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[English]

My husband, Chuck, and I have been married for 18 years.

I've always been overweight, but my husband never cared.

Even when my wife was at her heaviest, 280 pounds,

our sex life was a 10 out of 10.

We would joke afterwards, saying there isn't anybody

in this town who got it that good tonight.

Last year, I made the decision

that I was gonna lose weight

and I lost over 100 pounds.

I felt fantastic.

It's been difficult for me to adjust to her new body type.

He said that having sex with me

felt like he was having sex with a different woman.

She was very curvaceous.

Now she's a very thin woman.

My wife's breasts used to be up here

and now they're kind of down here.

She's had a lot of issues with her skin sagging, drooping.

Now things just have a tendency to kind of sag.

I wear this body shaper because if I don't stuff,

the extra skin spills out.

Our sex life used to be great.

Now we're struggling.

I don't feel sexy with my husband.

I want to cover up and hide things.

When you're having sex with a woman,

it's about touch, it's about feel, it's about how they look

and that's changed dramatically.

I still love my wife very much.

It's just been very difficult to accept her body

the way it is now.

I just want him to look at me and find me attractive.

Okay, so congratulations

on your discipline-- Thank you.

And your hard work,

'cause you've got that done. Thank you.

(audience applauds)

And despite the fact that it's brought about

some new challenges, it's a return to health, right?

Absolutely.

You're happy for that, right?

Absolutely.

So what's bugging you?

She feels like a different woman.

I'm not used to it.

She lost all of this weight so quickly.

She's not a different woman.

She's the same woman.

Correct. You've been married

to her for 18 years, right?

18 years, yeah.

And when you look in her eyes,

it's the same eyes, it's the same spirit,

it's the same soul, it's the same woman.

Right.

She's beautiful

Yes, she is. Yeah.

Yes she is.

(audience applauds)

And let me say, before y'all go with attacking him,

(audience laughs)

in all of the pre-interviews,

he has not said one negative word

about this woman at all, period, paragraph.

(audience applauds)

Not one negative word about her,

what he has said is about him.

He said, I don't know why, but I'm feeling different.

It's affecting me different.

He has not criticized her one bit.

No, never.

What do you think is going on?

I think that this is just a very

unexpected side effect of,

I mean, there's been so many great things to my weight loss

and so many positives.

I couldn't even tie my shoes before

and it's been amazing

but I think this kind of hit us out of nowhere.

It was like, all of a sudden, oh my gosh,

like we're having this issue.

Our sex life has never been an issue.

It's always been great.

And so all of a sudden, I think I was feeling self-conscious

about my stomach and my breasts sagging,

and feeling like, oh my gosh,

I don't want him to see this, it's hideous.

And then he's feeling like, this isn't the woman

that I've been with, this doesn't feel the same.

And then I'm worrying about how he's feeling,

and he's worrying about how I'm feeling,

and I think there's just so much mental stuff going on

that it's affecting the physical part of our relationship.

Key Vocabulary

Vocabulary	Meanings
overweight /ˌoʊ.vərˈweɪt/ B2	adjective - weighing more than is healthy or normal
curvaceous /kɜːrˈveɪʃəs/ C1	adjective - having an attractively curved shape, especially a woman's body
sagging /ˈsæɡ.ɪŋ/ B2	verb - to sink or hang down loosely adjective - hanging down loosely
drooping /ˈdruː.pɪŋ/ B2	verb - to bend or hang downwards due to weight or lack of support adjective - hanging loosely or limp
shaper /ˈʃeɪ.pər/ B2	noun - an object or garment that molds or defines a body's shape
self-conscious /ˌsɛlfˈkɒnʃəs/ C1	adjective - excessively aware of oneself, especially one's appearance or actions
discipline /ˈdɪs.ə.plɪn/ B2	noun - training that develops self‑control or obedience verb - to train or control by rigorous practice
side-effect /ˈsaɪd ˌiˈfɛkt/ B2	noun - an unintended secondary result of a process or activity
unexpected /ˌʌn.ɪkˈspɛk.tɪd/ B2	adjective - not expected or anticipated
mental /ˈmɛn.təl/ B1	adjective - relating to the mind
physical /ˈfɪz.ɪ.kəl/ B1	adjective - relating to the body rather than the mind
relationship /rɪˈleɪ.ʃən.ʃɪp/ B1	noun - the way in which two or more people or things are connected
attractive /əˈtræk.tɪv/ B2	adjective - pleasing or appealing to the senses or mind
challenging /ˈtʃæl.ɪn.dʒɪŋ/ B2	adjective - difficult in a way that is interesting or stimulating
adjust /əˈdʒʌst/ B1	verb - to change something slightly in order to improve it or make it fit
lose /luːz/ A2	verb - to no longer have something; to fail to keep
fantastic /fænˈtæs.tɪk/ B1	adjective - extraordinarily good or attractive
healthy /ˈhɛl.θi/ B1	adjective - in a good physical or mental condition; beneficial to health

Key Grammar Structures

• My husband, Chuck, and I have been married for 18 years.

  ➔ Present Perfect Continuous

  ➔ The phrase "have been married" uses the **Present Perfect Continuous** to talk about a situation that started in the past and continues up to now.

• I lost over 100 pounds.

  ➔ Simple Past

  ➔ "lost" is the **Simple Past** of "lose", indicating a completed action in the past.

• It was difficult for me to adjust to her new body type.

  ➔ Infinitive of purpose (to + verb) after an adjective

  ➔ "to adjust" is an **infinitive of purpose** showing why something was difficult.

• He said that having sex with me felt like he was having sex with a different woman.

  ➔ Reported speech + past simple + past progressive

  ➔ "said that" introduces **reported speech**; "felt" is **past simple**, and "was having" is **past progressive** to describe an ongoing action in the past.

• Now things just have a tendency to kind of sag.

  ➔ Noun + have + a tendency to + infinitive

  ➔ "have a tendency to" is a **fixed structure** where the verb after "to" stays in the **infinitive** form ("sag").

• If I don't stuff, the extra skin spills out.

  ➔ First conditional (if + present simple, ... + present simple)

  ➔ "If I don't stuff" uses the **present simple** in the "if"‑clause, and "spills" is also **present simple** in the result clause, forming a **first conditional** expressing a real possibility.

• I'm feeling different.

  ➔ Present continuous (to be + verb‑ing)

  ➔ "I'm feeling" combines the auxiliary "am" with the **‑ing form** "feeling" to express a temporary state.

• It's affecting our relationship.

  ➔ Present continuous (to be + verb‑ing) as a stative verb

  ➔ "is affecting" uses the **present continuous** to stress the ongoing impact, even though "affect" can be a stative verb.