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Passive aggressive neighbor complaint. 00:00
Hi, I'm your neighbor. You know, I'm I'm 00:03
from above. Sometimes like the doors are 00:06
quite loud. Gosh, I'm so sorry. Really? 00:08
It's really no problem at all. Yeah. 00:11
Yeah, it won't. I'm I'll try to remember 00:13
to keep it down. You have a great day. 00:14
Fabulous. Thank you so much. Bye. Bye. 00:16
This is so awkward and it's happened to 00:21
me on countless occasions. Oh, great. I 00:24
did it again and no one mentioned 00:27
anything but everyone remembers. 00:29
Everyone will remember just constantly 00:32
after I mean that is more awkward. 00:34
You got cheese. Oh, what cheese is your 00:40
favorite? Bri 00:41
and I was like okay then. Thank you so 00:45
much. Lovely. 00:48
Thank you. I'll just go to the bathroom 00:53
and get a drink myself already. That's 00:57
even worse than being around Ducka. 00:59
Excuse me. Sorry. Um, do you speak 01:02
English? No, I don't. Sorry. 01:05
[Music] 01:10
English. Do you speak it? Yes. English. 01:16
English. Do you English? English. Do you 01:20
speak it? Ha. Welcome to the Easy 01:24
English podcast. Easy. How's it going? 01:27
It's going. It's going very good. That's 01:31
a very British response. So, today uh I 01:34
wanted to like in the last video 01:38
episode, test you on your British 01:40
cultural knowledge. Oh dear. 01:43
Uh so for those of you who are listening 01:47
um you can also if you'd like watch this 01:50
podcast on YouTube on our YouTube 01:53
channel. So head over there to watch us 01:55
debate some British culture topics. So 01:58
what I'm going to do is I'm going to 02:00
propose a scenario to you and maybe give 02:02
you some options about what you could 02:05
possibly do or you can you can only go 02:07
wrong. Yeah, exactly. You can volunteer 02:10
your own your own response if you like 02:12
as well. We'll see. That was last time 02:14
already. Really good. Yeah. Yeah. 02:16
Because the answers are maybe not what 02:18
you might expect. Okay. 02:20
Okay. I'm ready. So, this one I would 02:23
like to call the passive aggressive 02:26
neighbor 02:29
complaint. Passive aggressive neighbor 02:30
complaint. So, the scenario is you're in 02:32
your flat and you keep hearing that your 02:36
neighbor keeps slamming their doors very 02:39
loudly throughout the day, throughout 02:42
the night, disturbing your Sundays, and 02:44
disturbing your sleep pattern. Okay. 02:46
What not nice do you do in Britain? 02:49
What's the most appropriate way to act? 02:53
You never say anything. 02:55
Yeah. Perfect. Next question. Really? 03:00
No. No. I mean there is no real answer 03:02
for this but I just want to know what 03:04
you would do then I would mostly people 03:06
don't say anything they just suffer. 03:08
Exactly. Yeah. And probably would maybe 03:10
speak to their friends, family, everyone 03:14
else apart from the neighbor. Silent 03:16
suffering. Exactly. There's almost a 03:19
sadistic enjoyment of um suffering. Then 03:21
you can complain more to other people. 03:25
Yeah. Okay. But let's say you've really 03:27
hit a point. And we we need to talk. 03:30
Okay. Exactly. How would you go about 03:32
doing it? Well, I would I would go 03:34
there. I would knock on the door. Put on 03:37
my biggest smile. Okay. Do it now. 03:39
Oh, hia. How are you? I'm fine, thanks. 03:45
A Isn't that a beautiful day today? Have 03:48
you been out in the sun already? It's 03:51
gorgeous. 03:53
Are you the television license lady? 03:54
Hey, I'm your neighbor. You know, I'm 03:57
I'm from above. How long have you been 03:59
living there? Oh, yeah. Already for 10 04:01
years. 04:04
Oh, really? Yeah. Oh. Oh, it's so so 04:05
good to to speak, you know, have a talk. 04:08
How how are you today? Everything good? 04:10
How are the children? 04:13
Fine. I don't have children. Oh, that 04:15
was the other neighbor. 04:19
Um, you know, I'm I'm very sure you 04:21
don't do this on purpose or don't even 04:24
notice and it's really no problem at 04:27
all. Yeah. But just because you know I 04:30
get more and more tired and I have to 04:34
work very early in the morning sometimes 04:35
like the doors are quite loud. So I just 04:38
wanted to ask maybe you could try to not 04:40
like like take a notch down and maybe 04:45
just Oh gosh, I'm so sorry. Really? It's 04:48
really no problem at all. Oh, really? 04:50
Okay. Yeah. It's just, you know, 04:52
sometimes I get a bit British people say 04:53
this often. No problem at all. But why 04:54
are you there? Yeah. Yeah. 04:56
Exactly. I'm so sorry. Like I just 04:58
sometimes get a bit angry, you know, 05:01
watching the football. Oh. Oh, I get it. 05:02
Did you watch blah blah blah this 05:05
weekend? Yeah. 05:06
Y Oh, what a game. Blah blah blah blah 05:09
blah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Completely 05:13
get it. Completely get it. Just wanted 05:14
to We just want to check in also. 05:16
thought I can like take this chance to 05:19
get to know you better. Say hello to see 05:21
each other in the hallway. Get a coffee 05:25
sometime. Would be amazing to get a 05:26
coffee sometime. Okay. Okay. Thank you 05:28
so much. Have a lovely day. Just let me 05:30
know next time. I'm really loud. 05:32
Anytime. Just come down, knock on my 05:34
door, and tell me. I'm really sorry. I'm 05:35
I'm I'm sure it doesn't happen again. 05:37
Okay. Yeah. Yeah, it won't. I'm I'll try 05:40
to remember to keep it down. You have a 05:43
great day. Fabulous. Thank you so much. 05:44
Bye. Bye. 05:46
Was I doing this correctly? That was 05:50
really good. Really good. Some of the 05:53
options were to like write a letter uh 05:56
or to like go in a bit more aggressively 05:58
and be direct, but that was the perfect 06:01
balance between directness and 06:04
avoidance. I've learned a lot doing the 06:05
past years. Really good. I'm 06:08
impressed. Okay. Ah, here we go. Here's 06:10
this is a good one actually. Mhm. Very 06:13
specific. 06:15
Um you are heading towards the pub and 06:17
uh just by chance a stranger also gets 06:22
to the door at the same time as you. Oh 06:25
yeah. Okay. And you are stuck in this 06:27
what would feel like an infinite cycle 06:31
of oh you no you you first. Mhm. How do 06:33
you break this cycle of after use? 06:38
you've not quite got to the door, but 06:42
you know you're going to 06:44
or saying like, "Well, oh, I forgot 06:46
something. I actually wanted to nip in 06:49
the store before going to the park." You 06:50
go, "Bye-bye." Wow. A white lie. A white 06:52
lie. And then maybe get something from 06:55
the store. If there's a store close by 06:57
anyway, if you're in a little village 06:59
and there's no store, what do you do 07:00
then? Um, it's really good. So, 07:02
actually, I can um tell a little story I 07:04
just recently had in the supermarket in 07:08
England. Um, oh yeah, where this 07:10
happened with 07:14
um I don't know if it was well it was a 07:15
man that was already like I would say 30 07:19
years older than me or so and so we did 07:22
this back and forth back and forth 07:25
really it can go 07:28
on I was like no you come you know at 07:29
one point you already get annoyed 07:32
like want to be polite but we cannot do 07:34
this fact and then he said no you come I 07:36
want I really want to be more of a 07:40
gentleman. And then I was like, well, 07:42
okay then. Mhm. Okay. Chivalry won in 07:45
the end. Yeah. Chivalry. Chivalry. Like 07:48
the man laying down his coat over the 07:53
puddle to protect the PR fair maiden. 07:55
I don't know. He was from a generation 08:01
where it's he wanted to, you know, hold 08:04
the door open for the lady. Mhm. Which 08:08
is Do you mind 08:12
shiverous 08:14
approaches? Bit old school. Yeah. I 08:15
think I think everyone should be like 08:18
this to everyone, right? H 08:20
whatever. 08:24
Yeah. I'm not sure chivalry applies to 08:25
only men. Probably not. I find it I find 08:28
it bit well anyway outdated I would say 08:30
but he said that was a very nice smile 08:34
and I was like okay then thank you so 08:37
much lovely 08:39
thank you 08:45
I was just I was just happy that okay 08:46
this is a final sentence now it's over I 08:48
can move on okay that's that's actually 08:51
something that is very a very good hint 08:54
um for people coming to the UK UK or 08:58
just moved to the UK or so cuz that 09:00
happens often. Yeah. Yeah. Really you 09:03
can get stuck in like a groundhog day 09:04
loop just constantly 09:07
after usually the best way to do it 09:10
actually is a bit more passive 09:12
aggressive 09:13
semiirect. No, you go. No, but like hand 09:15
gestures are a big thing then. And even 09:19
like or you going to the 09:21
door after you like the first person who 09:24
grabs the door usually is the one then 09:26
as opposed to grabbing it and going in 09:29
yourself and then holding it open for 09:30
them afterwards. You'd usually be like 09:32
let's finish this but in a nice way but 09:35
still quite passive. Mhm. Mhm. Okay. 09:38
That's number two. Good. Oh, here's my 09:41
favorite one. This is so awkward and 09:45
it's happened to me on countless 09:48
occasions and it's very difficult to 09:49
know what to do and it probably happens 09:52
in Germany, but there's probably a more 09:53
direct intervention at some point. 09:55
You're with a friend. Let's say it's not 09:58
a very good friend, maybe just like an 10:01
acquaintance that you've met a few 10:03
times, okay? And you bump into them. How 10:04
are you doing? Am I with them or No, you 10:08
just bump into them. Sorry. And oh, oh, 10:10
you catch up. Oh, cool. And then you get 10:13
to that point where the conversation 10:15
wraps up. Oh, yeah. Okay, cool. Well, um 10:16
maybe I'll see you see you around. See 10:18
you next week or something. Okay, cool. 10:20
And then you both are then are very 10:22
aware that you're both going in the same 10:24
direction. 10:25
Oh, I now I would on purpose go another 10:27
way. You would purposefully go the wrong 10:31
direction. For how far? Well, only if 10:33
it's awkward. Only if Well, is it an 10:35
acquaintance or is it someone that I 10:37
don't really like? That sounds more like 10:38
it. M no, it's somewhere where you've 10:41
you don't know them so well and you've 10:43
done all of the this is my life, this is 10:44
what's happened, how's yours, and then 10:47
that's it. The there's no more 10:50
conversation after that. If there was 10:51
there can't be anymore. Well, either you 10:53
go on walking with that person and ask, 10:57
"Oh, what direction you going? Where are 11:00
you going?" No, no, you don't. You It 11:02
just happens that you start walking then 11:04
you see and then you Yeah. Yeah. And 11:05
then you can say like, well, oh, same 11:08
direction. What's your plan? Where are 11:10
you going? Or I would probably just get 11:12
something out like my phone and like 11:15
quickly look phone. Look for a message. 11:17
Look for the way, check my emails 11:20
quickly because I'm waiting for 11:23
something to go to my next do it or 11:24
you're just pretending to look through 11:26
something. Well, there's some always 11:28
something going on with the phone, isn't 11:29
there? Oh, 11:30
nah. Hello. I don't like to. No, mom. 11:33
I'm not hungry. 11:35
No, I'm not faking. You can always look 11:39
on your phone. There's always something, 11:41
right? Along with work and stuff. So, so 11:42
I would just check my phone probably, 11:46
wait 2 minutes or 1 minute and then just 11:47
go. Two good options. That's two very 11:49
good options. My option that I usually 11:52
go for is I don't go in the wrong 11:54
direction. The foam one seems 11:56
obvious. Mine is 12:00
dropping the milk. No, mine is go for an 12:03
extreme speed. Either extremely slow and 12:08
let them go ahead of you and you're 12:10
still going the right direction or go 12:12
extremely fast, but you have to be very 12:14
aware that you're going to have to keep 12:16
up that pace until they're out. They 12:17
also need to run because they're late or 12:19
so. Then you both run next to each 12:21
other. I mean, that is more awkward. 12:22
You both decided to go for the extreme 12:27
pace one. Yeah. And then Well, and then 12:29
the phone whilst running. 12:33
Yeah. Then falling over. Then you have 12:36
the whole thing that someone has to call 12:39
an ambulance and and now you're best 12:40
friends. 12:43
There you go. That's how you make 12:45
friends. But this is a very common 12:46
thing. And it's super awkward for Brits. 12:48
Brits are terrified of this 12:50
happening. So much so that they might 12:53
even say, "Oh, where are you going?" And 12:55
then go the other one. No. No. But like 12:57
just so they know this situation won't 12:59
happen. 13:01
Like if I was going to the shops, I had 13:04
my shopping bag and then I spoke to 13:05
someone and they also had shopping bags 13:07
and they said, "Oh, oh, are you going to 13:09
the shop as well?" after we finished and 13:11
there's nothing left to say. I'd be 13:13
like, "No, no, I'm just going home just 13:14
with shopping bags in my 13:16
hand." Or I would be like, "Uh, yeah, 13:18
but I'm going to the other one." But I 13:22
wouldn't go to the other one. I'd go the 13:24
long way around to the same shop and 13:25
hope that they've left the shop as I'm 13:26
going in. So, also like how do you stop 13:28
the talk if you're in the supermarket, 13:30
for example? Oh, that's even worse. How 13:32
do Well, you can always do this right 13:34
thing, right? Obviously, you're not 13:37
sitting, but you can always like, right, 13:38
I really have to, right? Get get going. 13:40
Yeah, that's good. Family's waiting for 13:43
lunch, right? Is also the sign of the 13:44
conversation is coming to an end or 13:47
over. Yeah, I thought you I thought you 13:49
were saying I thought you were saying 13:51
you speak to them and then you see them 13:53
again in the supermarket and there's no 13:54
more conversation left to have. Oh, hi 13:56
again. Oh god, you again. Oh god, that 13:59
cheese. So, what cheese is your 14:02
favorite? Bri. 14:03
Bree is a good one, right? But not 14:08
always. 14:10
Okay, that's really good. What do you 14:12
make for dinner? Yeah, exactly. Yeah. 14:14
Oh, yeah. You know, you can't eat them 14:17
raw. They're poisonous. Did you know 14:18
that? Is that true? 14:20
Okay, go on. 14:23
[Music] 14:26
Okay, here's an interesting one. 14:27
So you um see someone again who's maybe 14:30
like somewhere between stranger, 14:35
acquaintance in that kind of outside the 14:37
frame. Oh dear. All those weird in 14:39
between people. This is where the 14:41
awkwardnesses lie. Mhm. And um they say 14:43
to you, "Oh, you look nice today." And 14:47
you get the feeling it might be a bit 14:51
like, "Oh, you look a bit rough." I 14:54
thought flirty. Like ironic. Oh yeah. 14:57
Oh. What do you do? Do you pretend 15:01
knowing that it felt backhanded? Do you 15:05
just think, "No, I'm just going to think 15:07
that they're being completely honest." 15:09
Do you go direct at them and say, "Oh, 15:11
what do you mean?" Or do you just No, I 15:13
never. What do you mean? I would just 15:17
either say, "Oh, thank you. You, too." 15:18
But would you say it back in a more also 15:23
in an ironic way just in case? No. Or I 15:25
would just or you even if you're aware 15:29
that it might not have it might not be a 15:31
compliment maybe you go for like oh yeah 15:34
yeah just got this jacket new is cool in 15:37
it 15:39
like go forward straight forward 15:41
yeah or just like I feel very good today 15:45
that must you must see that that's 15:49
pretty good huh what about would you I 15:52
would think about returning the same 15:55
thing back in the Same manner manif 15:56
aggressive. Exactly. But Brits are not 16:00
passive aggressive. Ah, you too. 16:01
Do you think not laughing? Do you think 16:05
Brits are passive aggressive? Yeah, 16:06
absolutely. 16:09
We have a studio in the basement and 16:14
that's the to someone's toilet. I think 16:16
to the toilet. Okay, here comes a good 16:19
one. Y you're in the pub with work 16:21
colleagues. You turn up and someone 16:25
stands up. Hey guys, what would you 16:28
like? 16:30
You say, "Oh, thank you. I would take a 16:31
whatever." Guinness yoga bomb. Thank you 16:35
very much. 16:37
And they get it for you. And then the 16:40
next person gets another round in. 16:43
That's the word. Gets a round in. And 16:46
then 16:48
you need to leave. M you're the third 16:49
and there's still four other people that 16:53
haven't bought around in and you have to 16:56
leave. Mhm. What do you do? You have to 16:57
leave in like 10 minutes, which is kind 17:00
of around. 17:02
How quickly do you drink your beer? 17:05
Well, um if I still fancy a drink, then 17:08
I would quickly get one cuz then then 17:12
I'm out of it. Otherwise, or do I still 17:14
get all the other 17:17
drinks? I think I would just say I have 17:18
to leave soon. Cheers. Cheers for the 17:22
drinks. Next time it's my round. 17:24
Okay. But what what if Okay, that's 17:28
good. And what if someone else gets up 17:30
and wants to get in another round, but 17:33
you know, you probably won't finish your 17:34
beer in time, like you said. I know. 17:36
Well, then I say yeah, skip me. Thanks. 17:38
I have to leave soon. But you would say 17:40
to people, next time, next time it's 17:42
it's on me. Very good. And then it would 17:44
never be on me, you know. Of course. And 17:47
then No, no, those things are really 17:50
important. The next time you get the 17:51
first round. Yeah. So that it's not the 17:53
same story again. She always leaves 17:55
after two rounds. There are people that 17:57
do that. I know people that do that. I 17:59
actually also know people that do that. 18:01
Like round 18:03
dippers. Round duckers. 18:04
Round ducker. Yeah. Really? And you can 18:08
do this and you will probably think 18:12
like, "Oh great, I did it again." and no 18:14
one mention anything. Everyone 18:18
remembers. Everyone will remember. 18:20
They'll come and they'll and then if 18:22
they were the one of the three people 18:24
that got the round the first that first 18:25
night, they will probably not they'll 18:27
wait around for someone else to say, 18:30
"Okay, what's everyone having, but not 18:31
for long cuz they don't want to make it 18:34
awkward, but they will stay a bit quiet 18:36
at the beginning." Oh god. And then at 18:38
one point people know know it or have 18:41
experienced it so often with this person 18:43
that everyone no one gets around and 18:46
everyone was just sitting around like 18:47
and there's that one person and then 18:49
eventually I was like right what do you 18:50
want then and then we were like but then 18:53
I would just get a I would just go to 18:56
the bathroom and get a drink myself 18:59
already but ah I was just at the Lou 19:01
anyway just got a drink. That's even 19:04
worse than being around Ducka. 19:06
Yeah, but if I always did the rounds, 19:09
then I just do that and that person 19:11
That's even worse. I mean, it will never 19:14
get to that point where someone won't 19:16
get around in. But you could sit there 19:18
for an hour and then everyone's just 19:21
right, let's go home. What a lovely 19:22
evening in passive aggressive or waiting 19:27
for the next person to be like, "Why 19:30
don't you have drinks yet? Should I get 19:31
one?" Yeah. Great. Thank god. 19:32
That was really good. Wow. you've 19:36
answered all of these really well. So, 19:38
um yeah, I wanted to do another one, but 19:40
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[English]
Passive aggressive neighbor complaint.
Hi, I'm your neighbor. You know, I'm I'm
from above. Sometimes like the doors are
quite loud. Gosh, I'm so sorry. Really?
It's really no problem at all. Yeah.
Yeah, it won't. I'm I'll try to remember
to keep it down. You have a great day.
Fabulous. Thank you so much. Bye. Bye.
This is so awkward and it's happened to
me on countless occasions. Oh, great. I
did it again and no one mentioned
anything but everyone remembers.
Everyone will remember just constantly
after I mean that is more awkward.
You got cheese. Oh, what cheese is your
favorite? Bri
and I was like okay then. Thank you so
much. Lovely.
Thank you. I'll just go to the bathroom
and get a drink myself already. That's
even worse than being around Ducka.
Excuse me. Sorry. Um, do you speak
English? No, I don't. Sorry.
[Music]
English. Do you speak it? Yes. English.
English. Do you English? English. Do you
speak it? Ha. Welcome to the Easy
English podcast. Easy. How's it going?
It's going. It's going very good. That's
a very British response. So, today uh I
wanted to like in the last video
episode, test you on your British
cultural knowledge. Oh dear.
Uh so for those of you who are listening
um you can also if you'd like watch this
podcast on YouTube on our YouTube
channel. So head over there to watch us
debate some British culture topics. So
what I'm going to do is I'm going to
propose a scenario to you and maybe give
you some options about what you could
possibly do or you can you can only go
wrong. Yeah, exactly. You can volunteer
your own your own response if you like
as well. We'll see. That was last time
already. Really good. Yeah. Yeah.
Because the answers are maybe not what
you might expect. Okay.
Okay. I'm ready. So, this one I would
like to call the passive aggressive
neighbor
complaint. Passive aggressive neighbor
complaint. So, the scenario is you're in
your flat and you keep hearing that your
neighbor keeps slamming their doors very
loudly throughout the day, throughout
the night, disturbing your Sundays, and
disturbing your sleep pattern. Okay.
What not nice do you do in Britain?
What's the most appropriate way to act?
You never say anything.
Yeah. Perfect. Next question. Really?
No. No. I mean there is no real answer
for this but I just want to know what
you would do then I would mostly people
don't say anything they just suffer.
Exactly. Yeah. And probably would maybe
speak to their friends, family, everyone
else apart from the neighbor. Silent
suffering. Exactly. There's almost a
sadistic enjoyment of um suffering. Then
you can complain more to other people.
Yeah. Okay. But let's say you've really
hit a point. And we we need to talk.
Okay. Exactly. How would you go about
doing it? Well, I would I would go
there. I would knock on the door. Put on
my biggest smile. Okay. Do it now.
Oh, hia. How are you? I'm fine, thanks.
A Isn't that a beautiful day today? Have
you been out in the sun already? It's
gorgeous.
Are you the television license lady?
Hey, I'm your neighbor. You know, I'm
I'm from above. How long have you been
living there? Oh, yeah. Already for 10
years.
Oh, really? Yeah. Oh. Oh, it's so so
good to to speak, you know, have a talk.
How how are you today? Everything good?
How are the children?
Fine. I don't have children. Oh, that
was the other neighbor.
Um, you know, I'm I'm very sure you
don't do this on purpose or don't even
notice and it's really no problem at
all. Yeah. But just because you know I
get more and more tired and I have to
work very early in the morning sometimes
like the doors are quite loud. So I just
wanted to ask maybe you could try to not
like like take a notch down and maybe
just Oh gosh, I'm so sorry. Really? It's
really no problem at all. Oh, really?
Okay. Yeah. It's just, you know,
sometimes I get a bit British people say
this often. No problem at all. But why
are you there? Yeah. Yeah.
Exactly. I'm so sorry. Like I just
sometimes get a bit angry, you know,
watching the football. Oh. Oh, I get it.
Did you watch blah blah blah this
weekend? Yeah.
Y Oh, what a game. Blah blah blah blah
blah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Completely
get it. Completely get it. Just wanted
to We just want to check in also.
thought I can like take this chance to
get to know you better. Say hello to see
each other in the hallway. Get a coffee
sometime. Would be amazing to get a
coffee sometime. Okay. Okay. Thank you
so much. Have a lovely day. Just let me
know next time. I'm really loud.
Anytime. Just come down, knock on my
door, and tell me. I'm really sorry. I'm
I'm I'm sure it doesn't happen again.
Okay. Yeah. Yeah, it won't. I'm I'll try
to remember to keep it down. You have a
great day. Fabulous. Thank you so much.
Bye. Bye.
Was I doing this correctly? That was
really good. Really good. Some of the
options were to like write a letter uh
or to like go in a bit more aggressively
and be direct, but that was the perfect
balance between directness and
avoidance. I've learned a lot doing the
past years. Really good. I'm
impressed. Okay. Ah, here we go. Here's
this is a good one actually. Mhm. Very
specific.
Um you are heading towards the pub and
uh just by chance a stranger also gets
to the door at the same time as you. Oh
yeah. Okay. And you are stuck in this
what would feel like an infinite cycle
of oh you no you you first. Mhm. How do
you break this cycle of after use?
you've not quite got to the door, but
you know you're going to
or saying like, "Well, oh, I forgot
something. I actually wanted to nip in
the store before going to the park." You
go, "Bye-bye." Wow. A white lie. A white
lie. And then maybe get something from
the store. If there's a store close by
anyway, if you're in a little village
and there's no store, what do you do
then? Um, it's really good. So,
actually, I can um tell a little story I
just recently had in the supermarket in
England. Um, oh yeah, where this
happened with
um I don't know if it was well it was a
man that was already like I would say 30
years older than me or so and so we did
this back and forth back and forth
really it can go
on I was like no you come you know at
one point you already get annoyed
like want to be polite but we cannot do
this fact and then he said no you come I
want I really want to be more of a
gentleman. And then I was like, well,
okay then. Mhm. Okay. Chivalry won in
the end. Yeah. Chivalry. Chivalry. Like
the man laying down his coat over the
puddle to protect the PR fair maiden.
I don't know. He was from a generation
where it's he wanted to, you know, hold
the door open for the lady. Mhm. Which
is Do you mind
shiverous
approaches? Bit old school. Yeah. I
think I think everyone should be like
this to everyone, right? H
whatever.
Yeah. I'm not sure chivalry applies to
only men. Probably not. I find it I find
it bit well anyway outdated I would say
but he said that was a very nice smile
and I was like okay then thank you so
much lovely
thank you
I was just I was just happy that okay
this is a final sentence now it's over I
can move on okay that's that's actually
something that is very a very good hint
um for people coming to the UK UK or
just moved to the UK or so cuz that
happens often. Yeah. Yeah. Really you
can get stuck in like a groundhog day
loop just constantly
after usually the best way to do it
actually is a bit more passive
aggressive
semiirect. No, you go. No, but like hand
gestures are a big thing then. And even
like or you going to the
door after you like the first person who
grabs the door usually is the one then
as opposed to grabbing it and going in
yourself and then holding it open for
them afterwards. You'd usually be like
let's finish this but in a nice way but
still quite passive. Mhm. Mhm. Okay.
That's number two. Good. Oh, here's my
favorite one. This is so awkward and
it's happened to me on countless
occasions and it's very difficult to
know what to do and it probably happens
in Germany, but there's probably a more
direct intervention at some point.
You're with a friend. Let's say it's not
a very good friend, maybe just like an
acquaintance that you've met a few
times, okay? And you bump into them. How
are you doing? Am I with them or No, you
just bump into them. Sorry. And oh, oh,
you catch up. Oh, cool. And then you get
to that point where the conversation
wraps up. Oh, yeah. Okay, cool. Well, um
maybe I'll see you see you around. See
you next week or something. Okay, cool.
And then you both are then are very
aware that you're both going in the same
direction.
Oh, I now I would on purpose go another
way. You would purposefully go the wrong
direction. For how far? Well, only if
it's awkward. Only if Well, is it an
acquaintance or is it someone that I
don't really like? That sounds more like
it. M no, it's somewhere where you've
you don't know them so well and you've
done all of the this is my life, this is
what's happened, how's yours, and then
that's it. The there's no more
conversation after that. If there was
there can't be anymore. Well, either you
go on walking with that person and ask,
"Oh, what direction you going? Where are
you going?" No, no, you don't. You It
just happens that you start walking then
you see and then you Yeah. Yeah. And
then you can say like, well, oh, same
direction. What's your plan? Where are
you going? Or I would probably just get
something out like my phone and like
quickly look phone. Look for a message.
Look for the way, check my emails
quickly because I'm waiting for
something to go to my next do it or
you're just pretending to look through
something. Well, there's some always
something going on with the phone, isn't
there? Oh,
nah. Hello. I don't like to. No, mom.
I'm not hungry.
No, I'm not faking. You can always look
on your phone. There's always something,
right? Along with work and stuff. So, so
I would just check my phone probably,
wait 2 minutes or 1 minute and then just
go. Two good options. That's two very
good options. My option that I usually
go for is I don't go in the wrong
direction. The foam one seems
obvious. Mine is
dropping the milk. No, mine is go for an
extreme speed. Either extremely slow and
let them go ahead of you and you're
still going the right direction or go
extremely fast, but you have to be very
aware that you're going to have to keep
up that pace until they're out. They
also need to run because they're late or
so. Then you both run next to each
other. I mean, that is more awkward.
You both decided to go for the extreme
pace one. Yeah. And then Well, and then
the phone whilst running.
Yeah. Then falling over. Then you have
the whole thing that someone has to call
an ambulance and and now you're best
friends.
There you go. That's how you make
friends. But this is a very common
thing. And it's super awkward for Brits.
Brits are terrified of this
happening. So much so that they might
even say, "Oh, where are you going?" And
then go the other one. No. No. But like
just so they know this situation won't
happen.
Like if I was going to the shops, I had
my shopping bag and then I spoke to
someone and they also had shopping bags
and they said, "Oh, oh, are you going to
the shop as well?" after we finished and
there's nothing left to say. I'd be
like, "No, no, I'm just going home just
with shopping bags in my
hand." Or I would be like, "Uh, yeah,
but I'm going to the other one." But I
wouldn't go to the other one. I'd go the
long way around to the same shop and
hope that they've left the shop as I'm
going in. So, also like how do you stop
the talk if you're in the supermarket,
for example? Oh, that's even worse. How
do Well, you can always do this right
thing, right? Obviously, you're not
sitting, but you can always like, right,
I really have to, right? Get get going.
Yeah, that's good. Family's waiting for
lunch, right? Is also the sign of the
conversation is coming to an end or
over. Yeah, I thought you I thought you
were saying I thought you were saying
you speak to them and then you see them
again in the supermarket and there's no
more conversation left to have. Oh, hi
again. Oh god, you again. Oh god, that
cheese. So, what cheese is your
favorite? Bri.
Bree is a good one, right? But not
always.
Okay, that's really good. What do you
make for dinner? Yeah, exactly. Yeah.
Oh, yeah. You know, you can't eat them
raw. They're poisonous. Did you know
that? Is that true?
Okay, go on.
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Okay, here's an interesting one.
So you um see someone again who's maybe
like somewhere between stranger,
acquaintance in that kind of outside the
frame. Oh dear. All those weird in
between people. This is where the
awkwardnesses lie. Mhm. And um they say
to you, "Oh, you look nice today." And
you get the feeling it might be a bit
like, "Oh, you look a bit rough." I
thought flirty. Like ironic. Oh yeah.
Oh. What do you do? Do you pretend
knowing that it felt backhanded? Do you
just think, "No, I'm just going to think
that they're being completely honest."
Do you go direct at them and say, "Oh,
what do you mean?" Or do you just No, I
never. What do you mean? I would just
either say, "Oh, thank you. You, too."
But would you say it back in a more also
in an ironic way just in case? No. Or I
would just or you even if you're aware
that it might not have it might not be a
compliment maybe you go for like oh yeah
yeah just got this jacket new is cool in
it
like go forward straight forward
yeah or just like I feel very good today
that must you must see that that's
pretty good huh what about would you I
would think about returning the same
thing back in the Same manner manif
aggressive. Exactly. But Brits are not
passive aggressive. Ah, you too.
Do you think not laughing? Do you think
Brits are passive aggressive? Yeah,
absolutely.
We have a studio in the basement and
that's the to someone's toilet. I think
to the toilet. Okay, here comes a good
one. Y you're in the pub with work
colleagues. You turn up and someone
stands up. Hey guys, what would you
like?
You say, "Oh, thank you. I would take a
whatever." Guinness yoga bomb. Thank you
very much.
And they get it for you. And then the
next person gets another round in.
That's the word. Gets a round in. And
then
you need to leave. M you're the third
and there's still four other people that
haven't bought around in and you have to
leave. Mhm. What do you do? You have to
leave in like 10 minutes, which is kind
of around.
How quickly do you drink your beer?
Well, um if I still fancy a drink, then
I would quickly get one cuz then then
I'm out of it. Otherwise, or do I still
get all the other
drinks? I think I would just say I have
to leave soon. Cheers. Cheers for the
drinks. Next time it's my round.
Okay. But what what if Okay, that's
good. And what if someone else gets up
and wants to get in another round, but
you know, you probably won't finish your
beer in time, like you said. I know.
Well, then I say yeah, skip me. Thanks.
I have to leave soon. But you would say
to people, next time, next time it's
it's on me. Very good. And then it would
never be on me, you know. Of course. And
then No, no, those things are really
important. The next time you get the
first round. Yeah. So that it's not the
same story again. She always leaves
after two rounds. There are people that
do that. I know people that do that. I
actually also know people that do that.
Like round
dippers. Round duckers.
Round ducker. Yeah. Really? And you can
do this and you will probably think
like, "Oh great, I did it again." and no
one mention anything. Everyone
remembers. Everyone will remember.
They'll come and they'll and then if
they were the one of the three people
that got the round the first that first
night, they will probably not they'll
wait around for someone else to say,
"Okay, what's everyone having, but not
for long cuz they don't want to make it
awkward, but they will stay a bit quiet
at the beginning." Oh god. And then at
one point people know know it or have
experienced it so often with this person
that everyone no one gets around and
everyone was just sitting around like
and there's that one person and then
eventually I was like right what do you
want then and then we were like but then
I would just get a I would just go to
the bathroom and get a drink myself
already but ah I was just at the Lou
anyway just got a drink. That's even
worse than being around Ducka.
Yeah, but if I always did the rounds,
then I just do that and that person
That's even worse. I mean, it will never
get to that point where someone won't
get around in. But you could sit there
for an hour and then everyone's just
right, let's go home. What a lovely
evening in passive aggressive or waiting
for the next person to be like, "Why
don't you have drinks yet? Should I get
one?" Yeah. Great. Thank god.
That was really good. Wow. you've
answered all of these really well. So,
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Vocabulary Meanings

passive

/ˈpæsɪv/

B2
  • adjective
  • - accepting or allowing what happens or what others do, without active response or resistance.

aggressive

/əˈɡresɪv/

B1
  • adjective
  • - ready or likely to attack or confront; characterized by or resulting from aggression.

neighbor

/ˈneɪbər/

A2
  • noun
  • - a person who lives near another.

complaint

/kəmˈpleɪnt/

B1
  • noun
  • - an expression of dissatisfaction or annoyance about something.

awkward

/ˈɔːkwərd/

B2
  • adjective
  • - causing difficulty; hard to do or deal with.

countless

/ˈkaʊntləs/

C1
  • adjective
  • - too many to be counted.

remember

/rɪˈmembər/

A2
  • verb
  • - recall to the mind.

favorite

/ˈfeɪvərɪt/

A2
  • adjective
  • - most liked or enjoyed.

bathroom

/ˈbæθruːm/

A2
  • noun
  • - a room containing a toilet and usually a bath.

speak

/spiːk/

A2
  • verb
  • - say something.

cultural

/ˈkʌltʃərəl/

B2
  • adjective
  • - relating to the ideas, customs, and social behaviour of a society.

knowledge

/ˈnɒlɪdʒ/

B2
  • noun
  • - facts, information, and skills acquired through experience or education.

debate

/dɪˈbeɪt/

B2
  • verb
  • - a formal discussion on a particular topic in which opposing arguments are put forward.

scenario

/sɪˈnɑːriəʊ/

B2
  • noun
  • - a projected sequence of events.

appropriate

/əˈprəʊpriət/

B1
  • adjective
  • - suitable or proper in the circumstances.

suffer

/ˈsʌfər/

B1
  • verb
  • - experience or be subjected to something bad or unpleasant.

silent

/ˈsaɪlənt/

A2
  • adjective
  • - not making or accompanied by any sound.

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Key Grammar Structures

  • Hi, I'm your neighbor. You know, I'm I'm from above.

    ➔ Use of 'I'm' as a contraction of 'I am'. Tag question 'You know' for engagement.

    ➔ The speaker introduces themselves and their location, using a casual tone. The repetition of 'I'm' is slightly awkward, mirroring real-life hesitation. The tag question 'You know' attempts to establish common ground.

  • Gosh, I'm so sorry. Really?

    ➔ Interjection 'Gosh' expressing surprise/mild annoyance. Use of 'so' as an intensifier. Rhetorical question 'Really?' expressing disbelief.

    ➔ The neighbor's apology feels insincere, highlighted by the 'Gosh' and the questioning 'Really?'. This demonstrates passive-aggressive behavior.

  • It's really no problem at all. Yeah.

    ➔ Use of 'really' as an intensifier. 'At all' emphasizes the lack of a problem. Filler word 'Yeah' for affirmation.

    ➔ This response is overly polite and dismissive, a common British trait. The 'Yeah' is a minimal response, indicating a desire to end the conversation.

  • You have a great day. Fabulous. Thank you so much. Bye. Bye.

    ➔ Use of conventional closings ('Have a great day', 'Bye'). Exclamatory 'Fabulous' expressing enthusiasm (potentially insincere).

    ➔ The rapid exchange of polite phrases is a way to quickly end the awkward interaction. The 'Fabulous' feels forced and insincere.

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