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I'm Colman Domingo, and
this is my last meal.
Every person has exactly
two things in common.
We all gotta eat and
we're all gonna die.
Today's guest is an actor,
writer, and director who's
been nominated for two Academy
Awards, and he's currently up
for an Emmy for his work in
the Four Seasons on Netflix.
If you saw him running around
naked at Harbin Hot Springs in
the nineties, no you didn't.
Colman Domingo,
welcome to the show.
That was me.
Yeah.
I like to run
around naked still.
I was gonna ask you if there
was a point where you realized
you may be too famous.
Um, probably now.
Well, you know, it's funny.
It just depends on what
you run around naked.
I, I love a nude beach.
Mm-hmm.
I love an Yeah.
But these days you
gotta be careful.
'cause now.
Everyone, there's a
cell phone everywhere.
I know, you know, not that I'm
ashamed of what I have, but
what's going on with all this.
But I feel like you just
want a little bit more,
um, privacy in that way.
So yeah.
You know, you might get cast
in a Marvel cinematic universe
or something and Exactly.
I don't know.
Maybe it'll up the chances
of me getting in the
Marvel Cinematic universe
by seeing my naked body.
So I might be nude by the
end of this interview.
That's incredible.
I love that so much.
Uh, have you thought about
your last meal before?
Not until this
opportunity came up.
The thing about my last
meal, I love food so much.
I have a robust appetite.
Yeah.
Which is, you know, but,
which is challenging because,
you know, I need to fit
into clothes for sure.
Events.
It was a great way to
really think about what,
what would be the last
thing you want to taste.
Yeah.
And for my, for me it's
always attached to a
memory in some way.
Of course.
So I feel like
it's gotta be home.
Yeah.
A, a meal like that,
that's the thing I would
want to eat as I, um,
leave this, uh, plane.
How often do you think
about death in general?
It's funny 'cause I even
just had a recent experience
where I. I, I did a,
a skydiving adventure.
I won't tell anybody who or
where or where I did it, but
I had a skydiving adventure.
And the funny thing is I
was very calm about it.
Mm. I literally thought
this, 'cause I thought,
well, God, I say something
before I jump out of a plane,
which is, I said, you know,
I said, I'm very happy.
I'm very content.
My life is good.
I'm blessed to thank
you for it all.
God forbid anything.
Didn't happen.
Well, no, I had a
good life and take
care of my loved ones.
I literally said that
and I thought, but I
was like, let's go.
You know what I mean?
I'm like, let's go for it.
So I guess I literally
don't think about death.
That's a, you pre said your
last words just in case
before going skydiving naked.
That's incredible.
And then I'm
like, let's do it.
Exactly.
I guess, man, I don't know
what that says about me.
I feel like, listen,
I've experienced
death like everyone.
Mm-hmm.
And you know, just had people
I've losses in my life.
And I know that that's
inevitable and it's
gonna happen to everyone.
You don't know when
it's gonna happen.
But I do know that in the
present, you want to just be
as full of life and living
every moment to the fullest.
I know for sure, God forbid
anything happened to me
when I walked up this door.
Everyone in my life
would say, oh, Colman
lived his life fully.
Mm-hmm.
And I think life's
fuller with oysters.
Mm-hmm.
I think so.
You ready to eat?
I'm ready to eat.
Colman, for the first course
of your final meal, we
have a lovely refreshing
glass of mint lemonade.
Here we have the
hamachi crudo.
This is lightly cured
on a little bit of bu.
Then we have a yuzu ponzu.
We have a little bit of fresh
shallot oil, some serranos
micro herbs on top of that.
Then of course we have all
of the East coast oysters.
Uh, we have Lip Petit
Barra Schwab, that is out
of Prince Edward Island.
We have Island Creek oysters
out of Massachusetts, and
then Bo Sole from, uh,
new Brunswick in Canada.
Complete with, uh,
minion net, uh, little
bit of horse radish.
This is actually a crying
tiger cocktail sauce that
we've made a lot of fresh
Thai chilies in there.
I know you like it.
Spicy cocktail
sauce and hot sauce.
And then of course.
We have the Caesar salad.
I know you love the
version from the dal ray.
Mm-hmm.
And now the dal ray,
they do it tableside.
So, Colby.
Colby, my associate.
Come on.
Colby.
Oh, it's great.
He's gonna do the
fresh tableside.
Caesar.
This is his first
day on the job.
He's still training.
It's great.
Wonderful.
This is, first of
all, fantastic.
Uh, it's gotta be like that.
Look at that.
It's gotta be because you, you
just wanna know all the things
that's gone into it as well.
Yeah, yeah.
How it's made.
It's beautiful.
I prefer east coast oysters
because they're smaller.
There's sweeter and brier.
Do you think you could tell
the difference side by side
if there was like West you go?
Okay.
Yes.
Didn't mean didn't
mean to accuse.
No, because West Coast always,
oysters are always a little.
Larger and flatter.
Yeah, I think No, they are.
Yeah, they're for right.
Oh man, this is just perfect.
We're just gonna put
lemon all over everything.
I think you can tell a lot
of, a lot about a person
based on how they eat oysters.
Somebody who's a
little bit hesitant.
It's like, I don't know
if you know how to get
the most out of life.
Yeah.
You know, I think that
might be judgmental of me.
No, I think it's wonderfully
judgmental in a good way,
because I think that it's
amazing to me still, like I've
had some friends recently,
people who are like 50 years
old, and they're like, oh,
I've never had an oyster.
I'm like, wait, what?
You've even tried it.
You gotta at least try it.
I agree.
So, I mean,
this is fantastic.
That's crazy.
Look at that.
Good, good balance on there.
I see the anchovy.
Okay.
The garlic is good.
Good.
Not too heavy in the croutons.
I like that too.
Say one.
Mm-hmm.
When Josh, I'm not
gonna be asking you.
I kind of want it to be like
a freshly fallen, powdered
snow on top of there.
That's beautiful.
That that's what I mean.
That's good.
Cole, thank you so much.
And that Yes.
Fresh pepper.
Yes.
Absolutely.
Say what?
Thank you.
He knew.
Thank you so much because
I like a nice balance of it
all, you know what I mean?
Uh, and I know that.
You mentioned with your
oysters, you all drink a
glass of champagne, so we do
have a gift from the kitchen.
Oh my gosh, as well.
Didn't specify it.
What?
Oh, what now?
Who wouldn't like Dom?
Now everyone likes Dom.
Come on.
That's perfect.
This is great.
I'm gonna get some
of this Machi.
Get some of the crudo please.
Everything's gonna be
perfectly balanced too.
I like a little bit
of everything on here.
This is rude.
It's amazing.
How come?
Mm-hmm.
That's gentlemen taste.
Yes.
Thank you so much.
Cheers.
Cheers.
Thank you.
Colby.
Yes.
Cheers.
Absolutely cheer.
Thank you.
Cheers.
I'll leave the bottle behind.
I didn't bring
any cash to Tip.
This is quite lovely.
Thank you so much.
I wanna ask in these like self
birthday meals, these gifts
you were given to yourself,
drinking champagne, eating
oysters, you said you'd
like to reflect on life.
Did you have any big
epiphany moments that still
stick with you to this day?
I think you have to take in.
I dunno.
Maybe it's a, a recentering in
a way of like, understanding
what I actually sort
of been through, came
through, moved through,
and then the possibility of
where I'm possibly going.
Mm-hmm.
Of course, we don't
know what we're doing.
I feel like I've never been
one of those people that's
like, oh, you know, a five
year plan, 10 year plan, or
what I'm gonna do next year.
I actually have no idea.
I, I feel like it's a
bit more gray and open
so I can receive that.
Yeah.
Like even, even last
night, last night.
Was the most incredible
Crescent moon.
Did you see that last night?
I did not.
No.
I feel ashamed.
So I'm driving to my house
in Malibu, and suddenly,
as you're driving down
PCH, really it was like
just hanging in the sky.
It was a, a new moon
that was so beautiful.
And of course, me and
my husband, we did, we
were like, oh, we have to
send a, a prayer to it.
We have to like be open
to it and like see how
it's gonna affect us and
change us in some way.
What?
I don't know, but I
feel like it's always.
A moment of faith in some way.
Yeah.
Or like reflection, so.
I, I just find like that
there's magic everywhere.
You just gotta like grab it.
Yeah.
And so I feel like if it means
like champagne and oysters
and pontificating on the
future or the past, great.
Whatever's useful, that helps
you because you gotta have
something to look forward to.
Yeah.
And I think that's
what prayers and
wishes are as well too.
I love that.
Um, yeah, so it's like
you always gotta something
to look forward to.
It's almost kinda like finding
like sacredness everywhere
you look in a way, which I
think is a really great way
to sort of go through life.
This is the thing I know
for sure if I don't know
anything else, I do know
that you have to have a
connection to something.
Mm-hmm.
And it doesn't have to be
called God, but it could
be just nature or having
faith in people or things.
Yeah.
You know?
But I have a friend
who's very bogged down
by the ills of the world.
Yeah.
And she loves to send me
a message telling me what
she's thinking about.
We've had a nurturing
relationship where I have
to tell her, I say, you
know, I understand how
you feel, but you have
to think about how useful
is that feeling to feel.
Like that and let that
carry you through the day.
Mm-hmm.
Or do you wanna find the
small things and enjoyment
and what you can actually do?
I'm like, you can't take
care of, I'm like, I can't
take care of the ills of
the world, but what I can
do is have an effect on.
You know, these micro moments.
Yeah.
And hopefully that'll
affect some change.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I don't know why I'm telling
you this, but No, I think
it's really pertinent.
And also you're talking
about bringing so much
magic to people, which
you absolutely do.
Mm-hmm.
And also, you know,
you're nominated for an
Emmy for a comedy, which
is really incredible
because you're in a show.
The Four Seasons on
Netflix, go watch it.
It's really great.
But in Sing Sing, you
actually quote a famous
character, actor's Dying
words, where you say, dying
is easy, comedy is hard.
Mm-hmm.
You make it look really
easy in the Four Seasons.
Comedy is very hard.
In what way?
Because it was
kind of scientific.
Everyone I worked with in the
Four Seasons, they're like
mad scientists of comedy.
Yeah.
Tina Faye, the way she
would tell a story, she's
never trying to be funny.
She just has all the beats
and the timing and the pause.
It's, it's really
mathematical in a way.
Even when I was coming up in
the theater in San Francisco
years ago, we're talking
about early nineties, I was
doing a lot of Shakespeare.
And I played the clown and I
had to learn how to like land
some old dusty Shakespeare
jokes, colleague of mine,
Danny Shea, a wonderful
director and actor in San
Francisco would say, just
imagine if I'm telling a joke
and trying to land a joke.
If I'm telling a joke to
you, he's, he'd say, don't
tell the joke to that
person on stage with you.
Turn out they know the joke.
It's not funny to them, man.
Sometimes you just go like,
right, and then it lands, man.
So it's just math
instead of being right.
That doesn't get a laugh.
Sure.
It just turn out right.
That'll get the laugh.
So it's all you have to learn.
The math of it and
the numbers of it.
Yeah, so I think that
it's actually harder to
be honest than like drama.
I feel like drama, you
know, finding those moments
and beats and story and
character and all that stuff.
You can land it and get there.
But comedy for me,
honestly, I feel like my
comedy, I literally play
it quote unquote straight.
Yeah, I sort of like.
I'm the straight man when
it comes to, in the Four
Seasons with, uh, Marco Kani.
He's absolutely the fool.
Yeah, it's funny 'cause Mar
uh, Marco and I would talk
about this 'cause he hadn't
been, um, acting for like 15
years and so he would say,
I would just look at him
very much, very be Arthur,
very dry and deliver a line.
And, and then after
he says, are you okay?
I said, I'd say, yeah.
I said, but I can't play
into what you're doing.
I have to strike
a balance client.
The straight man is almost
like the voice of the audience
in a sense of reacting.
Absolutely.
With the perfect timing.
Think about this, be Arthur.
You think about
the Golden Girls.
Golden Girls, magnificent.
Anyone wants to learn
anything about comedy?
Just watch Golden Girls
over and over again.
They all know the rules
of like, okay, if Rose
is the fool right now I'm
just, I'm deadpan and just
taking this information.
Who is actually the straight
man in the, in the scenario?
There's always one.
I have a terrible thing
to tell you what, I've
never seen a single episode
of the Golden Girls.
I know Goldman and can
we gimme the check?
It's so incredible
to see like how.
You diagnose acting as like
watching an elite athlete,
like diagnose their own sport.
Mm-hmm.
And I know you've been doing
it for such a long time.
I wanna take you back to
the moment when you were
living with three other
people in a studio apartment,
in the Tenderloin in San
Francisco, Jesus Christ,
you were producing plays
in the basement of the
theater, rhinoceros Colman.
Yeah.
With the Afro Blues
Power Theater Collective
for 500 bucks a pop.
My god, you know everything.
And you did it.
That's incredible.
Yeah, man, I listen,
I, I started my career
in San Francisco.
I moved there to.
I think to my honestly,
more than to find myself.
Yeah.
I had a good friend, my friend
guy, he moved out to San
Francisco and he was like,
you gotta come out here.
You gotta come out here.
I was struggling in school.
I wasn't, I was struggling
'cause I was, you know,
paying for my education
and I was also working a
couple part-time jobs and
I was starting to fail
and I was like, okay, I'm
gonna take a beat, go out
to San Francisco, hang out
with guy and his friends.
And I can, my mother
was like, you can always
go back to school and
pick up your credits.
So I took a chance, moved
out there and there was,
there were three guys
living in a studio apartment
in the Tenderloin, which
is, uh, a little dicey.
Mm-hmm.
It still is a little
dicey, you know, you, you
know, ladies of the night
and, you know, hanging
out by your doorstep.
I got to know all of
them because I'm very
friendly and I took an
acting class in college.
But then when I, when I
moved to San Francisco, I
was like, I think I want
to, I like that feeling.
I'm gonna take some
acting courses.
I got a bartending job.
I began.
Not only becoming an
actor, I began living like
I would go to this place
called Har Hot Springs up.
Mm-hmm.
Not that I became a nudist,
but I was like, I want
to figure out my body
and my body in spaces.
Yeah.
And learning different
things about food.
I worked in.
Some fancy restaurants and
I learned more about food
and eating 'cause there's
so many seeds that were
planted back then in my early
twenties in San Francisco,
living with three guys
in the studio apartment
that really have helped me
become the person I am now.
Have more of a, uh, an
appreciation for food and,
and culture and design.
And I owe that all my early
twenties in San Francisco.
It's funny when you talk about
like food culture design, but
all, all that's just under the
umbrella of like truly living
through all these seasons
of your life where like you
were working at the craft
and you were living life.
I think that's what gives
all of this context,
that's what gives the,
the Dom Perignon context.
I don't know.
Are you like sort of
grateful for that?
In a way?
I'm, I'm very grateful that,
like, I feel like my, my
whole path and I've been a
working artist for 35 years.
Yeah.
But the entire time, wherever
I was, I was fully living even
at, let's say, I would say
even when I worked in New York
at a place called the 55 Bar.
I had shifts where I would
close the bar at four in
the morning, about one
o'clock in the morning.
I would invite my actor
friends to come over.
We'd make drinks, we'd
hang out, we'd do, so,
you know, I'd be doing
some writing, Hey, would
you like to read this?
Whatever.
But I was still, I was
making it all a part of.
The experience.
Yeah.
It wasn't just like, you know,
'cause I feel like sometimes
people like to parcel things
out and say, well either I'm
doing this or doing that.
And I feel like I've always
fused it all together.
Yeah.
I'm curious who gave you
that first initial spark to
actually have the confidence
to move out to San Francisco?
'cause I know you had an
acting teacher in college
and the one acting class you
took, your mother encouraged
you to take it and he said to
you, I think you have a gift.
And it sounds like those
words are really powerful.
I think it was the first time.
As I recall that someone ever
told me that that was my gift.
Yeah, because you
know, you're searching.
I mean, I, I first went to
Temple University and I was,
um, I think my major was
business administration.
Why?
Is because a girl in my class,
she was like, we're looking
at like, what is your major?
Whatcha gonna major in?
And she's said,
business administration.
I'm like, I guess that's
what I'm gonna major in.
I, I don't know roughly how I
end up in political science.
So, yeah, I get it.
You know what I mean?
You need to check
something on the paper.
You check something
off and then so you get
in, you're like, this
doesn't make any sense.
I don't have a business mind.
I'm terrible with numbers.
Mm-hmm.
I really only only took the
acting class because my mother
was, I was going through
classes that I could take
and she says, great, how many
credits do you have to take?
I'm like, 16 to 18, and she,
so I was getting up this soon.
She said, take
something just for fun.
For literally, I
was like, for fun.
Like my mother was
a a lot of fun.
I remember how much
fun you used to have.
When you were in the one
summer at the Society of
Playhouse and you did,
you did acting stuff.
I said, oh yeah, that was fun.
I did like that.
He said, you were,
you were really, you
have fun with that.
Take something like that.
So I saw acting 1 0 1.
So I took that class
and my teacher, Chris,
who passed away, I think
about a year ago, mm.
Chris Wolf, wonderful guy.
He pulled me aside one day.
This is after maybe about
two months into the class,
he says, Hey Colman, have
you ever thought about
acting as a profession?
And I thought, I, I don't
even know what that means.
Like who, who, who does that?
Yeah.
Like I didn't grow up going to
the theater, so I didn't know
I could have a theater career.
And people in television and
film, they live in Hollywood.
I don't know how you get
from Philadelphia to that.
Sure.
Or what that is, but
I thought that those
were special people.
He said, he said, no, I,
I'd be very curious if you
did pursue this, because I
really think you have a gift.
And really, that's why I think
I, I know teachers are that
powerful because I know that
changed my trajectory and so.
Because I took some other
matriculating classes
and I, I knew the Walnut
Street Theater School.
I looked up classes I
could take off campus.
'cause I was a very shy kid.
I didn't want anybody
to sort of like crush
this possibility.
Sure.
So I would go off campus and
take courses at night after
I was in school all day.
This one coach said You
should protect your art.
Like you a protected child.
You have to feed it, nurture
it, protect it at all costs
in order for it to grow.
It's incredible.
Which is why it's funny.
You.
Wow.
This is like a
therapy session.
So I'm like, oh my God.
That's why I do this.
You're a good therapist, man.
You're like, I'm like, I
don't go to therapy, but
apparently this is it.
I have a very
reasonable day rate.
I, I don't say I don't take
insurance, but I Colman you
said you were judgmental
about the Caesar salads.
Where does this rank?
I'm gonna have to
give it one more tape.
It's good.
Colby.
I would've, did you
put anchovy in this?
You did.
Maybe.
I like anchovy heavy.
Now I'm not gonna, I gotta
give you something to work on.
All right.
This is a good eight
and a half out of 10.
Colman for course number
two of your final meal.
We have the Don Julio
Margarita served straight
up with salt on the rim,
a little bit of dehydrated
lime as garnished there.
Then of course, we have these
six hour slow smoked ribs.
Now we got these from
blood SOS barbecue.
We got the candy dms
made in house, and then
of course the collard
greens cooked with pork
.
And then I wanted to
offer one more gift.
From the kitchen, we have
ow, some fried chicken wings.
Colman, I want, I want
to bring you back.
I'm that your blackest guest.
I just screamed.
That was like history.
That was my soul.
That was ancestors.
I wanna bring you back
to your ancestors.
Oh, I wanna bring
you back to your mom.
That's flipping fried
chicken with a full bra.
Yeah.
My mother would
flip fried chicken.
She would come home
on, on a Sunday.
It's a great memory.
I have a picture
of it, of her.
It was a hot summer day in
Philadelphia and she comes
in and she gets out of, you
know, we went to church and
she comes in and she gets in.
She's just in her bra and some
shorts and she has a fork.
And she's a little sweaty
and she got a little rag and
she's frying chicken, and
you hear the crackling and
she, oh, you go getting back,
turn it over, flip it over.
And she wanted it nice and
crispy and she always did
it with buttermilk and she
also did it with Crisco.
And also she also
kept the old Crisco.
In the can.
Yeah.
And it was, and then
all the other goodness
of the other meats and
all were at the bottom.
But then you would just
go in and scoop that
out and reuse that.
What do you do?
Throw away good Crisco?
Hell no.
But also this is just a plate
of like tradition and sex.
That's what I like.
Which part of this
is the sex to you?
I think the ribs.
Listen, I'm, I, I might
have to go in, so this
is, I'm jumping in
with you going on this.
If we're truly doing a
sexual style with the ribs,
Goldman, I gotta make sure
you gotta wear protection,
you know we're ready for sex.
Exactly.
Exactly, exactly.
First, we'll take a sip
of this and take a toast.
I love a good Cheers,
Don Julio Margarita.
Margaritas have become my
cocktail of choice because I
feel like you can't go wrong.
You're always at a
party with a margarita.
Yeah.
I think it's, it's become
the world's most, uh, popular
cocktail for a reason.
This is almost so rude.
I don't even know
where I wanna start.
I feel like I'm,
I'm taking your cue.
I'm already grabbing
at the ribs.
I'm like both.
I'm like, can I eat
both of in Devil fixed?
Right.
Let's see.
This is amazing fun.
We did, man.
Really did.
Maybe I'll die after this too.
What the hell am I
gonna drop this mom?
Your mother is the one that
always taught you to dream and
to be curious about the world.
Mm-hmm.
And you obviously see
that so much in the
way you tell stories.
How do you try and
honor that legacy?
Every day I've done a
thing where I not only
have a tattoo of her name
Edith, but my production
company is named Edith.
Mm-hmm.
I think it's important to
find ways to honor someone
who's no longer on this plane.
And I, I think I've
been doing it by keeping
their name in my mouth in
some way, shape or form.
Yeah.
Even my husband, his alias,
well, I don't wanna give away
his alias, but his first name
of his alias is one of our
dear friends who passed away.
Oh, wow.
So it keeps that
name moving around.
And so when you say
the name, I don't know.
It just, they, they
still feel alive.
And it's funny, I talk about
my mother a lot because
really she was my best friend
and she was really such a,
a kind, funny, warm person.
Loved to talk to.
Anybody.
And that was also like,
that was the thing
that my, my stepfather
would be annoyed with.
Like, she would go into a
market and he'd be sitting
there waiting for her to
come out of the market.
I, I was like,
what is she doing?
He'd be like, let's
go get your mother.
We go in there and my mother
has spoken to everybody.
She's having great
conversations.
Oh yeah, so wait, let tell
you how to take care of that.
You need to do this.
And she's talking
to the fish guy.
She's talking to the cashier.
She just made friends.
Everywhere.
Yeah.
And she would talk about me.
She was like, um,
oh, that's my son.
He's so smart.
He's going to tell
him about that.
My mom, I don't care.
Don't care.
Yeah.
And I realized that I've
become just like her.
We all have come
to, isn't an we.
At some point you become
just like your parent.
You're like, I'm that person.
I say hi to every single body.
Mm-hmm.
It takes me forever
to leave a party.
That's why I do a good
old Irish goodbye, because
otherwise I am that person
that will make sure I
connect with everybody.
Yeah.
You know?
I think that's such
a good trait to have.
You wrote a really beautiful
play called Wild with Happy.
Mm-hmm.
Where you see that, God,
you've done your research.
I, I thought it was really
fantastic and you, that
theme kind of comes up where
you have the aunt who she
just wants to sit and she
wants to visit with people,
and your mother passes
away in this play and she
wants to really sit and
connect with people on this.
As you know, your character
is somebody who just wants to.
Move on with things, and
that creates a lot of
central tension in that play.
How much of that was
based off of your real
life, or was that just a
story you wanted to tell?
I, I wrote this play Wild
with Happy in about 2012,
and it all started with
a, a couple inspirations.
One, I was, I wanted to write
about how people grieve.
Mm-hmm.
And because everyone says
that I lost both my parents
in 2006 and they were like,
my grieving process, they,
they appeared to have been
very healthy and then.
I got treated to a trip
to Disney World for the
first time by one of my
dear friends, an Rose who's
a, uh, Disney princess.
She had just become Princess
Tiana and she said, Hey,
I'm gonna take you that we
gotta go watch the fireworks.
We're walking
through Disney World.
And so she's just, she
literally says, oh my
God, look at everyone.
Everyone's just
wild with happy.
And I thought, what a.
They're wild with Abby.
They're just wild with Abby.
And then we sit and we
watch the fireworks display
and she's like, I really
want you to see this globe
comes down on the barge,
and then there's all these
lights and faces of people.
Then it opens up and then
fire comes out and Celine
Dion's playing and you're
overwhelmed by all of it.
And then suddenly I started
crying and she's crying.
The others were with
us, were all crying.
She's like, oh my
God, I believe you.
Did you believe?
I'm like, yeah, I
believe, I believe.
And I thought,
that's the play.
It's about getting
someone to believe again.
Yeah.
And so I wanted to
really sort of like
construct someone sort of.
The had traits that I
have, but to really invert
it in a way and make this
person a very sort of
like hardened human being.
And the whole arc of the of
the play is to get this person
to believe in something.
Again, if you're not gonna
believe in God or people
or humanity, maybe you'll
believe in Disney World.
Yeah.
Maybe you'll believe
in the Cinderella
Suite at Disney World.
And I'm glad you brought
that one up because it was
something, it keeps coming up.
Mm-hmm.
Because also it talks about my
relationship, my character's
relationship with faith.
And writing letters to
Oprah, which is what
my mother used to do.
So I put that into play.
Then my mother wrote letters
to Oprah and he's just
like, why are you writing?
She's not gonna do anything.
She's like, oh no,
she helps people.
And he's like, ah.
He's so disgruntled
by all of it.
Yeah.
And then the wildest thing is,
'cause that's really based on
real conversations with me and
my mother, the fact that Oprah
Winfrey and I are very close
now, so it makes me think
maybe my mother's letters
got through in some way.
I think.
I think they definitely did.
I think so.
And I think I do.
Believe that the world
is set up to do me
more good than harm.
I can't take care of
the ills of the world.
I can take care of things
around me, but I can
also have faith that
things are gonna be okay.
It seems like so much of
your career, like this
chicken, like this chicken,
I'll, I'll, I gotta
stop you happening, man.
This ain't no therapy session.
This is the last meal.
All right.
Gotta eat this
chicken buttery.
One of my favorite moments
of someone eating fried
chicken is in the movie
Cereal Mom by a John Waters.
Oh my God.
Yes.
I'm so sorry.
I forgot.
The wonder was, I thought,
now how are we gonna eat
fried chicken without,
you know, I'm gonna hot.
We got, we got a
second bottle too.
Just, just in case you want
something a little bit hotter,
but still pretty hotter.
Those are, um, moment in
Serial mom by, um, the
John Wood film where they
do a closeup of people
eating chicken and it's
the most disgusting thing
you've ever seen, but
it's, it's hilarious.
Mm-hmm.
That's what I thought
was happening.
Right.
Now, I wanna talk about
your bartending days.
Mm-hmm.
Over at 55 Bar.
You mentioned like cleaning
up, inviting friends in.
You had a, a friend named
Rodney that used to show up.
Mm-hmm.
You would help you clean the
bar till four in the morning
in exchange for a couple
bucks, maybe a free drink.
What did Rodney mean to you
and what'd you learn from him?
He, he was a, he was a
unhoused man who would come
in and just, uh, as you could
tell, he still wanted to earn.
Whatever donation
you gave him.
Yeah, so he put up the
chairs, he would sweep up.
We had this really incredible
moment where he came in and
I was playing this Donny
Hathaway, uh, album and I
was really going through it.
I was going through like, how
do I survive as an artist?
How do I take care of
both my parents, my both
my parents had illnesses
and um, he came in one day
when I was just, we were, I
was singing this one song.
Someday we'll All Be Free.
It started coming on
and really Donny's
wailing and then.
I start singing,
then I didn't know.
He starts singing.
So instead there's a trio.
There's three black men in
this space singing together.
And the song ended and we both
were very emotional and we
were both, I feel like I can
now that I'm thinking about.
We were both
silent for a while.
Eventually he left.
He say, all right,
Colman, thank you.
I said, thank
you, and we left.
And then I didn't
see him for a while.
And I thought, 'cause
he had all these health
issues and all, I thought
something happened to him.
I thought, oh God.
'cause it was a cold
winter and all that.
And then really it's like
cinematically, like spring
appeared and suddenly
somebody, uh, one of the door
guys was like, Hey Colman, I'm
bartending our regular shift.
And it was a busy, busy night.
And he says, Hey,
I'm, somebody wants
to see you outside.
And like, I'm really
busy right now.
I can't see anybody.
He said, no, I'm telling
you, you wanna see this?
I was like, hold on.
Second, I go out there and
then I look around like who?
Then I look down and Rodney's
in a wheelchair and he's
cleaned up and he looks
like a college professor.
He looks so beautiful,
and I was like, Rodney,
he was smiling and
he was like, oh man.
I went home to dc I re
reconnected with family.
I got my leg.
Apu hated all that stuff, but
I just want you to know that
I'm well and, and I wanted
to see you, and I was like.
Oh man.
And we, we hugged and yeah.
And literally that was
the last time I saw him.
I don't know what happened
to him or where he is now,
and I like to believe that
that moment was a, a, a bit
of catharsis for both of
us, or a prayer or something
we needed to do together to
help move through a moment.
I think it's really
fascinating that so many
people, especially in
this industry, right, in
entertainment, think that
the peak of success is to.
Get offset, go in a private
jet, go to their isolated
compound in Jackson Hole
or whatever, to reach these
levels of, you know, wealth,
which ultimately means
some sort of isolation.
Right?
Mm-hmm.
You know, how important
was it to you to actually
still be in communion with
people living in communities?
No, I live in a, a more
isolated area, but I think's
more for privacy, but.
I do know that I, I make
active choices to like
work out at a gym where
there's a lot of people,
it's not a private gym.
Mm-hmm.
I don't know how you can
possibly tell stories
about humanity and people
without being around people.
Mm-hmm.
I've witnessed that with
certain people who've
gained some success and
they're very isolated.
Mm-hmm.
And also, I don't want to.
I end up crazy or,
or weird, you know?
I feel like you haven't
joined a cult yet.
Now that you moved to Malibu.
I almost joined a
cult, Mexico City, but
that's another story.
That's who all these
people are outside.
I was wondering all the
matching outfits Colman had
seemed very, I thought they
were part of the Met Gala.
It was like, it was just
a group of nice people,
and then I was like, wait
a minute, this is weird.
I was like, what's
up with you guys?
Yeah, this is my
first encounter.
But as I did research and
found out more about them,
I'm like, oh, that's a cult.
I still feel like we
should join, but I,
after we'll get dessert
mulled over is physical.
It might be that fair.
Colman, for the final
course of your final
meal, we have a beautiful
bottle of Soarian wine.
Beautiful.
Nice syrupy, a little bit
of Flo, a little bit of
those honeysuckle notes.
Mm-hmm.
And then of course we have
these sticky toffee pudding.
Oh.
With a little bit of clotted
cream of vanilla ice cream.
Then we have the sweet
potato pie with the
butter pecan ice cream.
And then we did have one more.
Surprise for you.
What is that?
You did not get water.
Ice.
We got you.
Water.
Ice.
Because, 'cause
it's my last meal.
It's your last meal.
And I was watching Sing
Sing the other day, which
is a fantastic movie, but
there is a point where you
as Divine g Whitfield are
being asked to talk about
your perfect memory and you
say it's a hot summer day.
My mom gave me 25
cents to get the water.
Ice, and I thought
Divine G Whitfield is
not from Philadelphia.
He's from New York.
New York would call
this Italian ice.
You got it.
I thought this might be
a Colman Domingo memory.
It's a Colman Domingo memory
that was embedded in there.
You, you're really good.
Thank you.
Because that was, um,
my director, Greg Quitar
said, we want you, we're
gonna do an improv and
tell a personal story.
And so for us it was the
moment to actually bring
in instead of Divine G,
it was Colman right there.
Mm-hmm.
And it was like one of
my memories, which was
a cherry water rice.
It is very Philly and
you gotta say water.
Because that's what we say.
And we say water,
ice, water, ice.
I grew up heavy on the water.
Ice, yeah.
Water, water, ice, water, ice.
Mm-hmm.
All of it's beautiful.
It's like, it's given me
like very, very British here
and then very southern here.
Very Philly, very French.
That's me.
It truly is.
This the whole story.
This could have been
the entire last meal.
Mm-hmm.
And I grew up on my
mother's sweet potato pies.
Um, and everyone knows
how to make sweet potato
pies in my family.
Mm-hmm.
And I actually
will challenge my.
Sister right now that I make
the best sweet potato pies.
I figured it out.
I know the secret battle.
Me sis sis, come back.
Come on the show.
We got a full
kitchen right here.
Two of the official Domingo
family sweet potato pie
battles going down here.
Exactly.
When's the last time you've
been to Rita's Water?
Rice?
Last time I had a water
rice was about maybe about
three years ago, and I
went down to South Street.
I was like, we gotta, we gotta
get a water ice because it's
not a thing that we, we just
don't have that in California.
Mm-hmm.
No.
They've, Rita's tried
to franchise, but I
think they're, they're
doing California's like,
we're not having it.
Yeah.
A little bit.
Mm-hmm.
Mm. Which is perfect.
Okay.
Have that now.
Sweep it to the pie.
I'm gonna judge this because
I've, listen, I'm such a fan.
Something insane man.
You gotta have some
So turns with it too.
Wait.
With the butter
called ice cream.
That's amazing.
That's amazing.
Okay.
Sticky type pudding.
Sticky typey pudding.
You lived in London for
a fair amount of time.
Is that where this comes from?
I lived there for a year
and a half, um, when I was
doing a lot of theater there.
Huh.
I love that.
The two textures of cream.
Oh, there's so many different
temperatures going on.
Look at that.
That's very sexual, isn't it?
Look at that.
This is very se this is
an incredibly sexual meal.
And I'm gonna talk a little
bit about more about Sing
Sing because I love that
one of the theses of the
film seems to be that.
Like vulnerability
is really the key to
what makes us human.
Absolutely right.
And so much of the film,
it's like you're not seeing
these people as criminals.
You're not even
seeing them as men.
You're seeing them as
humans who thrive off
vulnerability, love, and
safety, just as anybody does.
What would you say to a
generation of young men
who frankly seems like
it's, uh, it's tough to
get through to them right
now about why people need
to be vulnerable when you
see these sort of like.
Very strong,
strong-willed men.
Incarcerated men doing work
to become vulnerable to, to
in telling us, you can just
view this and see that they're
saying, I need all of this to
be complete and to be human.
Yeah.
The fact that I didn't allow
myself to be vulnerable,
to be, um, to have all the
feelings is probably part of
what has landed me here and,
and made certain choices.
'cause I didn't, you know.
Whether developed empathy,
um, or having faith that I
can cry, that men can cry and
that men can hold each other.
Not everything has
to do with sexuality,
which is something that.
It's so deeply seated in,
in our culture mm-hmm.
When young men are being
raised to say like, oh, even
touch something about that.
Yeah.
Well, but also I, the idea,
this is the, the thing that I,
I, I've enjoyed about being a
part of Ang sing, the ideas of
like what touch means is like,
not everything is sexual.
Not everything is
masculine, feminine,
it's just being human.
Yeah.
That's all it is.
And what we're saying is
an examination and sing,
sing is saying these men
are putting that on the
line and saying it's not.
It.
It hasn't been key to my,
my humanity, my evolution.
I've gotta let that
part of myself go.
My tears are okay.
Me being vulnerable does
not say that I'm weak,
but also, it's okay to
be weak sometimes too.
Yeah.
Who said that being
weak is not a strength.
Yeah.
You know, because I feel like
you can only learn from it
and grow from it in some way.
So I think we're telling
young men to say, have
all those feelings.
I don't think I was a
necessarily effeminate
child, but I was very soft.
I was very skinny and, and,
and a nerd and all that
stuff, but I was never told
by my family that was wrong.
You know?
But they also knew that I was
very sensitive and I, I think
that I knew that that was.
That wasn't a
terrible thing for me.
I knew that it was okay to
be vulnerable and to have all
my feelings, you know, like
when I can come in and see
my mother at the dining room
table worried about bills,
and she'd be in tears and I
would go and hold her and we
hold each, you know, I'm like,
it's gonna be okay, mommy.
You know what I mean?
I feel like I know that there
was nothing wrong with that.
So I think I, I tell
young men these days, if
anyone's sort of like.
Watching me as like how I
navigate spaces, which is
like have all those feelings.
This is the thing that I love,
and this is a weird segue to
this, but it all makes sense.
I was walking in the streets
of Harlem about a month
ago doing a photo shoot,
and I'm wearing all this
stylish clothes as for a
magazine shoot and everything
walk through Harlem and
I, it was one of the most.
Moving days to me because I'm,
I'm there with all aspects
of society and community, and
the things that really struck
me the most is when I have
these strong brothers, you
know, just a yo bro, yo man,
yo, I'm so proud of you, man.
I love the way you represent.
I appreciate you.
Now, that's something I
never knew was afforded
me, that these guys would
think this sweet, weird,
skinny, vulnerable kid.
Was something to aspire to
and to say I'm proud of.
Yeah.
I, I'm glad that I've, I've
gone that road and I, I
I that road and I didn't
sort of try to subvert that
and become something else.
Sure.
So I become this hyper
masculine version of myself.
This, it's easy to do that.
That's easy.
I play that.
I play that stuff in,
in, in, in movies and tv.
I don't wanna be that.
Yeah.
I wanna be all the things
that I am, and I think I,
I want people to always,
I tell young, if you are
listening to me, young
people, liberate yourself.
Stay liberated.
With all your feelings,
because I think that, is
that the key to your, um.
To your heart, to
humanity and finding
your space in the world.
Mm-hmm.
It's funny when you say
like, it's easy to perform a
certain type of masculinity,
and I think you'd say it as
much in Sing Sing where you
say It's easy to play anger.
Absolutely.
It's harder to play
hurt, which is actually
what the anger is.
That's more complicated.
Much more complicated.
Because when people, I
mean people are like, I
mean, playing angry is the
the easiest thing to play.
Yeah.
You can play anger like that,
but it's more complicated
to deal with hurt or pain
because actually with hurt
or pain, if you call it
that, you're like, actually,
you hurt my feelings.
You can actually
grow from that.
Yeah.
If you're saying, I'm mad,
I'm angry, that doesn't
get you anywhere, then that
other person's gonna be
defensive and gonna be both
mad and angry together.
Yeah.
Unless you say, I'm hurt,
that really hurt me.
Then you Oh wow.
Okay.
Now there's more complicated
things to unpack.
Yeah.
It's actually more
interesting too.
Yeah.
And talking about growing
from hurt, if you take it
back to wild with happy,
there's a line where you
say death is a thief.
Uh, but with that thief
of life, we can grow
ourselves from it, which
I thought was like a
really beautiful way to.
To phrase that.
Hmm.
Is there anything about when
your mother passed away or
the process of writing that
play that you know, you felt
yourself really grow from
that, whether it was, you
know, viewing Oprah as a
benevolent deity because she
is, I think my most vulnerable
self is found in my writing.
Every character's me and
that line Death is a thief
that comes along, but you
can learn and grow from it.
And, 'cause I think
that's exactly what I did.
I had to, I lost both my
parents six months apart
from each other, and it was
like a thief in a night.
They came without any warning
and took, I've had one of
my dearest friends, Ari,
passed away a few years
ago and I was on the phone
with him like right before
he was going into hospice.
And I knew this was the
last time that we would
talk and I would see his
face and laugh and talk.
You know, I'm, you're
never ready for it, but
you're like, you know what?
If I can make it softer
and make it softer for you,
that's all we could do.
Yeah, because it's
going to happen.
It seems like that's been so
much of your life and career.
It's just been trying to,
one, protect the, um, protect
your baby, your art, but also
use that to make other people
feel seen in a lot of ways.
I, I believe what I do
is, um, service work.
Yeah.
I'm in service to
humanity to story.
To amplify and telling
someone else's story.
Even this in some way, shape
or form, I think, I don't know
if I'm completely conscious
of exactly like, oh, I want
to affect change or to,
I'm, I'm not that person.
Sure.
And feel like, oh, I'm
coming to be a superhero.
But I do believe that I'm
very conscious of my words
and words have power.
And I know that I wanna
tell a story and I want
someone to feel something.
So if I can enter spaces
and leave spaces and leave a
feeling, I think that's really
being human, that's doing the
work of service, whether it's
an as an artist or a speaker
or whatever, but like, yeah,
we have an opportunity to
change something a little bit.
Tell you one piece of magic
from Wild with Happy that
really stuck with me is
people don't realize the very.
Physical and almost
bureaucratic nature of
death of you need to go to
a funeral home and they will
try and upsell you a coffin.
Mm-hmm.
And my dad, that's the common.
Mm-hmm.
And it was like
blindingly funny.
My dad before he passed, he
went in for surgery when I
was 19 years old and there's
a pretty low shot that, you
know, he wouldn't come out
of it, but he, you know,
had his last rights and all
that and estate figured out.
And, um, he went to the
funeral home himself.
And got the lowest quote
he could at $1,200 and made
the guy sign a thing and
then he gave it to us as
he was going to surgery.
He says, do not pay
a cent more if I die.
Don't pay a cent
more than $1,200.
And then we go to this
funeral home and they go.
You know, our cheapest
package is $1,800.
And I go, Hey, uh, my dead
dad said you told him 1200.
And the guy was
like, ah, shit.
All right.
1200. And it's just
the funniest is so how
your dad stuck it to
the Oh, he really did.
I remember when my mother
passed away and we, you
know, me and my brother and
sisters, my two brothers and
sisters were at our apartment
and we cleaned it out and
everything and it was my
sister's job to hire the um.
Van to remove things we're
like, oh, where's this van?
And she said, you
know, they're coming,
they're coming.
You know, I'm just, I called,
I, I don't know what kind
of van it is, whatever.
And we're like, oh, you
know, it was like, get
mommy's precious things
and separated out.
And then, um, a wise potato
chip truck pulled up.
I like, why is that
truck pulling in here?
And like, ugh.
Mom, these precious things
are being taken away
in a wise potato chip.
And then we all
started laughing.
We're like, why
did you do that?
I don't know.
I got this.
I got them off Craigslist.
I don't know.
Will you please?
So we were laughing so hard.
The local Philly company.
Yeah.
So we could not stop laughing.
We're like, wow, that's that.
That's not the way.
I think my mother imagined
her precious things being
carted away, but we thought it
was funny and we thought she
would get a kick out of this.
Yeah, exactly.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Mm-hmm.
Well, what do you think
happens after you die?
Or what do you hope happens?
I hope that people will
just remember me and
how I made them feel.
I feel like this should
be a huge dance party on
my behalf, but like dance
parties like around the world,
like dancing, celebration,
ribs, sweet potato pie,
stuff like that, I feel
like people, I would want
people to just like remember.
Remember me and
have a good time.
We'll be happy to
cater your funeral.
That's exact.
Wow.
That's dark.
It got really dark.
I didn't know where.
Sorry.
I I thought it was a
very light happening.
I thought you, you're
trying to book a offer.
I thought it was actually
an surface right now.
My good right.
Do I die now?
Is that what happens?
Uh, I don't know, but I, I
hope, like, I, like, like
I've done with my mother
and her memory is that
someone speaks about me
lovingly over and over again.
Talk tells great stories.
I think you're definitely
gonna have a lot of people
telling those stories.
Your stories have impacted me.
So, so, so much, and
this has been a truly
incredible last meal.
Are you ready to go on
the lightning round?
Absolutely.
Who's the one person
dead or alive?
You'd want to share
your actual last
meal with My husband.
Raul, what song do you want
to be played at your funeral?
Uh, Diana Ross.
Remember me?
You're one of the most
fashionable men alive.
If you could give me one
fashion tip to change my
life, what would it be?
You saw the whole fit.
You saw it out there.
You can't see my pants.
It, it was, it was good.
First of all, it was, I, I
judge you very quickly and
I was like, he did good.
He did.
He put himself together.
Look at it.
You know what, what
the, the tip I would
give you right now.
Please take one button down.
I thought about it.
I thought about it, but
then can you see the mic?
Oh yeah, but that's fine.
Give, give the mic some love.
But you know what it is,
because you know, for me the
difference between that and
that is to feel effortlessly
luxurious and to always
feel relaxed and listen,
I have this conversation
with my publicist, Anique.
Every time she sees me, she
will put one button up in
my, and somebody must have
talked to Anique, because
this only goes in here.
So they put a,
I can't Alex li.
This never would've happened
at Har and Hot Springs, man.
Come on.
Who's your dream
eulogize at your funeral?
Dead or alive?
Dead or alive, it
would be Maya Angelou.
Maya Angelou.
I mean you, when you,
Colman was such a
wonderful human being.
I would've loved that.
That would be great.
I wanna, I think Eagle's
gonna repeat his Super
Bowl champions this year.
Yeah, baby.
That's what I'm
talking about, bro.
Bro, come on.
Go.
Come on, go get
your, we're broke.
Don't grease that pole.
I'm climbing it anyways.
Oh, up on Twisted Tee.
Out on South Street, bro.
Oh God.
We gotta grease
those poles again.
It's just really, what's
your biggest fear?
I think to be alone at the
end of my life, to be alone.
I would not want that.
I don't think you're
in any current danger
of being that so.
Who's one actor you'd
love to direct that you
haven't worked with yet?
I would like to see what it's
like to direct Robert De Niro.
I would like that.
I would love to see that too.
I like that I'm watching.
Mm-hmm.
What's your greatest
regret in life?
I didn't go to my junior
prom because I felt too
awkward to go, you know
what we have to do now?
I would go and I was
stunned like a mother.
Finally, Colman,
are you happy?
I am.
Wild with happy.
I'm wild with happy as well.
Truly.
Thank you so much you,
this was incredible,
an absolute treat.
If you wanna deliver your
last words to that camera
right there, my last words
have a. Good time, and I'm
having a bleep good time
giving up for calling Domingo.
Everyone watch Four
Seasons on Netflix.
Truly, so much
comedy, so much heart.
You're fantastic.
I hope you win the Emmy.
I'll vote for you or I'll
go intimidate the other
judges into voting for you.
Whatever works.
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