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- Here are seven things that
will make you unstoppable.
Number one, change your
inputs to change your outputs.
So a lot of us go throughout
life completely unaware
of why we do certain things or
why we think certain thoughts
or why we say things the
way that we say them,
with the tone in which we say them.
Or we can't figure out why
we're tired all the time.
Our behavior is like a mystery to us.
Something completely out of
our control, like the weather
or some foreign government EMPing you
while you're in a plane
on the way to Europe.
But maybe things aren't so
complicated or mysterious.
Maybe we're putting out
exactly what we're putting in.
Your mother and your
grandmother have said it
since you were a child,
"You are what you eat."
But it goes way deeper than that.
You are what you eat, what
you smell, what you see.
Your senses are soaking
in inputs all the time,
99.9% of which are
synthesized and understood
and processed by your subconscious.
And what that means is that
you're not conscious of it.
You're not consciously aware of the fact
that all these calculations
are being made.
Your conscious mind is super
efficient at no longer noticing
the filth in your bedroom,
the moldy spaghetti behind your monitor.
But your subconscious smells
that every second of the day.
What you are inputting into
your subconscious is information
that is making you feel a certain way,
that's making you behave a certain way.
Become conscious of what you
are feeding your subconscious
on a regular basis.
When was the last time you saw a tree?
Number two, you have to
stretch in order to grow.
So in order to be successful
in life, you probably need
to have habits that benefit you.
So maybe you don't have those (laughs)
and maybe you want to be
a person that has those.
But I think there are two
main ways that people fail
to implement beneficial
habits for the long term.
The first way is they think
it's going to be too easy.
They think that habit change
is this really fun thing.
People want to go to the gym every day,
so they shop for new supplements
and new workout clothes,
and they get all infatuated with this idea
of being this healthy, gym going person.
And then obviously you know the story.
You show up to the gym
and it's way harder than
you thought it was gonna be.
It feels nothing like thinking
about going to the gym.
Lifting weights is hard.
You have to sweat and then you feel like,
"Eh, this isn't fun."
So you stop doing it.
The second way I see people fail
is they think it's going to be really hard
and miserable, treacherous, not worth it.
Maybe they've tried a bunch of times
and they've burned away their naivety
and they say things like, "I
would start going to the gym,
but I just don't feel like
putting in all of that effort.
It's not worth it."
You probably can identify
that there are truths
and falsehoods to both
of these approaches.
Yeah, it's not easy to
implement a new habit.
Yes, it's not going to feel natural
and it's going to be kind of
unpleasant for a lot of it,
but also, it is worth it
because every single time
you implement something
that is genuinely good for you,
when you can manage to
have these small wins,
when you actually show up to the gym,
you put in a workout, it is difficult.
But when you leave the gym
and you're sitting there on your couch
after a great workout,
chugging back a protein shake,
you get this quiet feeling of victory.
Like, "Damn, a lot of bad
things could happen to me today,
but at least I went to the gym."
And that might seem subtle,
but if you compound that
feeling over a very long time,
you feel like a completely
different person.
You have inputted into
your mind repeatedly
that you have won, you've
done something worthwhile.
You're growing, you're getting stronger.
And when you have that
narrative in your subconscious,
the way you walk changes,
the way you make eye
contact with people changes,
the way you treat yourself changes.
That's the power of burning
away this lesser self,
of voluntarily subjecting
yourself to pain,
because what that tells
yourself is that I'm willing
to go through this to better
myself because I'm worth it.
I'm shouldering so much suffering
so that I can be the
best version of myself,
so that I can be stronger,
so I can treat myself with respect.
And that narrative,
treating yourself that way,
completely transforms your existence.
That is absolutely worth it.
And suffering viewed
in this proper context
is a wonderful thing.
It is joyous, even.
So remember that, yes, it's painful,
but hell yeah, it's worth it.
Number three, guard your eyes.
The more we look at something,
the more we are telling our brain
that this thing is valuable,
this thing is important to us.
Even when looking at
something as a reflex,
you hear a pen drop next to
you and you're home alone,
you're gonna look at that right away
because you value that information.
It could be a predator.
It could be somebody climbing
through your windows,
ready to stab your dog.
I find that the more I scroll Instagram,
the more I scan my environment
kind of aimlessly looking
for something to sort of peak my interest.
You know, there's sort of this aimlessness
to my field of vision where
I'm just kinda looking
for things to stimulate me,
to give me a little brain tickle.
If you really need to focus
on something in particular,
try looking at it for 30 seconds.
Try controlling your eyes,
guarding it from distraction,
and literally just looking at the thing
that you're supposed to do
and not directing your vision
anywhere else but that thing.
And when your eyes are
focusing on something,
your entire being tends to focus on it.
So you don't have to overthink things.
Just look at what you're supposed to do.
Don't allow yourself
to look anywhere else.
Treat your eyes like a laser beam.
Have a reason to be looking
where you're looking.
Number four, figure it out.
So if you wanna get into
power lifting really badly
and you've never lifted a
dumbbell, a barbell in your life,
then obviously a really dumb thing to do
would be to go onto YouTube
and watch a bunch of videos
of people who can power lift
or deadlift 600 pounds or more.
You watch all these videos
of these strong dudes showing
you the best possible way
to deadlift 600 pounds.
Like that's such a waste of time.
If you've never deadlifted
a thing in your life,
then watching any of these videos
is the biggest waste of your time
you could possibly imagine.
Go to the gym first,
and then when you're at the
gym, take out your phone
and watch a video on basic form
so that you don't hurt yourself
while you're deadlifting,
but deadlift!
Take all the energy you would use to try
to figure out the perfect
way to do something
and use it to do the thing
repeatedly and terribly
so that you can get good at it faster
than you ever would by
watching videos about it.
There is no amount of
videos you could watch.
You could watch 7,000 power lifting videos
and you would not be able
to deadlift one more pound,
maybe like two more pounds,
but it ain't gonna be 600.
Most people's problem
nowadays is they forgot
what it feels like to
just figure things out.
Start doing the thing.
Obviously, don't hurt yourself.
Don't be dumb, but figure it out.
"Oh no, Joey's telling me
to start doing free solo
climbing on the side of a cliff
and not watch a video or get a mentor."
No, I'm not.
Figure it out.
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Number five, use leverage.
This sounds (laughs)
this sounds like the most technical one,
it sounds like, I don't
know what it sounds like,
it sounds (duck quacks) stupid,
that's what it sounds.
Not all productive
things are created equal.
There are things that you
really should be doing,
or maybe there's literally one thing
that you always avoid doing,
and it is by far the most important thing
you could possibly do.
In my own life, that's making videos.
From a strictly monetary, ROI perspective,
making videos from start to
finish and hitting upload
is, by far, the best use of
my time I can possibly do.
So whenever I am hanging out and you know,
I'm painting my window sill
black in my theater room,
that is a productive thing.
I'm painting my window
sill, I'm doing something.
But when I have a deadline for a sponsor
and I need to make a video and
I have something on my mind
and I should just sit
here and talk about it,
what the hell am I
doing painting a window?
So many things in life
are like that where yeah,
it's technically productive,
but it's not the thing.
It's not the thing that is on your mind
that's plaguing your existence,
that is making you feel
like you need to escape.
Everybody has that thing.
You need to find a way to
do whatever that thing is
as often as possible
for as long as possible
with as much intensity as possible.
There's a dirty joke in here somewhere.
And on the exact same
wavelength, there's something
that is the absolute
worst use of your time
that you could possibly do.
It has the absolute worst
ROI out of any activity
that you do on a daily or weekly basis.
If you thought about it
for even three seconds,
there's no reason to do it.
You need to find a way to do that thing
as little as possible.
So that's what it looks
like to maximize leverage.
Make that one thing that you need to do
as enjoyable as possible,
as frictionless as possible.
Make it just so easy to do all the time,
for a long period of time.
Spend money and time to
help you make that thing
as good as possible.
Increase the quality and enjoyability
of that most important thing.
And on the exact same token,
make doing the worst thing
that you can possibly do
as unenjoyable as possible.
Straight out miserable,
right? Make it inconvenient.
Make it as hard as possible to
do what you don't want to do,
and as easy as possible
to do the best thing
you could possibly do.
Number six, stop running from yourself.
Desiring to be a better version
of yourself should not
be confused with wanting
to run away from who you are.
That might sound cheesy, but
believe me, I've been there.
I've wanted to just not be who I am.
And instead of just resenting
my situation, I confused it
with resenting myself,
for punishing myself for failing,
or thinking it's somehow unacceptable
to be in the state that I'm in
or to have the lifestyle that I have.
And it's very important to realize
that once you start attacking yourself,
instead of just being proactive about
leaving your undesirable situation,
as soon as you start attacking
yourself, all progress stops,
because even if you
manage to get yourself out
of your situation, you're
not gonna be happy.
It's not gonna be good enough.
You will feel like you always need
to justify your own existence.
The narrative inside your head
when you don't like yourself very much is,
"Okay, I don't like who
I am and where I am.
So if I just do this
thing and get this thing,
then that will make me worth something,
that will justify my existence."
But there's no way to
justify your own existence
through achievement or
accumulating objects.
There's no point to any of
this if you don't believe
that you have inherent dignity.
And if you don't treat yourself
like you have inherent
dignity from the get go,
there's nothing you can do to earn that.
So look at yourself in the mirror,
take a deep breath, and
say, "I got you, buddy.
I might not like every single
thing about how I behave
or what I've done, but I
accept it as the truth.
I accept it as what has happened.
It is what it is. This is the reality.
Now, where do we go from here?"
Number seven, do what you want.
And I really mean this in
the deepest possible sense.
Do whatever the hell you want.
Now before you go and tear
open a package of Tim Tams
and start gobbling your
life away, hear me out.
I think we only ever do what we want.
We only ever do what
we think we want to do
in any given moment.
Even when we do something
that we don't want to do,
something that we regret doing,
something that we're
morally opposed to doing.
I feel like 99% of the time,
it's only because it's what
we thought we wanted to do
at the time, or there's
something in it that we want.
Maybe we don't want all of it,
but there's something there.
There was something about it
that we thought we wanted at the time.
And it turns out we didn't
want it, but we thought we did.
And I think this is important to consider.
Try to ask yourself on the
deepest possible level,
what do you want?
What kind of life do you want to live?
What kind of relationships
do you want to have?
What do you ideally want to
do on a day-to-day basis?
And why do you want those things?
How would it make you
feel to live this way?
And now contrast that with
what you currently do.
Think about all the things that
you don't like that you do,
and ask yourself,
what in these things do I actually want?
And a lot of the time when
we have things that we do
that are bad for us, there's
still something in it
that we want.
And it's not the thing
itself that we want.
It's usually a feeling it gives us.
Try to figure out what that feeling is.
And it's probably a feeling
that everybody wants, right?
It's just the thing itself or the activity
or the behavior isn't
the best possible way
to achieve that feeling.
Once you start going through this process,
a lot of the time you realize
that even doing what you don't want to do,
but you think it's something
that you want to do,
but you shouldn't do,
it's like even that thing
isn't doing what you want
in the best possible way.
Like obviously the easiest
possible example is, you know,
going on YouTube,
scrolling through YouTube
Shorts or whatever, right?
If you stop to ask yourself,
what about this do I actually like?
What do I want here?
Why do I do this?
What feeling am I looking for?
What do I have to gain from this
that I can take with me into life?
Like will I ever feel satisfied?
Like, man, I have arrived.
That was so worth it.
I feel so good now.
It's like, probably not.
Don't you want to feel that way?
Isn't that what you want?
Probably.
And a lot of the time,
these dopamine traps,
things that promise you something
and promise you something
and promise you something,
there is no feeling of,
"Ah, I have arrived,
that was so worth it.
I feel so good about myself now."
No, it's always some fake promise.
Find what that thing is promising,
and then find the best possible way
to give yourself that feeling.
And a lot of the time what
you'll find is giving yourself
the best possible feeling
usually aligns with your moral compass.
It usually makes your life better.
It usually, you know,
everything about it is just better
than doing the worst thing.
We always think that by
giving up the worst thing,
our life is gonna be less enjoyable.
We're giving up something
that's actually good.
But it's like, that thing
actually isn't that good.
You know, the best possible
way to get the feeling
that you want in life and
to be the person you want
to be in life is by being the
person you want to be in life.
Unless you actually
think about these things
and reflect on the feelings
all these activities give you,
you'll be blind to it.
You'll fall for false promises.
Does that make sense?
If that doesn't make sense, comment below.
Say "Joey, that makes no sense."
The bottom line is,
you are a living, breathing human being.
You affect the world around you.
You can decide right
now to pick up the glass
that's closest to you and
throw it against the wall
and shatter it.
You can do that.
You can move through space and time
and affect the world around you.
You can affect people around you.
But most importantly,
you can affect your life.
You can affect the habits you have.
You can change your life,
and you can live the life
that you want to live,
truly want to live.
And it will be what you want.
Like it's the most basic
possible thing and it's exciting.
So help yourself give
yourself what you want,
and not just moment to moment, right,
because that's shortsighted,
but what your soul is screaming for.
And I hope that by doing
so, you'll find more peace
and fulfillment and enjoyment
every single day of your life.