific

niche, psychology, fitness, business,

nutrition. This may or may not be an

area where they have real experience,

expertise, or qualifications. But as

their audience grows, that niche can

start to feel limiting. So they broaden

their scope. They do this with the halo

effect. The halo effect is a well

doumented cognitive bias where you

actually you know what let me hand this

one over to Jay. We ascribe certain

qualities to someone based on something

we like about them. So if we find

someone attractive we say they must be

trustworthy. If we think someone's good

at talking or we enjoy the way they

speak we're like they must be organized.

If someone has a good job or dresses

well we say oh they must be driven and

focused. So, we start giving them

qualities that they haven't actually

showed us they have, and we set

ourselves up for failure because we're

hoping for them to have more than

they've actually told us they have or

shown us they have.

>> Yeah, it's so fascinating.

>> It's why Dr. Mike Israel can move from

fitness advice to political commentary,

or how Jordan Peterson can start out as

a psychology professor at the University

of Toronto, then expand into areas like

climate science, culture wars, and

political identity. To be clear, I don't

think you have to hold a degree to speak

on a topic. That would be ridiculous.

But we should be wary of how easily

confidence can distort how we interpret

a message. Popular family physician and

content creator Dr. Mike, a different

Dr. Mike than I previously mentioned

calls this the epidemic of the I know it

all expert and he argues that our

collective discomfort with uncertainty

is exactly what allows bad actors to

thrive. There are too many of these

experts out there claiming to have all

of the answers when the rest of the

scientific community has questions.

Now, this may surprise you, but you and

I are both partially,

if not more so, to blame for this

epidemic. When someone says to us they

don't know, we're quick to judge. We're

quick to dismiss. The irony, as Dr. Mike

points out, is that the real experts,

the people worth listening to, are

usually the ones most aware of how much

they don't know. They're cautious.

They're humble. and they understand that

science and self-improvement are built

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level up in the self-help guru playbook

is reciprocity. Reciprocity is a basic

human instinct. It runs so deep in us

that we often don't notice how much it

shapes who we trust and how we behave.

Sometimes it's genuine and

unintentional. Other times it's a

deliberate strategy designed to win you

over. Psychologist Robert Charaldini has

written about how the Hari Krishna

devotees canvased in public areas. At

first, people rarely donated to them.

Many distrusted them or disliked their

presence. To change that, the group

adopted a new strategy. They gave out

small gifts first, often a flower or a

small book. We'd like you to have this

flower from the Religious Consciousness

Church. Would you care to make a

donation?

>> No, but thank you anyway.

>> When the person tried to refuse or give

it back, the Christian member would

insist, "No, this is a gift. It's yours

to keep." Only after that would they ask

for a donation. Because of this human

impulse towards reciprocity, the feeling

that one must return kindness, many

people felt obliged to donate, even when

they didn't really want to. Self-help

gurus, content creators, and influencers

use this principle in several ways. They

constantly remind you that they give

away 99% of their content for free,

framing it as a gift rather than a

source of ad revenue or brand building.

It's a simple way you can support me and

the team. It's a way you can support us

in bringing you worldclass experts every

single day for free.

>> They offer free resources or guides in

exchange for your email, which they

later use to sell you a course. In this

100% free training, I'm going to walk

you through the entire process. They

host free webinars that end in a limited

time upsell.

>> Webinars are one of the most valuable

things you can do to build your audience

and to monetize that audience. We made

$1.4 million in 92 minutes. And then we

made another 5.2 $2 million two weeks

later because of the product we offer. I

mean, the politicians can't even steal

that much money.

>> None of these strategies are inherently

unethical. Lead magnets, the free

resources you get in exchange for an

email, are everywhere. I even use them

myself, and so do many of the creators I

genuinely respect. What matters is

understanding that very little online is

truly free. When you hand over your

email, you're likely signing up for a

future sales pitch. That's not

necessarily bad. That's marketing. The

problem is when these tactics are pushed

too far, funneling people into high

pressure or predatory sales

environments. I'll talk about that a

little bit more in the next section.

Beyond these sales tactics, there's a

deeper, often unspoken version of

reciprocity at play. You scratch my

back, I'll scratch yours.

>> You and I have been friends for a long

time,

>> and we are extremely supportive and fond

of one another. Our spouses know each

other.

>> There's an unspoken rule in the

self-help world. Don't call out other

gurus. Don't ask hard questions. Don't

rock the boat. Mark Manson, author of

The Subtle Art of Not Giving [ __ ]

learned this lesson firsthand. After

building one of the most popular

self-help podcasts in the world with

over 30 million downloads, he eventually

decided to quit the interview format

altogether. Here's his explanation. I've

been in this industry for almost 20

years now. Probably the reason that most

of you even give a [ __ ] that I'm talking

right now is I try to be

independent-minded. I try to say things

that maybe need to be said and nobody

else is really saying in the classic

podcast format of bringing on kind of

star intellectual guests and thought

leaders. I felt completely hamstrung to

be able to do that. It really sucks to

have a notable guest come on the show

and start saying something that I

actually kind of don't agree with or I'm

like familiar with the research they're

talking about, but I don't think the

research is very good. And it puts me in

a really tough spot of like, okay, do I

start challenging this guest and

potentially creating like a big argument

or a debate on the show, potentially

alienating the guests, fans of the

guest, alienating the guests themselves,

making sure that they're never going to

come back to the show. Do I put myself

in a position where I'm like suddenly

like I I didn't prep for a debate coming

into this episode, but now like suddenly

I'm having to put myself in a headsp

space of of being willing to argue and

debate a really smart person. It was

just not fun for me. It felt like a

no-win situation.

>> Reciprocity is a powerful, often

invisible force. It shapes how we view

others. It often prevents us from

challenging people. And it's probably

the reason why it took me so long to

make this video. We've ascended to the

highest levels of the self-help guru

racket. There's just one more level.

It's time to cash in. You can't talk

about self-help grifting without talking

about money. Because while the fame and

attention might feel nice, this isn't a

charity. When it comes to turning a

profit in the self-help world, it

usually starts with sponsorships. I've

come to see sponsorships as a sort of

necessary annoyance in modern content

creation. As someone who started out

with an ad-free model, I didn't do a

single sponsorship until I had nearly

100 million views on YouTube. And I can

tell you from experience that the

fanfunded approach isn't a very

effective way to monetize your creative

work. Others, like Tim Ferrris, have

discovered similar results. People just

don't want to donate to every creator

they follow, and they're perfectly happy

to sit through ads in return for

content. So, my argument isn't that

sponsorships are bad, which might be

obvious since I included one in this

video. My argument is that creators have

to be very careful about the brands they

choose to endorse, especially when

they're trusted voices in areas like

finance, health, and wellness. But for

many, it's easy to turn a blind eye when

the price gets high enough. One of the

most ubiquitous sponsors on YouTube and

in podcasting is AG1 by Athletic Greens.

You've probably seen it promoted by

science communicators, longevity

experts, and podcast hosts alike.

>> AG1 by Athletic Greens brings 75

vitamins, minerals, whole food sourced

ingredients, probiotics, and adaptogens

together in one place. It might just be

the most comprehensive and convenient

nutritional regimen on the planet. There

are enough videos on YouTube talking

about the problems with AG1, so I'm not

going to get stuck in the weeds here,

but I'll quickly summarize a few of the

key issues people have with it. AG1's

proprietary blend hides weak ingredient

dosages.

>> The first five ingredients make up 10 g

of the 12 g serving, leaving a maximum

of 2 g for everything else.

>> The bold health claims aren't supported

by strong evidence. Calling, for

example, Athletic Greens a high quality

greens powder is a little misleading. I

think it's more of a multivitamin. In

fact, I'm not impressed with AG1 being

anything more than a multivitamin. It's

a poor substitute for real nutrition.

>> This is no way going to be superior to

consuming fruits and vegetables.

>> And it's overpriced, meaning you're

basically just paying for their

marketing expenses.

>> This was $99. Probably 50 of that went

to different people to put it on their

podcast and say how amazing it is. I

even found a Forbes article. It even

says at the top up here, sponsored

article. You scroll down, buy it now.

They're getting commission. Everyone's

getting kicked back. Everyone that's

talking about this product is getting

paid to talk about it.

>> My biggest problem with experts

promoting this product and products like

it is that their credibility gives it a

level of legitimacy it hasn't earned.

When someone who claims to be an expert

in nutrition or fitness says that they

take AG1 every morning, most listeners

assume that they're making the claim

from authority, not because they got

paid to say it. I think most people

watching this would find it hard to turn

down the kind of money AG1 pays out. Dr.

Andrea Love cited an anonymous source

claiming that Andrew Huberman makes an

estimated $40 million from AG1 alone.

>> Simply put, I always feel better when I

take AG1.

>> So, yeah, hard money to turn down, but

it's worth remembering that the people

that are making that kind of money are

already making millions and millions of

dollars anyway. So, you have to ask

yourself, is it really worth it to risk

your reputation? Now, for many gurus,

sponsorships are just the warm-up. The

real money isn't in selling ads, but in

selling their own digital products.

Courses, masterminds, mentorship

programs, and high ticket retreats are

where the industry truly cashes in.

>> It's never just I'm a guru. It's always

now I have something to sell you. And

while there's nothing inherently wrong

with selling education or creating paid

products, this is often where things

start to blur. where genuine teaching

crosses over into exploitation.

>> Look at these guys. Look at these guys.

These guys are spending three days with

me. These guys pay $12,000 each to sit

in that chair. 3 days. I got to look at

their ugly faces.

>> But wait, Matt, didn't you sell a

self-help course, you hypocrite? Yes, in

fact, I did. A few years ago, I launched

my very own self-help course called

Simple Habits. Before we begin, I'd like

to give you some background about myself

and how I came to teach a course on

habit change. I'm not a trained

scientist and I don't have a PhD in my

title, but I am a little bit obsessed

with change. At the time, it felt like a

natural step. I was making videos about

self-improvement, so why not create a

full course to help people build better

habits from scratch. I priced it at $145

and adjusted the cost based on

purchasing power. So, for example,

Zimbabwe paid just $36 for the course.

The course was live for a couple years.

I invested heavily in updates. And I

even hired this awesome guy, Pete, who's

a behavioral scientist, to audit it and

make sure everything was backed by the

latest science. But eventually, I

decided to shut it down and offer it for

free for anyone who asked. I think I did

my best to sell this course with honesty

and integrity. I was transparent about

my background, careful not to

overpromise, and I kept the price

accessible. But even with that, I never

loved the feeling of selling a self-help

course. to market something like this,

it's almost impossible not to lean into

the expert role, to position yourself as

the person with all the answers. And

that just made me feel very

uncomfortable because that's something I

never really liked doing on this

channel. That's why I always leaned into

habit experiments and teaching uh from

kind of my own failures and mistakes and

and the things that I've personally

learned, not speaking objectively about

every topic I talked about. I think that

the more that you lean into that guru

mode, that expert mode, the more it

becomes tempting to tap into people's

insecurities and fears. Other people

don't really have a problem with it,

though.

>> At the heart of every coaching journey

is a dream for change,

>> a search for meaning, a search for

purpose, a search for who we will

become. But without the right guidance,

>> these goals can feel out of reach,

>> leaving us feeling lost,

>> stuck, struggling to find a clear path

forward,

>> yearning for something more. True

transformation

>> personally, professionally, globally

never happens alone.

>> And it all starts

>> with $7,000. J. Shetty certification

school to help you become a life coach

costs $7,000, which honestly feels a

little bit steep for somebody who's a

monk who built his brand on the idea of

serving others. But the price tag wasn't

the only thing that raised eyebrows. The

program supposed credentials turned out

to be just as questionable. The Jshedy

certification school claimed that it was

affiliated with four different

universities in the UK and essentially

said that by completing the J Shetty

certification school, it would put you

on track to receive a master's degree at

these universities. By becoming a J

Shetty certified coach, you will gain

coaching and business skills, accredited

certification, pathway to the individual

coach accreditation, marketing support

from my platform and a supportive

network of coaches and students.

>> I contacted all the universities very

clear, you know, very straightforwardly

asked them, what is your affiliation

with this program? What is the nature of

the relationship? Can you explain to me?

All of them said, we have no idea what

the J Shetty certification school is. We

have no idea why we are listed on their

marketing materials and we want our

names taken off.

>> Here's where everything comes full

circle because one of the most powerful

tools gurus use to sell their courses is

the parasocial bond they've already

established. Their teams are trained to

leverage that emotional connection to

get you across the finish line and hit

purchase.

>> You need to get this in the call. Hey,

I'm calling because Mr. Cardone wants me

to give you something.

>> Okay.

>> Okay. What What's he want What's he want

to give me? He wants to give you a pro.

He's created a sales tool that can

increase sales 15 to 40%.

>> Private DMs from J Shett's team to an

interested student show how this works.

His sales reps messaged potential

students directly from his account,

personalizing their pitches and

repeatedly named dropping Jay to

reinforce that connection. Let me let me

let me read some of these. Today, Jay is

looking for a few more students to work

with us. Is it okay if I ask you a

couple questions from Jay to help us

work out if you're a good fit for Jay's

case study? Jay can't wait to help you

with that over the next 49 days,

especially with Jay and our team keeping

you accountable on our live calls. He

filmed a short six-inute video for you

with all the details. Wow, that's

amazing that he took the time to record

a 6-minute video just for this person. I

love the surprise he has for you at the

end. Hey again, Jay wanted to know if

there was something he did a bad job of

breaking down. Oh my god. So, this is

this is crazy. Okay, a good number of

Jay students are joining because of CO

19. In their opinion, they have no idea

how long this crisis will last. So they

believe that an extra source of online

income is the safest bet for the safety

of them and their families. That's

[ __ ] crazy. They're using the

pandemic and the fear of the pandemic to

try to get people to to purchase the

course. Jay doesn't charge $100,000 like

college is because he's on a mission to

help people find their passion and turn

it into real income. Oh my god, Jay,

that's amazing. That's so generous that

you don't charge $100,000 for your

online course. That'sing crazy. If you

don't want to join Jay and our family,

that's totally okay. It's a family. Now,

this actually sounds like a cult. Here's

the thing that like is really upsetting

about this, right? Like you see these

kind of pushy persuasive sta sales

strategies. Um, using parasocial

bonding, uh, using that connection that

they have with this influential figure,

using fear to try to get somebody over

the edge. This person clarifies in the

DMs that they're making $20,000 a year.

like you're still pushing hard on

selling this person a $7,000 course when

they're making $20,000 US a year. I

would actively encourage this person not

to buy the product. If you don't have

the money, please don't buy this course.

Please don't. Come on. Can we just be

better? Can weing?

So, one question you might be having at

this point, especially if, like me, you

enjoy self-help content or even follow

some of the people that I talked about

in this video, is this. Even if their

tactics are questionable, isn't there

still a net good? It's a fair question.

Many of the most popular self-help

figures have millions of followers,

glowing testimonials, best-selling

books, and countless stories from people

whose lives have been improved. That's

real, and I don't want to dismiss the

positive impact some of their work has

had. But both things can be true at the

same time. They have helped people, and

they're also engaging in practices that

are manipulative or misleading. Because

many of these people are smart, in some

cases, brilliant. It's hard to accept

the idea that they just didn't know any

better. They know exactly what they're

doing. And at a certain point, the

motivation stops being about impact and

starts being about greed. More money,

more fame, more power. Because for many

of these figures, enough never seems to

be enough. And ego and influence often

go hand in hand. So yes, you can

appreciate the good things and the good

advice that these people have offered

up. And you can also hold them

accountable.

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