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- Here are six things you probably need to hear. 00:00
Number one, nobody is on their way. 00:02
This is something that everybody has to realize 00:05
at some point in their life, 00:08
and some people realize it when it's far too late, 00:09
and that is that nobody is on their way to save you. 00:12
A lot of people sit around 00:16
waiting for someone or something 00:18
to come and save them from whatever their situation is. 00:20
They hope to win the lottery. 00:23
They hope that when they get a girlfriend 00:25
that will motivate them 00:27
to be the person that they want to be. 00:28
You know, maybe you'll land the perfect job. 00:29
Out of thin air, 00:32
your best friend will come knocking on your front door. 00:33
Three friends, even. 00:35
An entire social group will just knock on your front door, 00:36
and all of a sudden you have friends. 00:39
But nobody's on their way. 00:41
Nobody is currently on their way 00:42
to save you from a life that you don't like 00:44
because it's nobody's job to. 00:47
Sometimes people do come along 00:49
and they do have a positive influence on your life, 00:51
but you can't wait around for these people. 00:54
But this realization is also a blessing 00:56
because you don't have to wait for anybody anymore. 00:59
You don't need permission to change your life. 01:01
Since you're the only one who can change things 01:04
and get the ball rolling in your life, 01:06
you can start now. 01:08
Number two, guard your eyes. 01:10
The eyes are the window to the soul. 01:12
They're also the things that people put things in front of 01:14
when they want to hypnotize you, 01:17
when they want to influence you. 01:18
Why is that? 01:20
Well, there's almost no difference 01:21
between looking at something and paying attention to it. 01:23
When you look at something with your eyes, 01:27
you're also psychologically paying attention to it. 01:29
You're assigning value to it. 01:32
Companies and marketing firms, probably for centuries, 01:33
have really caught onto this fact by making products 01:37
and advertisements as enticing to look at as possible, 01:40
because they know that if they have your eyes, 01:44
they have your attention, 01:47
which also means they probably have your money. 01:48
This is why in the modern age 01:51
when companies are extremely good at, 01:53
they've perfected, the ability to capture your eyesight. 01:55
It's more important than ever to guard your eyes 01:58
to pay attention to what you're looking at 90% of the time. 02:02
We can no longer afford to just go onto the internet 02:06
to see what the internet has for us. 02:09
"La, la, la, la, la." No real plan. 02:12
What will happen is, via your eyeballs, 02:14
you'll be seduced by some sort of thumbnail, 02:17
some sort of headline or title, 02:20
or you'll just be super-conditioned 02:22
to clicking on the YouTube Shorts tab 02:24
and somehow magically, a whole hour went by 02:26
and you can't even name one video that you watched. 02:29
Utterly valueless. 02:32
But your attention was farmed. 02:34
On the flip side, 02:36
if you want to pay attention to something, look at it. 02:37
There was this weird Andrew Huberman video 02:40
I watched like three years ago, but he mentioned 02:42
how if you're having trouble focusing on something, 02:45
just look at it. 02:47
Like stare at it for 30 seconds. 02:49
And since your eyes are focused on it, 02:51
your brain will focus on it as well. 02:53
So if you feel kind of scatterbrained, 02:55
like you just can't pay attention 02:57
to what is important in your life, literally just look at it 02:59
and stop looking at stuff that doesn't matter to you. 03:03
Number three, if you want to change your outputs, 03:06
change your inputs. 03:09
Watching the same types of videos in the same room, 03:10
in the same house, in the same town with the same weather, 03:14
spending time with the same people, 03:18
having the same conversations about the same things, 03:20
and then somehow expecting yourself 03:23
to live differently than you do now is a little ridiculous 03:25
because you are putting into your brain 03:28
the exact same things that you always have, 03:30
and maybe that's a good thing. 03:33
I don't want to automatically imply that your life sucks. 03:34
We'll actually get into that later. 03:37
That's one of the next points. 03:38
But just because things are the same 03:39
doesn't necessarily mean that that's bad. 03:41
Maybe you find a lot of security 03:43
and comfort in the sameness of your life. 03:45
But for some people, the sameness is actually devastating 03:48
because they don't actually like what they're outputting. 03:52
They don't like their behaviors. 03:54
They don't really like their thoughts. 03:56
They find themselves lacking any sort 03:58
of creative inspiration, any sort of motivation 04:00
to live their life to the best of their ability. 04:04
So what they do in that type of situation 04:07
is they look outwards. 04:09
You know, maybe I need to look up 04:10
a motivational YouTube video or something. 04:12
Maybe there's the perfect book I need to read, 04:14
or maybe somebody is gonna come into my life 04:16
and give me new ideas, better ideas, 04:18
and everything will change for me. 04:21
But the thing is, 04:23
you're already feeding yourself so much information 04:23
that is influencing how you behave and how you think. 04:27
A lot of people tend to dismiss the familiar, 04:31
they are blind. 04:34
It's like going nose blind, right? 04:35
Like if you have a stinky room, 04:37
but it's a room that you spend most 04:38
of your time in every single day, 04:40
eventually you'll become accustomed to the smell 04:42
until someone else who's not accustomed to the smell 04:44
will walk in and say, "Holy smokes, dude. 04:47
What's wrong with you?" 04:49
And you'll say, "What? I don't smell anything." 04:50
Anything that's familiar to you is like that. 04:52
You know, you could wake up one day 04:55
and have all these health problems, 04:56
you just feel really bad recently, 04:58
you're getting totally burnt out, 05:00
and someone will say to you, 05:02
"Hey, man, have you tried getting eight hours 05:03
of sleep every single night?" 05:05
And you say to them, "No, that's not it." 05:06
You're almost insulted by the question 05:09
because you always get six and a half hours of sleep 05:11
every single night. 05:14
That's just normal to you. 05:15
Most of the time you can survive. 05:16
Since it's a baseline for you, 05:18
you don't consider that that could be the problem. 05:20
But I'm urging you, what is familiar in your life, 05:23
what is regular, what is frequent, 05:25
is almost always the most influential thing affecting 05:27
your day-to-day experience of being alive. 05:32
Reevaluate your familiar, because most often the answer 05:34
isn't some outward idea that you need to have. 05:38
It's by changing the inputs 05:41
that you're feeding yourself every single day. 05:43
Before we dive into our next tip, 05:45
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for sponsoring this video. 05:49
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and that's because there's no competing 05:55
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Once again, use my link in the description below 06:43
or scan the QR code, 06:46
and thanks again to AG1 for sponsoring this video. 06:47
Number four, there is nothing wrong with you. 06:50
99% of people on this planet 06:53
have something that they've done 06:56
that they don't want people to know about. 06:58
Maybe they have a way of living 07:00
that they're not super proud of, 07:02
or maybe that way of living was in the past. 07:04
Maybe it's going on right now and it's worse than ever. 07:06
Or maybe you're just not very proud 07:09
of who you are and the life that you live, 07:11
and you want more than anything 07:14
to change your bad situation. 07:15
Whatever the case is, 07:17
you may want to go on a self-improvement journey. 07:19
You might want to re-haul everything about your life: 07:22
the things you eat, the thoughts that you have, 07:25
the things that you tend to do on a daily basis, 07:28
and you hope that by doing these things, 07:31
you will feel better about who you are. 07:33
And there's a lot of truth to this. 07:36
If there wasn't, what would be the point of any of this? 07:37
If you feel bad now 07:40
and there was nothing you could possibly do 07:42
to make you feel better than you do now, 07:44
then that would obviously be super depressing. 07:46
But the problem is that there is a psychological trap 07:49
that a lot of people don't seem to recognize 07:52
when it comes to self-improvement. 07:55
They think that, "Okay, I feel bad about who I am now. 07:57
I'm not proud of myself now. 08:00
So if I get this body, I get this car, I get this girl, 08:02
I will feel good about myself. 08:06
I will like being me more 08:08
and other people will like me more, hopefully." 08:10
But there's two issues with this. 08:13
The first issue you've heard before. 08:15
Yeah, if you get all these things, 08:17
you're still not gonna be happy, right? 08:19
If you get the perfect car 08:20
and the perfect house and the perfect job, 08:21
you're still gonna feel empty inside. 08:23
Making more money won't make you happy. 08:25
But you've heard that before. That's boring. 08:27
The real problem is something 08:29
that almost nobody talks about. 08:31
The real problem is that by thinking this way, 08:33
it circumvents your ability to get those things anyways. 08:36
If you believe that there's something wrong with you 08:39
and that you are broken 08:42
and that you suck and that you're weak, 08:43
human beings tend to behave 08:45
in a way that's reflective of their own identity. 08:47
If you believe you're weak, you will act weak. 08:50
If you believe you're somehow broken and that you suck, 08:53
you'll do things that broken and sucky people do. 08:56
So a lot of people get caught in this feedback loop 08:59
where they're like, "Man, I suck. 09:01
I'm bad, bad, bad. 09:02
Hopefully I can hate myself enough 09:04
and resent myself enough that I become something more." 09:06
I have to ask, how's that worked out for you? 09:10
Do you find that you spin your wheels? 09:12
Maybe you find that you yo-yo back and forth all the time. 09:15
You burrow yourself into a pit of degeneracy 09:18
until it hurts so bad that you have no choice 09:21
but to climb out of it for a short while, 09:24
and then you're more motivated than you ever have been 09:27
because you have all this progress. 09:29
You learn that it actually feels good to do good things, 09:30
but then you get so burnt out 09:34
by doing 19 different good things at a time 09:35
that you have one bad day, the self-hatred comes back 09:38
and you say, "I knew you didn't have what it takes." 09:41
So the issue going on here 09:43
is that you are not recognizing your inherent worth. 09:46
And I don't really care how cheesy that sounds 09:50
or how woo-woo or spiritual that sounds, 09:52
but if you don't believe that you are worth something, 09:55
if you don't believe that you already have value, 09:58
then what would be the point of self-improvement? 10:01
If you're not worth anything, 10:04
why would you improve something that's not worth anything? 10:06
You would throw it out. 10:08
Somewhere deep inside the reason why you would want 10:10
to improve yourself anyways 10:13
is because you do realize that you're worth something. 10:14
Everybody has made mistakes. 10:17
In fact, there's nobody 10:19
who hasn't made some horrible mistakes. 10:21
But not everybody hates themselves 10:23
because of their mistakes. 10:25
And you don't have to. 10:27
Don't be somebody who hates themselves 10:28
because of their mistakes. 10:30
And yeah, you're not going to feel good 100% of the time, 10:32
and there are absolutely things that you can do 10:35
to make you feel better about yourself. 10:38
But the reason these things feel good 10:39
is because they remind you that you are worth something, 10:42
not because they make you worth something. 10:46
Number five, embrace the chosen suffering. 10:48
This is a concept directly inspired 10:51
by something that David Goggins 10:54
and Chris Williamson were talking about 10:56
on the "Modern Wisdom" podcast. 10:58
I think it was last year. 11:00
I don't watch a lot of podcasts anymore, 11:01
but I remember there was this specific clip 11:03
from this podcast that rocked my world, 11:06
and I think it's one of the most profound things 11:09
I've ever heard on a podcast. 11:10
- The devastation, the trauma's gonna come, 11:12
and you can't allow that to become a Jersey barrier. 11:14
It can't be a Jersey barrier. 11:17
It has to be something 11:18
that you can maneuver through very quickly and move forward. 11:19
That takes a lot of toughness. 11:22
- Unchosen suffering is gonna happen, right? 11:23
So the only thing that you can do 11:26
is have some chosen suffering to prepare for it. 11:28
- It's the only thing you can do. 11:30
That's the only thing you can practice 11:31
for the unchosen suffering, is to have chosen suffering. 11:32
Do something that sucks every day. 11:36
- So many people are well aware 11:38
that a storm is coming in their life. 11:41
Things can and probably will, at some point, get worse. 11:43
Tragedy will strike, the unchosen suffering, 11:49
suffering that you don't choose, that you can't plan for, 11:52
that you didn't decide, that is coming. 11:55
And the only thing that you can do to prepare for it 11:58
is to undergo regular chosen suffering, 12:01
to shape yourself through fire 12:05
so that when the unchosen suffering comes in your life, 12:07
you are somebody who can bear that suffering. 12:11
Doesn't mean that it won't hurt, 12:14
but if you're not used to the language of pain, 12:15
if you're not used to voluntarily carrying a load, 12:19
then the unchosen suffering 12:23
is something that can break you under pressure. 12:25
And this isn't meant to be discouraging. 12:27
Hopefully it's something that's just real. 12:30
And hopefully you are encouraged by this. 12:32
You don't need me to tell you 12:35
that something bad will happen to you. 12:36
Something bad has probably happened 12:39
to you regularly throughout your whole life, right? 12:41
This isn't a secret to anybody, 12:44
but the answer is not to hope it doesn't happen, 12:45
but it's to become stronger. 12:48
I believe this is why so many people are anxious. 12:50
They deal with crippling anxiety 12:53
because your fight-or-flight responses 12:55
have to latch onto something. 12:57
It's how we're wired. 12:59
Our ancestors were fighting, 13:00
I was gonna say fighting antelopes, 13:03
but they were foraging, warding off predators. 13:05
Holy smokes. 13:07
I just keep on raising and lowering my standup desk. 13:08
We have the same brains as we did back then. 13:11
Maybe like slightly different, but like 95% the same. 13:14
We're used to having a threat. 13:18
And if we don't make the threats bodily, 13:20
if we don't actively battle in our lives physically, 13:23
then we will latch on to hypothetical threats, 13:26
the prospect of future doom. 13:29
So yeah, if that's something you struggle with, 13:32
if you think about your own death a lot, 13:33
if you think about terminal illness a lot, then get busy. 13:35
Start experiencing real pain that you choose, 13:38
pain that makes you stronger, 13:42
pain that makes you feel good about yourself 13:44
because you feel more capable 13:47
and equipped to handle the unpredictable pain of the future. 13:48
And the final thing you probably need to hear is: get hyped. 13:52
So one thing that's becoming very clear in my own life 13:56
is that the time for hypercerebralization is over. 14:00
Stop trying to outthink doing difficult things. 14:04
We have established that we need to do things 14:09
that are good for us. 14:12
We want to live our life in a better way. 14:13
We need to get to work 14:16
because complacency and degeneracy is not an option. 14:17
But in the modern YouTubey podcast 14:21
pseudo-intellectual culture, there's a tendency 14:24
to want to find the perfect mental angle 14:27
to make doing difficult things as easy as possible. 14:30
We have to find the perfect strategy, 14:33
the perfect way to look at things 14:35
so that we're just effortlessly productive. 14:36
That's just another way to avoid pain. 14:38
Some things just suck and they will always suck. 14:40
And these things don't have to be deep, right? 14:44
They can just be like doing your taxes. 14:46
I don't know what kind of psychopath enjoys, 14:48
like genuinely loves and is joyful 14:51
and exuberant about doing their taxes, right? 14:54
They found the perfect way to look at it, 14:57
where they're like, "Ah, I love this." 14:58
Those people are probably aliens. 15:01
To clarify, aliens from another planet. 15:03
Yeah, illegal aliens just love doing taxes. 15:06
Would all aliens be illegal? 15:09
Like would it be legal for an alien to invade Earth? 15:11
Sounds pretty illegal. 15:14
Maybe all aliens are illegal. 15:15
What the (beep) am I talking about? 15:17
The bottom line is, don't overthink it. 15:19
Do whatever the hell you need to do. 15:21
Maybe you need to do 20 pushups. 15:23
Maybe you need to listen to the "Rocky" soundtrack 15:25
to do that thing that you don't want to do, 15:27
but get hyped up, increase your energy, 15:29
and blast past that obstacle 15:32
because it's been hanging over you for far too long. 15:34

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- Here are six things you probably need to hear.
Number one, nobody is on their way.
This is something that everybody has to realize
at some point in their life,
and some people realize it when it's far too late,
and that is that nobody is on their way to save you.
A lot of people sit around
waiting for someone or something
to come and save them from whatever their situation is.
They hope to win the lottery.
They hope that when they get a girlfriend
that will motivate them
to be the person that they want to be.
You know, maybe you'll land the perfect job.
Out of thin air,
your best friend will come knocking on your front door.
Three friends, even.
An entire social group will just knock on your front door,
and all of a sudden you have friends.
But nobody's on their way.
Nobody is currently on their way
to save you from a life that you don't like
because it's nobody's job to.
Sometimes people do come along
and they do have a positive influence on your life,
but you can't wait around for these people.
But this realization is also a blessing
because you don't have to wait for anybody anymore.
You don't need permission to change your life.
Since you're the only one who can change things
and get the ball rolling in your life,
you can start now.
Number two, guard your eyes.
The eyes are the window to the soul.
They're also the things that people put things in front of
when they want to hypnotize you,
when they want to influence you.
Why is that?
Well, there's almost no difference
between looking at something and paying attention to it.
When you look at something with your eyes,
you're also psychologically paying attention to it.
You're assigning value to it.
Companies and marketing firms, probably for centuries,
have really caught onto this fact by making products
and advertisements as enticing to look at as possible,
because they know that if they have your eyes,
they have your attention,
which also means they probably have your money.
This is why in the modern age
when companies are extremely good at,
they've perfected, the ability to capture your eyesight.
It's more important than ever to guard your eyes
to pay attention to what you're looking at 90% of the time.
We can no longer afford to just go onto the internet
to see what the internet has for us.
"La, la, la, la, la." No real plan.
What will happen is, via your eyeballs,
you'll be seduced by some sort of thumbnail,
some sort of headline or title,
or you'll just be super-conditioned
to clicking on the YouTube Shorts tab
and somehow magically, a whole hour went by
and you can't even name one video that you watched.
Utterly valueless.
But your attention was farmed.
On the flip side,
if you want to pay attention to something, look at it.
There was this weird Andrew Huberman video
I watched like three years ago, but he mentioned
how if you're having trouble focusing on something,
just look at it.
Like stare at it for 30 seconds.
And since your eyes are focused on it,
your brain will focus on it as well.
So if you feel kind of scatterbrained,
like you just can't pay attention
to what is important in your life, literally just look at it
and stop looking at stuff that doesn't matter to you.
Number three, if you want to change your outputs,
change your inputs.
Watching the same types of videos in the same room,
in the same house, in the same town with the same weather,
spending time with the same people,
having the same conversations about the same things,
and then somehow expecting yourself
to live differently than you do now is a little ridiculous
because you are putting into your brain
the exact same things that you always have,
and maybe that's a good thing.
I don't want to automatically imply that your life sucks.
We'll actually get into that later.
That's one of the next points.
But just because things are the same
doesn't necessarily mean that that's bad.
Maybe you find a lot of security
and comfort in the sameness of your life.
But for some people, the sameness is actually devastating
because they don't actually like what they're outputting.
They don't like their behaviors.
They don't really like their thoughts.
They find themselves lacking any sort
of creative inspiration, any sort of motivation
to live their life to the best of their ability.
So what they do in that type of situation
is they look outwards.
You know, maybe I need to look up
a motivational YouTube video or something.
Maybe there's the perfect book I need to read,
or maybe somebody is gonna come into my life
and give me new ideas, better ideas,
and everything will change for me.
But the thing is,
you're already feeding yourself so much information
that is influencing how you behave and how you think.
A lot of people tend to dismiss the familiar,
they are blind.
It's like going nose blind, right?
Like if you have a stinky room,
but it's a room that you spend most
of your time in every single day,
eventually you'll become accustomed to the smell
until someone else who's not accustomed to the smell
will walk in and say, "Holy smokes, dude.
What's wrong with you?"
And you'll say, "What? I don't smell anything."
Anything that's familiar to you is like that.
You know, you could wake up one day
and have all these health problems,
you just feel really bad recently,
you're getting totally burnt out,
and someone will say to you,
"Hey, man, have you tried getting eight hours
of sleep every single night?"
And you say to them, "No, that's not it."
You're almost insulted by the question
because you always get six and a half hours of sleep
every single night.
That's just normal to you.
Most of the time you can survive.
Since it's a baseline for you,
you don't consider that that could be the problem.
But I'm urging you, what is familiar in your life,
what is regular, what is frequent,
is almost always the most influential thing affecting
your day-to-day experience of being alive.
Reevaluate your familiar, because most often the answer
isn't some outward idea that you need to have.
It's by changing the inputs
that you're feeding yourself every single day.
Before we dive into our next tip,
I just want to give a big thank you to AG1
for sponsoring this video.
As you guys probably know at this point,
AG1 is my favorite supplement,
and that's because there's no competing
with its nutritional profile.
It's packed with over 75 vitamins, minerals,
and whole food-sourced ingredients in every single scoop.
AG1 makes it extremely convenient and easy
to give your body everything it needs
to stay focused and energized throughout the day.
I'm personally a huge fan of the Travel Packs,
especially if I'm on the road,
if I'm in a different country.
It's just a really convenient way
to give myself nutritional support.
So if you're interested in joining me
in this extremely simple health optimization habit,
which I've been partaking in for years,
then if you click my link in the description below
or scan the QR code you're seeing on the screen right now,
you'll also get a year's supply
of their Vitamin D3 and K2 complex,
as well as five AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase.
Once again, use my link in the description below
or scan the QR code,
and thanks again to AG1 for sponsoring this video.
Number four, there is nothing wrong with you.
99% of people on this planet
have something that they've done
that they don't want people to know about.
Maybe they have a way of living
that they're not super proud of,
or maybe that way of living was in the past.
Maybe it's going on right now and it's worse than ever.
Or maybe you're just not very proud
of who you are and the life that you live,
and you want more than anything
to change your bad situation.
Whatever the case is,
you may want to go on a self-improvement journey.
You might want to re-haul everything about your life:
the things you eat, the thoughts that you have,
the things that you tend to do on a daily basis,
and you hope that by doing these things,
you will feel better about who you are.
And there's a lot of truth to this.
If there wasn't, what would be the point of any of this?
If you feel bad now
and there was nothing you could possibly do
to make you feel better than you do now,
then that would obviously be super depressing.
But the problem is that there is a psychological trap
that a lot of people don't seem to recognize
when it comes to self-improvement.
They think that, "Okay, I feel bad about who I am now.
I'm not proud of myself now.
So if I get this body, I get this car, I get this girl,
I will feel good about myself.
I will like being me more
and other people will like me more, hopefully."
But there's two issues with this.
The first issue you've heard before.
Yeah, if you get all these things,
you're still not gonna be happy, right?
If you get the perfect car
and the perfect house and the perfect job,
you're still gonna feel empty inside.
Making more money won't make you happy.
But you've heard that before. That's boring.
The real problem is something
that almost nobody talks about.
The real problem is that by thinking this way,
it circumvents your ability to get those things anyways.
If you believe that there's something wrong with you
and that you are broken
and that you suck and that you're weak,
human beings tend to behave
in a way that's reflective of their own identity.
If you believe you're weak, you will act weak.
If you believe you're somehow broken and that you suck,
you'll do things that broken and sucky people do.
So a lot of people get caught in this feedback loop
where they're like, "Man, I suck.
I'm bad, bad, bad.
Hopefully I can hate myself enough
and resent myself enough that I become something more."
I have to ask, how's that worked out for you?
Do you find that you spin your wheels?
Maybe you find that you yo-yo back and forth all the time.
You burrow yourself into a pit of degeneracy
until it hurts so bad that you have no choice
but to climb out of it for a short while,
and then you're more motivated than you ever have been
because you have all this progress.
You learn that it actually feels good to do good things,
but then you get so burnt out
by doing 19 different good things at a time
that you have one bad day, the self-hatred comes back
and you say, "I knew you didn't have what it takes."
So the issue going on here
is that you are not recognizing your inherent worth.
And I don't really care how cheesy that sounds
or how woo-woo or spiritual that sounds,
but if you don't believe that you are worth something,
if you don't believe that you already have value,
then what would be the point of self-improvement?
If you're not worth anything,
why would you improve something that's not worth anything?
You would throw it out.
Somewhere deep inside the reason why you would want
to improve yourself anyways
is because you do realize that you're worth something.
Everybody has made mistakes.
In fact, there's nobody
who hasn't made some horrible mistakes.
But not everybody hates themselves
because of their mistakes.
And you don't have to.
Don't be somebody who hates themselves
because of their mistakes.
And yeah, you're not going to feel good 100% of the time,
and there are absolutely things that you can do
to make you feel better about yourself.
But the reason these things feel good
is because they remind you that you are worth something,
not because they make you worth something.
Number five, embrace the chosen suffering.
This is a concept directly inspired
by something that David Goggins
and Chris Williamson were talking about
on the "Modern Wisdom" podcast.
I think it was last year.
I don't watch a lot of podcasts anymore,
but I remember there was this specific clip
from this podcast that rocked my world,
and I think it's one of the most profound things
I've ever heard on a podcast.
- The devastation, the trauma's gonna come,
and you can't allow that to become a Jersey barrier.
It can't be a Jersey barrier.
It has to be something
that you can maneuver through very quickly and move forward.
That takes a lot of toughness.
- Unchosen suffering is gonna happen, right?
So the only thing that you can do
is have some chosen suffering to prepare for it.
- It's the only thing you can do.
That's the only thing you can practice
for the unchosen suffering, is to have chosen suffering.
Do something that sucks every day.
- So many people are well aware
that a storm is coming in their life.
Things can and probably will, at some point, get worse.
Tragedy will strike, the unchosen suffering,
suffering that you don't choose, that you can't plan for,
that you didn't decide, that is coming.
And the only thing that you can do to prepare for it
is to undergo regular chosen suffering,
to shape yourself through fire
so that when the unchosen suffering comes in your life,
you are somebody who can bear that suffering.
Doesn't mean that it won't hurt,
but if you're not used to the language of pain,
if you're not used to voluntarily carrying a load,
then the unchosen suffering
is something that can break you under pressure.
And this isn't meant to be discouraging.
Hopefully it's something that's just real.
And hopefully you are encouraged by this.
You don't need me to tell you
that something bad will happen to you.
Something bad has probably happened
to you regularly throughout your whole life, right?
This isn't a secret to anybody,
but the answer is not to hope it doesn't happen,
but it's to become stronger.
I believe this is why so many people are anxious.
They deal with crippling anxiety
because your fight-or-flight responses
have to latch onto something.
It's how we're wired.
Our ancestors were fighting,
I was gonna say fighting antelopes,
but they were foraging, warding off predators.
Holy smokes.
I just keep on raising and lowering my standup desk.
We have the same brains as we did back then.
Maybe like slightly different, but like 95% the same.
We're used to having a threat.
And if we don't make the threats bodily,
if we don't actively battle in our lives physically,
then we will latch on to hypothetical threats,
the prospect of future doom.
So yeah, if that's something you struggle with,
if you think about your own death a lot,
if you think about terminal illness a lot, then get busy.
Start experiencing real pain that you choose,
pain that makes you stronger,
pain that makes you feel good about yourself
because you feel more capable
and equipped to handle the unpredictable pain of the future.
And the final thing you probably need to hear is: get hyped.
So one thing that's becoming very clear in my own life
is that the time for hypercerebralization is over.
Stop trying to outthink doing difficult things.
We have established that we need to do things
that are good for us.
We want to live our life in a better way.
We need to get to work
because complacency and degeneracy is not an option.
But in the modern YouTubey podcast
pseudo-intellectual culture, there's a tendency
to want to find the perfect mental angle
to make doing difficult things as easy as possible.
We have to find the perfect strategy,
the perfect way to look at things
so that we're just effortlessly productive.
That's just another way to avoid pain.
Some things just suck and they will always suck.
And these things don't have to be deep, right?
They can just be like doing your taxes.
I don't know what kind of psychopath enjoys,
like genuinely loves and is joyful
and exuberant about doing their taxes, right?
They found the perfect way to look at it,
where they're like, "Ah, I love this."
Those people are probably aliens.
To clarify, aliens from another planet.
Yeah, illegal aliens just love doing taxes.
Would all aliens be illegal?
Like would it be legal for an alien to invade Earth?
Sounds pretty illegal.
Maybe all aliens are illegal.
What the (beep) am I talking about?
The bottom line is, don't overthink it.
Do whatever the hell you need to do.
Maybe you need to do 20 pushups.
Maybe you need to listen to the "Rocky" soundtrack
to do that thing that you don't want to do,
but get hyped up, increase your energy,
and blast past that obstacle
because it's been hanging over you for far too long.

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realize

/ˈriəlaɪz/

A2
  • verb
  • - to become aware of something

save

/seɪv/

A1
  • verb
  • - to rescue or protect

motivate

/ˈmoʊtɪveɪt/

B1
  • verb
  • - to encourage or inspire

influence

/ˈɪnfluəns/

B1
  • noun
  • - the power to affect someone or something
  • verb
  • - to affect or change someone or something

attention

/əˈtenʃən/

A2
  • noun
  • - notice or interest

enticing

/ɪnˈtaɪsɪŋ/

B2
  • adjective
  • - attractive or tempting

seduce

/sɪˈdus/

B2
  • verb
  • - to attract or lead away

familiar

/fəˈmɪliər/

A2
  • adjective
  • - well-known or common

devastating

/ˈdevəsteɪtɪŋ/

B2
  • adjective
  • - causing great damage or distress

improvement

/ɪmˈpruːvmənt/

B1
  • noun
  • - the act of improving or the state of being improved

inherent

/ɪnˈhɪrənt/

C1
  • adjective
  • - existing as a permanent or essential feature

suffering

/ˈsʌfərɪŋ/

A2
  • noun
  • - pain or distress

unpredictable

/ʌnprɪˈdɪktəbəl/

B2
  • adjective
  • - not able to be predicted

hypercerebralization

/ˌhaɪpərˌsɛrəbrəlaɪˈzeɪʃən/

C2
  • noun
  • - overthinking or excessive intellectualization

complacency

/kəmˈpleɪsənsi/

C1
  • noun
  • - self-satisfaction, especially when unjustified

exuberant

/ɪɡˈzʌbərənt/

C1
  • adjective
  • - full of energy, excitement, and cheerfulness

obstacle

/ˈɒbstəkəl/

B1
  • noun
  • - a thing that blocks one's way or prevents progress

hypnotize

/ˈhɪp.nə.taɪz/

B2
  • verb
  • - to put into a state of deep relaxation or unconsciousness

assign

/əˈsaɪn/

B1
  • verb
  • - to allocate or give a task

dismiss

/dɪsˈmɪs/

B2
  • verb
  • - to reject or disregard

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