[English]
[Music]
Hello and welcome back to a new episode.
I'm really happy that you're here today.
Before we jump into the topic, let me
tell you a little story. Last Sunday was
my free day. I had a few small things on
my to-do list. Some grocery shopping,
taking my bike to the repair shop,
answering emails, doing the laundry.
Nothing big, just small tasks that
needed to be done. So, I woke up, made
myself a cup of coffee, and looked at my
list full of motivation.
But the moment I looked at it, boom, my
energy disappeared.
Suddenly, I felt tired, annoyed, and
kind of overwhelmed. And guess what I
did? I lay down on the sofa, grabbed my
phone, opened YouTube shorts, and said
to myself, "Just 5 minutes."
Well, 5 minutes turned into 4 hours. I
was still lying there now with a soda
and some snacks and my to-do list still
100% untouched. Do you know that
feeling? And that's exactly what we're
talking about today. why we sometimes
feel so undisiplined
and what we can do about it without
feeling bad about ourselves.
Many people say things like, "I'm just
lazy by nature." Or, "That's just who I
am. I've always been like this." But
that's not true. Nobody is born
disciplined. Discipline isn't a
personality trait or a talent. It's a
skill. And the good news is skills can
be trained. Our brain loves what feels
good right now and avoids things that
feel hard or stressful. Think about it
for a moment. Why do we love watching
series, playing games, or scrolling
through videos? The answer is simple.
Because it's easy. There's no pressure,
no effort, no stress. You just press
play and instantly get a little shot of
pleasure. And that's where the problem
starts. Our to-do list often feels huge.
Not just because it's long, but because
we write it in a way that feels too big
and abstract. We say things like, "Speak
a new language fluently. Get fit and
healthy.
Build a strong morning routine."
Sounds great, right? But when it's time
to actually do something, we freeze.
Because
where do you even start? That's the
problem. These kinds of goals are too
big, too vague, like clouds you can't
really touch. So, what helps in these
moments? Simple.
Make your goals smaller and more
specific. Instead of saying, "I want to
lose weight," try, "I'll move my body
for 15 minutes today," and stop eating
after 8:00 p.m., instead of, "I want to
speak Spanish fluently," say, "I'll
learn five new words today," and say
them out loud. The clearer your goal,
the easier it is for your brain to
start. Because your brain doesn't need
to decide what to do. It just needs to
do it. But what if your brain still
says, "Ugh, not now. I just don't feel
like it." Then try this trick. Tell
yourself, "I'll do it for only 3
minutes.
Then I can stop 3 minutes." That's
nothing, right? But that's what makes it
work. You take the pressure away and you
trick your brain a little. And what's
interesting is once you start, it's
usually not as bad as you thought. you
often keep going longer, maybe 10, maybe
20 minutes, just because you've already
done the hardest part, starting. If you
notice that you often fall into the just
checking my phone trap, then build small
interruptions into your routine. For
example, after 1 minute, put your phone
face down. It sounds simple, but that
tiny action can be enough to stop the
dopamine wave before it pulls you in
completely. Another tip, create small
visual cues that lead you directly to
action. For example, keep the document
you're working on open on your laptop,
right there in your taskbar, so the
first thing you see isn't social media,
but your project. That way, you don't
waste time deciding what to do. You just
click and start working before
distractions even begin. And I use the
same trick myself with my desktop
wallpaper. It might sound a bit funny,
but it really helps me stay focused.
Whenever I have something important to
do, I put it right in the bright center
of the screen where my eyes go first.
Sometimes it's not laziness that stops
us. It's perfectionism.
We think if I can't do it perfectly,
it's not worth doing at all. For
example, you promise yourself, "I'll
exercise for 1 hour every day." On day
one, you do it. Great. On day two,
you're tired, busy, and come home late.
You tell yourself, "Okay, I'll skip
today, but I'll do it tomorrow." And
then that small thought comes. Well, I
already failed.
So, why bother? And suddenly you stop
completely.
But remember, 70% is still better than
0%.
A half-written text is better than none.
10 minutes of movement is better than a
full day of sitting. And you know what
also helps, especially on days when I
feel totally unmotivated?
Gentle social pressure. I'll be honest,
before every meeting, I get a little
nervous. That small feeling of
responsibility keeps me alert. And one
day I thought, why not use that same
feeling for my own goals?
So now I sometimes tell a friend, "Hey,
want to go jogging this afternoon?"
Or, "Do you want to learn vocabulary
with me for 10 minutes tonight?"
It's like a friendly reminder. Soft, but
strong enough to keep me accountable.
You see, it's not always about having
more discipline. Sometimes you just need
a small start. You don't have to change
your whole life today. Just pick one
small thing that matters to you and do
it because every small action you take
rewires your brain and every repetition
strengthens the person you want to
become.
Thank you so much for listening today.
If you enjoyed this episode, give it a
thumbs up, share it with your friends,
and don't forget to subscribe so you
won't miss the next one. See you in the
next episode.
[Music]
All right, let's take a moment to learn
some useful vocabulary related to
today's topic. These words will make it
easier for you to follow our
conversation and use them in real life.
The first word of today is discipline.
It means the ability to control your own
behavior and make yourself work hard or
follow rules.
Example, building good habits requires
daily discipline and patience. The next
word is procrastinate.
It means to delay doing something that
you should do, often because you don't
want to do it. Example, I always
procrastinate when it's time to clean my
room.
The next word is motivation.
It means the reason or desire that makes
you want to do something or work hard.
Example, when you have a clear goal,
it's easier to find motivation.
The next word is overwhelmed. It means
feeling like you have too much to do or
handle, unable to deal with everything.
Example, I felt overwhelmed by my long
to-do list.
The last word of today is consistency.
It means doing something regularly and
not giving up even when it's difficult.
Example, success doesn't come from one
big effort, but from daily consistency.
[Music]
All right, time to challenge yourself a
bit. Let's listen to the conversation
again, this time without subtitles. See
how much you can understand.
[Music]
Hello and welcome back to a new episode.
I'm really happy that you're here today.
Before we jump into the topic, let me
tell you a little story. Last Sunday was
my free day. I had a few small things on
my to-do list. Some grocery shopping,
taking my bike to the repair shop,
answering emails, doing the laundry.
Nothing big, just small tasks that
needed to be done. So, I woke up, made
myself a cup of coffee, and looked at my
list full of motivation.
But the moment I looked at it, boom, my
energy disappeared.
Suddenly, I felt tired, annoyed, and
kind of overwhelmed. And guess what I
did? I lay down on the sofa, grabbed my
phone, opened YouTube shorts, and said
to myself, "Just 5 minutes." Well, 5
minutes turned into 4 hours. I was still
lying there now with a soda and some
snacks and my to-do list still 100%
untouched. Do you know that feeling? And
that's exactly what we're talking about
today. why we sometimes feel so
undisiplined
and what we can do about it without
feeling bad about ourselves.
Many people say things like, "I'm just
lazy by nature." Or, "That's just who I
am. I've always been like this." But
that's not true. Nobody is born
disciplined. Discipline isn't a
personality trait or a talent. It's a
skill. And the good news is skills can
be trained. Our brain loves what feels
good right now and avoids things that
feel hard or stressful. Think about it
for a moment. Why do we love watching
series, playing games, or scrolling
through videos? The answer is simple.
Because it's easy. There's no pressure,
no effort, no stress. You just press
play and instantly get a little shot of
pleasure. And that's where the problem
starts. Our to-do list often feels huge,
not just because it's long, but because
we write it in a way that feels too big
and abstract. We say things like, "Speak
a new language fluently. Get fit and
healthy, build a strong morning
routine."
Sounds great, right? But when it's time
to actually do something, we freeze.
Because
where do you even start? That's the
problem. These kinds of goals are too
big, too vague, like clouds you can't
really touch. So, what helps in these
moments? Simple.
Make your goals smaller and more
specific. Instead of saying, "I want to
lose weight," try, "I'll move my body
for 15 minutes today," and stop eating
after 8:00 p.m., instead of, "I want to
speak Spanish fluently," say, "I'll
learn five new words today," and say
them out loud. The clearer your goal,
the easier it is for your brain to
start. Because your brain doesn't need
to decide what to do. It just needs to
do it. But what if your brain still
says, "Ugh, not now. I just don't feel
like it." Then try this trick. Tell
yourself, "I'll do it for only 3
minutes.
Then I can stop 3 minutes." That's
nothing, right? But that's what makes it
work. You take the pressure away and you
trick your brain a little. And what's
interesting is once you start, it's
usually not as bad as you thought. you
often keep going longer, maybe 10, maybe
20 minutes, just because you've already
done the hardest part, starting. If you
notice that you often fall into the just
checking my phone trap, then build small
interruptions into your routine. For
example, after 1 minute, put your phone
face down. It sounds simple, but that
tiny action can be enough to stop the
dopamine wave before it pulls you in
completely. Another tip, create small
visual cues that lead you directly to
action. For example, keep the document
you're working on open on your laptop,
right there in your taskbar, so the
first thing you see isn't social media,
but your project. That way, you don't
waste time deciding what to do. You just
click and start working before
distractions even begin. And I use the
same trick myself with my desktop
wallpaper. It might sound a bit funny,
but it really helps me stay focused.
Whenever I have something important to
do, I put it right in the bright center
of the screen where my eyes go first.
Sometimes it's not laziness that stops
us. It's perfectionism.
We think, "If I can't do it perfectly,
it's not worth doing at all." For
example, you promise yourself, "I'll
exercise for 1 hour every day." On day
one, you do it. Great. On day two,
you're tired, busy, and come home late.
You tell yourself, "Okay, I'll skip
today, but I'll do it tomorrow." And
then that small thought comes. Well, I
already failed.
So, why bother? And suddenly you stop
completely. But remember, 70% is still
better than 0%.
A half-written text is better than none.
10 minutes of movement is better than a
full day of sitting. And you know what
also helps, especially on days when I
feel totally unmotivated?
Gentle social pressure. I'll be honest,
before every meeting, I get a little
nervous. That small feeling of
responsibility keeps me alert. And one
day I thought, why not use that same
feeling for my own goals?
So now I sometimes tell a friend, "Hey,
want to go jogging this afternoon?"
Or, "Do you want to learn vocabulary
with me for 10 minutes tonight?"
It's like a friendly reminder. Soft, but
strong enough to keep me accountable.
You see, it's not always about having
more discipline. Sometimes you just need
a small start. You don't have to change
your whole life today. Just pick one
small thing that matters to you and do
it because every small action you take
rewires your brain and every repetition
strengthens the person you want to
become.
Thank you so much for listening today.
If you enjoyed this episode, give it a
thumbs up, share it with your friends,
and don't forget to subscribe so you
won't miss the next one. See you in the
next episode.