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>> Hi everyone and welcome back to the Cozy

English. I'm Emma

>> and I'm Daniel. It's so nice to be here

again with all of you.

>> Yes, it really is. Before we begin, I

just want to say a big thank you to you,

our listener.

Every day you choose to spend a few

quiet minutes with us, learning,

reflecting, and growing. That means a

lot.

>> Yeah, truly. It feels like we're all

sitting together just having a cozy

little chat about life.

>> Exactly. And today our topic is

something that sounds simple, but it's

one of the hardest lessons for many of

us. Learning to love yourself more than

anyone else.

>> H, that sounds deep, but also a little

confusing, right? I mean, what does it

really mean to love yourself more than

anyone else? Isn't that kind of selfish?

>> That's such a good question. And I think

that's where many people get stuck. When

we hear love yourself, we often think it

means being proud or putting yourself

first all the time. But real self-love,

it's not about ego. It's about care,

respect, and kindness toward your own

heart.

>> So, not about saying I'm the best, but

more like saying I'm enough.

>> Exactly. Loving yourself means accepting

that you're human, imperfect, sometimes

messy, sometimes lost, but still worthy

of love and peace.

>> That actually feels comforting.

But I have to admit, I find it hard to

love myself. Sometimes I feel like I'm

not doing enough or I'm not good enough.

>> Oh, Daniel, I think most of us feel that

way. Society often teaches us to look

for love and approval outside of

ourselves from parents, teachers,

partners, friends. But when that's all

we depend on, our worth becomes fragile.

>> Yeah. Like if someone doesn't like us or

if we fail at something, it suddenly

feels like we're not worthy anymore.

>> Right. But the truth is, no one else can

give you the kind of love that fills the

empty space inside.

That's your job.

You know, I remember once I was trying

to learn something new and I got so

frustrated because I couldn't get it

right. I told myself, "You're so

stupid." Later, I realized I'd never say

that to a friend.

>> That's such a good example, Daniel. We

often forget that the voice inside our

head becomes the home we live in. If

that home is full of criticism, we'll

never feel safe.

>> Wow, that's true.

>> So today, maybe we can start by simply

noticing how we talk to ourselves and

ask, would I say this to someone I love?

>> H, I like that. It's a gentle start.

Yes, gentle is the right word because

loving yourself isn't a race. It's more

like learning to walk home to yourself.

>> I like that image. Walking home to

yourself.

>> Then let's keep walking together.

>> You know, Emma, after what we talked

about earlier, I started thinking, why

is it so hard to be kind to ourselves?

Like I can forgive other people so

easily, but when it comes to me, I'm the

harshest critic.

>> That's a question I've asked myself many

times, too. I think it starts early.

When we were children, we learned to

earn love by being good, doing well,

making people proud.

Over time, we started believing that our

worth depends on how much we achieve.

>> Yeah. Like love was a reward, not

something natural.

>> Exactly. And when we grow up, that voice

stays in our head. The one that says,

"You should do better."

>> Fear.

>> Mhm. The fear of not being accepted, of

being left behind, of not being loved.

So we judge ourselves harshly because

deep down we think that's how we'll stay

good enough for the world. Wow, that

hits hard. I think that's me. Always

trying to be good enough for everyone.

>> I understand. I used to do that, too. I

remember when I first started teaching,

I was obsessed with being perfect. I'd

replay every mistake in my head after

class. A word I said wrong, a moment.

Exactly. And when we forget that, we

start believing there's something wrong

with us. So our inner critic gets louder

telling us to do more, be more, fix

more. But in reality, what we need is

less judgment, more compassion.

>> H So judging myself doesn't really help

me grow. It just keeps me stuck.

>> Yes. Because when you're always

criticizing yourself, you stop feeling

safe enough to try again. It's like

trying to bloom while someone is yelling

at you.

>> That's such a good image. Flowers don't

grow under pressure. They grow under

care.

>> Exactly. The same goes for people.

Growth happens when we feel accepted,

not when we're constantly punished.

>> But how do we unlearn that? I mean, it's

not easy to just stop judging yourself

overnight.

>> True. You can't silence that voice in

one day, but you can begin noticing it.

When that inner critic speaks, pause and

say, "Thank you for trying to protect

me, but I'm safe now."

>> Wait, thank it.

>> Yes. Because that critical voice is

actually trying to protect you. It

believes that if you do everything

right, you won't get hurt. But it's

working too hard. So you don't fight it,

you soothe it.

>> That actually makes sense. Like

comforting a scared child, not arguing

with them.

>> Exactly. When you start responding to

yourself with calm understanding, your

mind begins to trust that it's okay to

rest, to try to be imperfect.

>> You know, I think I'll start practicing

that next time I catch myself judging.

I'll say, "Hey, Daniel, it's okay.

You're trying your best."

>> That's beautiful, Daniel. That's the

beginning of healing. Learning to be

your own comfort.

>> Yeah, maybe that's how we learn to love

ourselves, by forgiving the parts we

once judged.

>> Yes, that's where real love begins. Not

in perfection, but in gentle acceptance.

Huh?

You know, Emma, I've been thinking about

what you said earlier about forgiving

yourself and speaking kindly to

yourself.

>> Well, I'll tell you a story. A few years

ago, I was going through a stressful

time. Too much work, not enough rest. I

kept pushing myself, saying, "You have

to do more."

Then one day, I just stopped and made a

cup of tea. I sat by the window and said

to myself, "You're tired. It's okay to

rest."

That tiny act, just listening to myself,

made me cry.

>> Wow, that sounds so gentle

and so human.

>> It was the first time I treated myself

the way I'd treat someone I loved.

That's the quiet power of kindness.

It doesn't shout, it heals.

>> You know, I usually tell myself to just

get over it when I feel down. But maybe

what I need is to say, "Hey, it's okay

to feel this."

>> Yes, exactly. Kindness starts with

permission. Permission to feel, to rest,

to be human.

>> It's funny. When I'm kind to others, I

feel good. But when I try to be kind to

myself, I feel guilty, like I'm being

lazy.

>> Many people feel that way. But kindness

isn't laziness. It's nourishment.

Think of it like watering a plant. If

you never water it because you think it

should survive on its own, it will

wither.

>> So, you're saying, "I've been letting my

inner plant die of thirst."

>> Maybe just a little. But the good news

is plants and people can come back to

life with a bit of care.

>> That's a nice thought, but sometimes I

don't even know what kindness looks

like. Like, what do I actually do?

>> That's a great question. Kindness

doesn't always mean big changes. It's in

small choices. Going to bed earlier,

taking a deep breath before replying to

a stressful message, writing something

you're grateful for. It can even be

saying no when you're too tired.

>> So, it's not about being selfish. It's

about being honest with yourself.

>> Exactly. When you start being honest

about what you need, you stop abandoning

yourself. That's self-love in action.

>> I like that. Stop abandoning yourself.

It feels powerful. It really is because

every time you choose kindness, you send

your heart a message. You matter. You

are worth care.

And slowly that becomes your truth.

>> I think I've been waiting for other

people to send me that message.

>> We all do, Daniel. But the moment you

realize you can give that message to

yourself, that's when you become free.

You know, I remember once I failed an

English test. I was so disappointed. But

instead of encouraging myself, I just

kept saying, "You're so bad at this."

Maybe if I had been kinder, I would have

tried again sooner.

>> Probably because kindness gives courage.

It tells you you can try again. That's

why it's so powerful. It doesn't just

make you feel better, it helps you grow.

>> That makes me want to treat myself

differently.

Not just when things go well,

but especially when they don't.

>> That's the real test of self-love.

How you treat yourself on your bad days.

>> I think I'll start small. Maybe tonight

instead of scrolling through my phone

and feeling behind, I'll just make tea

like you did and tell myself, "You did

enough today."

>> That sounds perfect because loving

yourself isn't about doing more. It's

about being gentle enough to rest in

your own heart.

>> That's beautiful, Emma.

>> It's simple, but life-changing.

Kindness is quiet, but it's the

strongest kind of love.

>> You know, Emma, I've been thinking.

Sometimes I say yes to things even when

I really don't want to, like helping a

friend when I'm exhausted, or joining an

event I don't enjoy, just because I

don't want to disappoint anyone.

>> Oh, Daniel, I think many of us do that.

We confuse kindness with pleasing

everyone.

But true kindness, especially to

yourself, often means saying no when

something doesn't feel right.

>> That's the hard part, though. When I say

no, I feel guilty, like I'm being

selfish or letting people down.

>> Yes, that guilt is familiar to a lot of

people.

We're taught that good people always

help, always say yes, always put others

first.

But the truth is, when you never set

boundaries, you slowly disappear from

your own life.

>> Disappear from your own life.

That sounds so true, but also kind of

sad.

>> It is sad because boundaries aren't

walls, they're doors. They don't push

people away. They teach others how to

walk in gently.

>> That's a beautiful image. But how do I

start setting boundaries without feeling

like a bad person?

>> Well, think of it this way. When you say

yes to everything, your yes loses its

meaning. But when you say it only when

you truly want to, it becomes honest,

powerful, and full of love.

>> H So saying no sometimes actually makes

my yes more real.

>> Exactly. When you protect your time and

energy, you're not rejecting people.

You're simply respecting yourself.

>> I like that idea. But I think my problem

is I'm afraid people will think I don't

care about them if I say no.

>> I understand. But think about this. If

someone only values you when you say

yes, then they don't really value you.

They value your usefulness.

And that's not real connection.

>> O, that hits deep.

>> I know it's a hard truth. But setting

boundaries is an act of self-respect.

And people who truly love you, they'll

understand.

They'll even admire your honesty.

>> I remember one time my friend asked me

to help him move. I had already worked a

long day and just wanted to rest, but I

said yes anyway. The next day, I was so

tired I snapped at him. It made things

worse. Yes, that happens often when we

say yes out of guilt. Resentment grows

quietly underneath.

Then we start feeling tired, frustrated,

even distant from people we care about.

>> Yeah. I wish I had just said, "I'd love

to help, but I need to rest tonight.

Maybe tomorrow."

That would have been honest and kind.

>> Exactly. Boundaries don't have to sound

harsh. You can say no with love. You can

say, "I appreciate you asking, but I

can't right now." Or, "That sounds

great, but always." Because when you

respect your limits, you invite others

to do the same. And that creates

relationships built on truth, not

obligation.

>> So, loving yourself also means

protecting your peace. Even if others

don't understand right away.

>> Yes, you cannot pour from an empty cup.

When you care for yourself first, you

give others your best, not your

leftovers.

>> I love that. Not your leftovers. I'll

remember that.

>> Please do. Boundaries aren't barriers.

They're bridges that lead to healthy

love, both for yourself and for others.

Hm. You know what? Next time I feel

guilty for saying no, I'll remind myself

that it's not rejection, it's

selfrespect.

>> That's a beautiful promise to yourself,

Daniel. So, Daniel, we've talked about

kindness, forgiveness, and boundaries,

but all of those things lead to one

final truth. Learning to become your own

safe place. H I love that phrase, your

own safe place.

But what does that really mean, Emma?

>> It means being someone you can come home

to. Someone who doesn't run away when

life gets hard. It's the feeling of

knowing that no matter what happens,

you'll treat yourself with care, not

punishment.

>> I see. So instead of looking for safety

in someone else, a partner, a friend, a

teacher, you start building that feeling

inside yourself.

>> Exactly. Because if your peace depends

on other people, it will always be

fragile. But when it comes from within,

no one can take it away.

>> That sounds like the kind of strength I

want. Quiet, steady, gentle. Yes, gentle

strength.

You know, there was a time when I used

to search for people who could make me

feel enough. But no matter how kind or

loving they were, that feeling never

lasted.

One day, I realized it wasn't their job,

it was mine.

>> Wow, that's powerful. So I started

spending time alone, not in loneliness,

but in connection with myself. I take a

walk, journal my feelings, listen to

music that comforted me. Slowly, I

learned that peace isn't given, it's

grown.

>> That reminds me of something. When I

feel anxious, I usually try to distract

myself, call someone, scroll on my

phone. But recently, I tried something

different. I just sat quietly, placed my

hand on my chest, and said, "It's okay.

You're safe." It felt strange at first,

but also calming.

>> That's exactly it, Daniel. You were

being your own safe place. You were

giving yourself what you needed.

Comfort, presence, reassurance. It's

interesting. I always thought loving

yourself meant confidence or success,

but now it feels more like being gentle

with your heart.

>> You're absolutely right. Self love isn't

loud. It's quiet. Like a whisper that

says, "I'm here for you even when you

fail. Even when you're lost.

Even when no one else understands.

That kind of love feels peaceful.

Not proud, not dramatic, just

steady.

That's the love that lasts. When you

become your own safe place, you stop

chasing love that hurts. You stop

begging for validation.

You start building a home inside you,

one that no storm can destroy. a home

inside you.

I love that image.

>> It's true. You carry your peace wherever

you go. That's what it means to love

yourself more than anyone else. Not

because you think you're better, but

because you've learned to care for your

own soul.

>> You know, Emma,

this conversation really changed how I

see self-love.

It's not about being perfect or always

positive. It's about being kind enough

to stay with yourself even when things

fall apart.

>> Beautifully said, Daniel. That's the

heart of it.

As we close today's episode, I want to

invite you, our listener, to take a

quiet moment for yourself.

Maybe place your hand on your heart,

take a deep breath, and whisper softly,

"I'm here.

I'm enough.

I'm safe with myself."

>> Yeah. Try to remember that even on hard

days, you can be your own comfort.

You don't have to wait for someone else

to make you feel loved.

You already have that power inside you.

>> Exactly. And every small act of care,

resting, forgiving, saying no, or simply

breathing is a way of saying I love you

to yourself.

>> I think I'll end my night with that. A

quiet I love you to myself.

>> That's perfect, Daniel. And to everyone

listening, thank you for sharing this

moment with us. We hope you remember you

are never too much, never too little,

and always deserving of your own love.

>> Take care everyone.

>> Until next time, stay cozy, stay kind,

and stay close to your heart.

Key Vocabulary

Vocabulary	Meanings
love /lʌv/ A1	noun - a strong feeling of affection verb - to cherish someone adjective - feeling or showing love
care /kɛər/ A1	noun - feeling of worry or concern verb - to have concern for someone
respect /rɪˈspɛkt/ A2	noun - polite regard for someone verb - to regard with gratitude
forgive /fərˈɡɪv/ B1	verb - to stop being angry with someone
accept /əkˈsɛpt/ A2	verb - to receive or approve something
kindness /ˈkaɪndnəs/ A2	noun - quality of being friendly and generous
compassion /kəmˈpæʃən/ C1	noun - sympathetic pity and concern
peace /piːs/ A2	noun - a state of harmony
safe /seɪf/ A1	adjective - protected from danger
gentle /ˈdʒɛntl/ B1	adjective - mild and kind in behavior
judge /dʒʌdʒ/ B1	noun - a person who evaluates verb - to form an opinion about someone
voice /vɔɪs/ A1	noun - a sound made by speaking
heart /hɑːrt/ A1	noun - the center of emotions
protect /prəˈtɛkt/ A2	verb - to keep safe from harm
worth /wɜːrθ/ B1	noun - value or importance adjective - having a value
rest /rɛst/ A1	noun - a period of relaxation verb - to stop working
grow /ɡroʊ/ A1	verb - to increase in size or amount
whisper /ˈwɪspər/ B1	noun - a soft spoken word verb - to speak quietly