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[English]

Rejection hurts.

It’s incredibly painful to feel like you’re not wanted—

and we do mean painful.

fMRI studies have found that rejection elicits brain activity

in multiple neural regions that process physical pain.

And the language we use to describe rejection mirrors this experience.

Researchers recorded over a dozen languages that relate rejection

to being hurt, using terms like “crushed” or “broken-hearted.”

So why does rejection trigger such a strong response,

and is there any way to cope with this unique kind of pain?

Psychologists often describe rejection

as what happens when we perceive that others don’t value

having social connections with us.

This could occur when we’re abandoned by a romantic partner,

excluded from a group, or outright discriminated against.

But it’s worth noting that these interpersonal rejections

have a social element that distinguishes them from not getting a job.

In these experiences,

we perceive that the rejecting party undervalues our relationship.

And while the pain of rejection often increases

the more we value a relationship,

even rejections by relative strangers can hurt our feelings.

This might seem like an overreaction,

but just as bodily pain warns us about perceived threats

to our physical well-being,

hurt feelings warn us about perceived threats to our social well-being.

Some behavioral psychologists argue this warning system developed

when our prehistoric ancestors lived in small clans

and depended on everyone they knew for survival.

These humans may have evolved to perceive rejection from anyone

as a potential threat to their safety.

It’s impossible to confirm this kind of evolutionary theory,

but wherever this warning system came from,

it doesn't include instructions

for how to process this intense emotional experience.

So, the next time you’re feeling rejected, try asking yourself these questions.

The first thing to consider is your relationship

with the person rejecting you.

Is this someone who knows you well and whose opinion you hold dear?

Or is it just a loose acquaintance?

If it’s the latter, that might help you answer the second question:

does this rejection really matter?

It can sting when a stranger doesn't laugh at your joke,

but it doesn’t make sense to react strongly to a rejection

with little impact on your life.

Of course, brushing off even a minor rejection is easier said than done,

since how you perceive yourself also factors into this equation.

You likely feel more confident in some circumstances than others,

and people tend to be especially sensitive to rejection in situations

where they have a low opinion of themselves.

So much so, that they even become more likely to misinterpret

other people’s neutral reactions as rejections.

This is why it can be helpful to both reflect on your self-view

and ask yourself if the other person is actually rejecting you.

This might seem like an odd question.

But you may find that while the other person didn’t treat you

as you would have liked, they still value your relationship.

In some cases, it's also helpful to consider

whether you were expecting more acceptance than was reasonable.

Unfortunately, after asking these questions,

you might still conclude that a person close to you

doesn’t value your relationship as much as you do.

This is a painful realization, but it can help to remember two things.

First, this rejection isn't just about you.

The other party wants something different from your relationship,

and what they want might be unreasonable, unfair,

or simply not what you have to give.

Second, their rejection isn’t proof that there’s something wrong with you.

The pain you’re feeling is just part of a system

nudging you to think about your interpersonal relationships.

And by reflecting on your behavior,

you can find clues to help better understand the rejection

and think critically about the relationship

you want to have with this person.

Every relationship and rejection is unique.

But whatever the specifics,

it’s important to remember that you’re never alone in all of this.

Everyone deals with rejection throughout their life—

even those who seem confident in their belonging.

And one of the most common ways to cope with this universal experience

is to reconnect with those who already accept you.

Key Vocabulary

Vocabulary	Meanings
rejection /rɪˈdʒɛkʃən/ B2	noun - the act of refusing to accept, use, or consider something
pain /peɪn/ A2	noun - a feeling of physical suffering caused by illness or injury noun - mental suffering or distress
feel /fiːl/ A1	verb - to experience a particular sensation or emotion
hurt /hɜːrt/ A1	verb - to cause physical pain or injury verb - to cause emotional pain
elicits /ɪˈlɪsɪts/ C1	verb - to evoke or draw out a response or reaction
response /rɪˈspɑːns/ B1	noun - an answer or reaction
cope /koʊp/ B1	verb - to deal effectively with something difficult
perceive /pərˈsiːv/ B2	verb - to see or understand something
relationship /rɪˈleɪʃənʃɪp/ A2	noun - the way in which two or more people or things are connected
abandoned /əˈbændənd/ B2	adjective - deserted or left
excluded /ɪkˈskluːdɪd/ B2	adjective - left out or not included
feelings /ˈfiːlɪŋz/ A2	noun - emotions or the state of being emotionally affected
warning /ˈwɔːrnɪŋ/ B1	noun - an advance notice of something
survival /sərˈvaɪvəl/ B2	noun - the state or fact of continuing to live or exist
evolved /ɪˈvɑːlvd/ C1	verb - to develop gradually over time
threat /θret/ B1	noun - a person or thing that is likely to cause damage or danger
emotional /ɪˈmoʊʃənəl/ B1	adjective - related to feelings or emotions
reflect /rɪˈflɛkt/ B1	verb - to think deeply or carefully about something

Key Grammar Structures

• Rejection hurts.

  ➔ Simple present tense – third‑person singular verb with –s

  ➔ The verb "hurts" shows a simple present action.

• It’s incredibly painful to feel like you’re not wanted—and we do mean painful.

  ➔ Infinitive of purpose (to feel), comparative clause (like you’re not wanted), contraction (It’s)

  ➔ The infinitive "to feel" expresses the purpose of the pain.

• fMRI studies have found that rejection elicits brain activity in multiple neural regions that process physical pain.

  ➔ Present perfect (have found), noun clause (that rejection elicits…), relative clause (that process physical pain)

  ➔ The verb "have found" is in the present perfect, linking past research to the present.

• Researchers recorded over a dozen languages that relate rejection to being hurt, using terms like “crushed” or “broken‑hearted.”

  ➔ Participle phrase (using terms…) showing manner, relative clause (that relate…)

  ➔ The participle "using" describes how the recording was done.

• So why does rejection trigger such a strong response, and is there any way to cope with this unique kind of pain?

  ➔ Auxiliary verb for question (does), infinitive of purpose (to cope)

  ➔ The auxiliary "does" forms the question, while "to cope" is an infinitive expressing purpose.

• This could occur when we’re abandoned by a romantic partner, excluded from a group, or outright discriminated against.

  ➔ Modal verb (could) + passive constructions (are abandoned, excluded, discriminated)

  ➔ The modal "could" expresses possibility, and the verbs are in the passive voice.

• But just as bodily pain warns us about perceived threats to our physical well‑being, hurt feelings warn us about perceived threats to our social well‑being.

  ➔ Comparative clause using "just as…" to draw a parallel

  ➔ The phrase "just as" introduces a comparison between two kinds of warnings.

• The first thing to consider is your relationship with the person rejecting you.

  ➔ Infinitive complement (to consider), present simple copula (is), gerund (rejecting)

  ➔ The infinitive "to consider" functions as the object of "first thing".

• Everyone deals with rejection throughout their life— even those who seem confident in their belonging.

  ➔ Simple present (deals), relative clause (who seem confident)

  ➔ "deals" is in the simple present to express a habitual action; "who seem" is a relative clause describing "those".