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it is important to not sulk now you

could call me a monk who did not sell

her Ferrari even when you go in an

airplane when they're giving that you

know emergency uh talk they say when

there will be a oxygen mask you put on

yourself first and on your child later

just say I get to do this right I get to

go to work I get to see my friends how

much is it changing your life yeah no

how many zeros can you add if you're a

millionaire or a billionaire you should

not judge a book by its cover but the

reality is that people do judge a book

by its

cover hello and welcome back to the

podcast if you're new here my name is

Sheen I'm your host and today we're

joined by the wonderful Dr Sona Sergeant

saana is a doctor philanthropist

entrepreneur artist and she's the

director at the denu group and she's

here today to share with us everything

that she has learned through her

wonderful Journey hello s welcome thank

you so much for having me here Sheen

thank you how are you doing I'm so

excited to be here cuz you know it's

just every day you don't meet somebody

like you you've got literally the Sheen

in you you got the shine and Sparkle so

I'm really happy to exchange this energy

that's so sweet honestly when I was

doing my homework for this podcast and I

was watching all of your reals I was

like your energy is contagious it's very

rare to come across people who are

bubbly and happy all the time and I'm

really happy that you're actually like

this in person as well so very excited

for this conversation so tell us a

little bit about your journey oh well

where do we start it started with

medicine right should we go there um so

why did I want to be a doctor yes um

somehow because my family we have a

family of 36 doctors at the moment you

know so uh I like how you said at the

moment like there's more because this is

ongoing right so um when you have so

many healers in your family and and

coming from the Indian diaspora you

choose things which put you at a certain

level and it becoming a doctor is always

something which is respected throughout

you know and I believe that being a

Healer in any form it's amazing and I

chose to be a doctor cuz I always looked

up to my father who's an amazing doctor

and he was always a fun person very

handsome and still he was a doctor not a

boring person so I thought okay I can be

a doctor like him and I chose to be a

doctor um that's why I chose the

profession but then um you know while I

was becoming a doctor I also experienced

that there is so much need in the

Society of you

know expensive treatments which can be

somehow delivered to the patients in

some other way possible you know to make

it available to them so that pain was

always there I mean I it could be going

back to my upbringing and also being a

sensitive person I always saw that pain

in the society even while I was in my

college I used to use my scholarship to

you know help some poor patients and

just just get their treatments done and

pay for their labs and stuff so it was

always something which was there in my

personality and then I came back to

Dubai with my family and here it looked

very glitzy and glams which is usually

the facade which people see which is

there you know Dubai is amazing uh it's

literally a realistic Utopia uh that's

how I put to Dubai but the thing is that

when you look for you will still find

places where there are needs and you can

fulfill them so that's what I looked for

and I started working with the talisia

patients in the talisia center here in

the hospital uh where I felt that it is

not just that you need to help patients

monetarily you need to give them some

time and maybe create some you know art

events or do some classes with them or

for that matter just spread uh you know

some information about the awareness of

of the of the situation what people go

through when they're in talisia so

but and then through that journey I got

you know associated with the genetic

Disease Association here H which is led

by Dr Maria matar and um she's been

working very hard to you know clear out

um tmia which is a genetic disease uh

and I along with her somehow kept

working in creating the awareness so

that was one of the things that I was

working on while all of this was going

on I got married and uh um there is a

very important division in danub called

danub welfare center so when uh our

chairman dad he saw that I'm into

helping people he said s why don't you

also join Danny welfare center and

that's when I was on the cruise and

getting my makeup done and back I had

already set up in Dubai um a team which

were doing registrations for blue colled

workers for studies okay yeah so and

then that's how the journey with welfare

center started how we because this was

one of the dreams of our chairman ran

Sergeant to help blue colored workers

you know so and that's the Journey of

them getting the education and helping

them and there are so many other things

you know while you know there is no end

to helping people because it could be

monetarily it could be education it

could be just giving them a good vibe

you know so and that's how life is and

I've been through you know those stages

and I love to give that energy to people

the good energy and that's my journey oh

wow that's beautiful and what I love is

how many times you've pivoted a little

bit you know you're you're keeping to

what you're doing but you're also like

venturing into new aspects of work and

how do you approach this you know

because you went from obviously medical

field to business field and obviously

now with denu you do a lot of real

estate as well so how do you approach

any big pivots in your career okay so

let me start like this that we as women

we are

a form of God's light on Earth and this

was one of my recent posts on Instagram

as well that you know as women when we

are born we are born as Lakshmi into the

family we bring that good energy into

the family you know and then we give all

that amazing vibrancy into our family

you know you will see any any any house

who's got a daughter they have that you

know beautiful colors in their home and

any father would vouch for what I'm

saying over here and coming from the

Indian diaspora you know in India there

are uh something called a Davi and for

the certain audience who don't know what

it is a Davi is the idol of a goddess

which has 10 hands and each hand holds a

different tool in her hand you know one

could be it could be for me for example

it could be a pen it could be a book it

could be a music instrument it could be

a healing instrument like a stethoscope

or it could be you know love and kisses

for my family so we as women are born as

goddesses and each woman is a goddess

and we are all capable of doing a lot of

things so how I would say that I have

always wanted to do a lot of things in

life

and that thought of being Larger than

Life I have always kept it alive what is

larger than life you know our

limitations our thoughts are what limit

us right so when you open that cage you

become Larger than Life so if I want to

do something I always keep that bucket

list and I repeat it wherever I go that

I encourage people to keep that bucket

list if you don't want to put a timeline

to it don't put a timeline to it but

keep it the there will come a day where

you will accomplish it and that's what I

have done after becoming finishing my

med school you know I also did an MBA in

healthcare services where we also

studied business so that's why the

healthcare division in danub was started

and you know uh American Aesthetics is

that where I'm managing right now uh

which is uh you know Under the Umbrella

of plastic surgery everything comes as

you know aesthetic transformation over

there uh I call it also as a happiness

Center cuz you know you come in and get

yourself fixed and you look you feel

good you look good you know so that's

what I have been uh why should we put a

limitation of our career brand onto our

uh expertise or to anything that we

choose to in life I I say we are

Limitless I agree I agree but I love

that so you see the way you talk about

this it makes me feel so empowered but

it's just how I I get it right it's

realistically we all know what we want

to do and at some point you and I I

don't remember who said it I think it's

Mark Twain right who said it there are

two most important days of your life the

first one is when you're born and the

second one is when you figure out why

you were born and clearly you figured

out what your mission is on this planet

right but then and now walk us through

what a day-to-day with SAA looks like

I'm sure no two days are the same right

but but what does a traditional day

looks like so I want to add to something

that you said about Mark Twain there is

also something that I came across and it

has repeatedly been coming across in

front of me that uh we all live two

lives one is the life that was given to

us the second life that when we realize

that that is the only life that we have

and we live it to the fullest wow so

yeah you you got to keep your Ambitions

and that's what drives me my brother was

asking me the other day that you know s

you why do you need to do so many things

what is it that comes in your heart when

you wake up in the morning so I will

tell you so when I sleep in the night I

look at my calendar the next day this

helps me design my day for the next day

cuz I cannot just wake up and not have

anything to do this doesn't mean that I

have a lot of clutter in my head no

organization is definitely something

that helps you optimize your time and

resources so for me time management is

definitely something which I would put

as my first and foremost you know

strength and that also helps in not only

multitasking but also getting the best

out of your people and that's where I

come to my second strength which is my

team and my people right so when you

have the right team which doesn't just

Dawn upon you know you have to create

that team it takes time to have that

team with you where you have a sync

where you have similar thoughts and also

you Empower them you know so be it my

from my home if it is my staff or my

nannies you know or my driver or my

house manager you know you it is it is

very important to have that sync of

thoughts communication and understanding

between the team and also to share a

good energy yeah so you give some you

get some you know so that's one thing

from the home and coming to work again

it's the same story that that the team

needs to feel that ownership you know so

and how does that come it comes from Top

to bottom and then from bottom to up mhm

so that's what it goes when time

management and team is important for me

and that's what helps me so if I slept

yesterday I saw my calendar for today

what I need to do and then I wake up

early morning I go to my sons cuz they

sleep in the other room the boys uh I

wake them up they go go to their shower

to get ready for the school then I go to

my daughter I wake her up get her uh to

go get into the shower and then come

back uh meanwhile I'm coming back Adel

is up yeah so all of them are up and I

see the daddy's already in the swimming

pool mom's almost going to wake up so

all our family lives together right so

and then um we all have breakfast

together and everyone runs away to their

work you know so ad has to go to early

morning gym and then he has his own

hectic day uh we say hello hi goodbye

and then Happy good day and then I rush

to my gym then from gym I run to my work

and then by the time it's 5:30 is is

when uh my clock in my head starts

sticking that okay now is the time when

my children need me cuz I need to put

them to bed early too so I rush home and

then um you know spend some quality time

with them swimming or playing or just

you know enjoying and uh By the time

it's 8:00 they're tucked in bed oh wow

and that's the time when we party uh if

there are any occasions you know usually

the formal events and just friend visits

Etc that's also post8 so you know it's

just like in the time and people and you

get S days a week and 24 hours a day so

how the best you can get out of it you

know that's how what it is wow I love

that and I think you were telling me

this earlier as well that as a woman you

wear many hats but when you're wearing

one hat you're fully focused in that hat

right and I think I love how your days

basically split in you being kind of

like the daughter-in-law and then the

woman at work and then the mom and then

you're being the fun sa in the and and

you you got to you know I believe that

it is important to not sulk of course

you know a lot of times I come across

people who are like oh my God another

party yeah no it's a blessing to have a

party you're blessed to have friends who

are wanting you to join them and have

fun with you you know or for that matter

oh my God I have to go to work again no

it's a blessing to be busy you know

we're we're so blessed that we have work

we have people to meet we have positive

energy you know everything is flowing in

the right direction so so it's very

important to get the right energy out of

your schedule you know and that also

Cascades down into all your teammates as

well so and we wear different hats I

think a lot of times uh I laugh at Adel

that which one are you going to meet

today which sun is coming which sun is

meeting you today so um yeah you wear

different hats and when you are living

in the moment you know life is also

about that balance so I have to also

struggle sometimes in in the sense that

I'm living in the moment but at the same

time my next schedule is also there so

we are capable of doing a lot of things

and that's where we Shuffle between the

hats and I forget who person which

person I am after this because I have to

switch my roles yes so if I'm painting

I'm an artist and I'm in that zone it's

a trance and that's how I will be able

to deliver fully in that role you know

so yeah and then you switch the

painting's done okay now the next step

what are you going to do okay food time

you're hungry the more uh I say that if

you're eating well you're drinking your

water well you're taking the right

nutritions and if you're working out MH

that also takes away 80% of your issues

in life yes you know so I propagate I

say it out loud and I repeated it that

it is very important for everybody and

especially for women to take care of

themselves cuz you are the backbone of

the family exactly I agree and I love

what you talked about the mindset being

so important into to everything because

that's how you start your day and it

impacts the rest of your day however you

approach everything and I love I heard

this somewhere where it says instead of

saying oh my God I have to go to work I

have to do this just say I get to do

this right I get to go to work I get to

see my friends yeah and it's a change of

just reframing of how you approach

everything instead of seeing it as I'm

forced to do this it's more that oh it's

a new opportunity for me exactly you

know like like Jim some people they

including my a lot of my family members

you know they're like oh this is such a

punishment this no why you're blessed

you're able to take some time out and

come to the gym and you have a trainer

and you're able to work out this you're

able to do this it's amazing you know

you should be thankful to God and once

you change that perspective when you

start loving going to the gym that's

when a lot of things change cuz it's a

chain of thoughts right it's not just

easier you yield better cuz everything

is in the mind and we are very capable

of taking control of mind you know and

the sooner you do that the better it is

cuz that's when you can really become

Larger than Life hey I love that now I

want to go back to what you were talking

about how your team is one of your

strengths right and I think this is one

thing especially as a woman leader uh it

becomes very important how you portray

yourself as a leader because there is

this very fine balance between being too

empathetic as a woman to your team and

also coming across as being too harsh

because you don't want to come across as

a woman so how do you strike this

balance so this is a fun thing I am also

learning from the Sharks I live with

which is rzan sajan and Adel sajan and

they are amazing leaders they have a lot

of things which are similar in them and

they have a lot of things which As

Leaders they are very different leaders

as well at the same time so some things

overlap and some things they bring very

unique so and for me um I bring my own

uh of course Essence as a person person

who is you know as a team leader but

also I learn from them CU they're

definitely amazing and they're they've

proven you know over time with their

track records so um it's it's a little

bit of a tug-of warar you know you do a

stick in carot um different leaders

different styles my leadership style is

more empathetic as you say but sometimes

it gets like okay now the delivery you

have to really you know put things into

point so as you with time and experience

it gets a little bit more easier to

deliver what you want so with our team

we have regular team meetings in that um

it is important to know what are the

challenges first we say that these are

our targets okay yes and we put

realistic targets which are time bound

of course in sales you got to put time

bound targets and then you discuss with

the team do you think it's achievable

you discuss with them and then say what

is it that you need as a tool to achieve

those okay while you take up the tools

ask them what will be the challenges you

might face and then we find out

Solutions you know sometimes on the spot

or sometimes on the go because some

things can be a strategy but to achieve

that point A to point B you need certain

tactics and tactics can change you know

so a lot of times we keep certain

strategies the main thing but of course

some things if you need to modulate we

change and if somebody's slacking you

need to see if it is a personal problem

or if it is a uh consistent issue and

they're not delivering out of being lazy

and sometimes what happens a chain is as

strong as the weakest link of course

okay so you need to really constantly

diagnose what is the issue happening and

if it is going to be a chronic issue

then you really need to strike it you

know and you can give a few chances

normally my number is three for the

chances and you give a few chances you

help the person to work uh it out but if

it doesn't work then it doesn't work

okay so you have to keep shuffling

between uh I don't like to do the higher

and fire so we I give a lot of chances

but the recent practice in business they

keep saying that the sooner the you fire

the better it is yeah so a lot of

business practices and leaders are doing

that as well because there is no time to

lose uh for me I am a little bit more

warm and I happen to give more chances

to people um because I am always you

know considerate about what's going on

behind this issue you know so that's

what my Approach is and um

after all of this uh besides the sales

it is very important you know in all of

danu and including my verticals as well

that we make sure that customer service

is a full package you know cuz One

customer a happy customer will bring in

two or three more happy customers or

probably even if it doesn't at least he

will come back you know uh while a sad

or unhappy customer can damage that same

image you know and a brand is built with

a lot of work over a period of time you

know uh if your number of negative

comments out of 1,000 the percentage is

smaller let's say 15 M you need to

address those but at least that number

should not go higher than like you know

a certain percentage so you need to

address the issues regularly it is very

important to be their handson um at the

same time you know it's it's just a

really good mix of things that you have

to be you know actively doing yeah wow I

love that thank you for taking us on

that little tour of your leadership and

how you work with the team and now of

course you're aom as well do you think

that plays a role in how you approach

business and approach your team now for

sure I one of the things that I say that

the you know men and a lot of women who

have not yet come to that stage you know

um it's important for me to share it

with them that becoming a mother really

opens up your heart uh to understanding

people more and especially now now that

I have more than one child uh it's a

community that I have in the house you

know and each one of them is different

they have their own personalities they

have their own choices and they have

their own ways and approach to different

things so it I knew it theoretically I

was trying to practice it in my life

earlier as well but now that it is there

in my house it just comes more naturally

to me to understand people more and you

know how what kind of approach should be

cut out to the to get the best out of

this person MH because in a team a team

is good as good as it Captain right so

if the captain is able to nurture the

talent in the team and get the best out

of that person you all perform well so

yes it has definitely helped me and um

uh it also helps me understand the women

who are having a family who are a part

of my team yes you know so we give them

a little bit of Leverage on that and we

understand them better and we help them

more you know so even though we always

have those rules to help women who are

pregnant or who are nursing or who have

kids so but becoming a mother it always

helps you know I mean it has helped me

definitely MH amazing so now I I want to

switch gear a little bit because you are

a little bit unique as a guest here and

I think most people who are watching or

listening will will think of you as

someone who has made it you know who is

doing well in life so if we were to look

at life through your lenses as someone

who's on the other side you know what

what is your relationship with money

okay so um as a person I'm very Sufi

okay and let me explain what a Sufi is

um uh I would be a Hermit otherwise if I

was not here and there was a time when I

really chose to really almost at the

verge of shaving my head and becoming a

monk oh wow so now you could call me a

monk who did not sell her her

Ferrari I love that so yeah and it's

funny that just yesterday I was having

this conversation with my husband that

he asked me that s uh would you become a

priest or a monk and I'm like ad when I

met you I was almost at the verge of

shaving my head and going to the

Himalayas you know so right there but it

is a bigger challenge to stay in this

world and strike a balance in these

worldly opportunities and Excel over

here while creating that peace in your

heart you know and that is a bigger

achievement and I would say that um you

can't achieve excellence and anything

cuz the end goal is God and Excellence

is only God but yes for sure I am always

actively working on that peace you know

which is most important and uh take on

money in today's day and age people

salute money they respect money they

would put a red carpet for money and

we've seen it you know it it happens

that there is a fun story about one

Saint in olden days in Persia uh that

when uh he was really respected by the

King at that time and the King sent some

robes and said that I would like to

invite you and I would like to host a

big feast in your honor okay and he said

he sent his acceptance and he said he

will be there then he was a big Saint

right so he was just in his sted clothes

and he went and when he was at the doors

of the of the big play Palace the people

at the the soldiers there they asked him

to stop and he said this is a big Feast

for a very big guest of the king what

are you doing here he said this is for

me the soldier laughed at him right and

then the saint went back and he wore his

golden robes and then he came and it was

he was really welcomed and then when he

was sitting with the King on the on the

feast table he started putting food into

his robes and the pockets and the Scurry

into his pocket and the king and

everybody the big people they were

really like what are you doing we we

would really like to know what you're

doing with all the respect to him he

said you know it was not me who was

invited it was my

robes oh wow yeah he's the C so so and

that was a big message and and it was

taken to the people that you know you

should not judge a book by its cover but

the reality is that people do judge a

book by its cover so yes money now that

I am a I would say a little wiser that

it is important but it should not be

something that you put forward as a

priority at the expense of your health

and your family's health MH it could be

mental health it could be physical

health but it is very important to to

earn money the right way to be ambitious

and money not only money it it come

there are a lot of things that you can

earn you can earn respect you can earn

your career you can earn you know there

are so many things that you earn with

time uh but money money I say that it is

not something that you should kill for

yes you should have the fire in you you

should have the ambition in you and keep

dreaming keep working towards it but it

should not be at the expense of your

mental health yeah and with money as

well you always reach a point where now

it's just extra money right how much is

changing your life many yeah no how many

zeros can you add let's say if you're a

millionaire or a billionaire there comes

a point where you you need to have

certain um uh points in life where you

want to help people you want to help

your family you want to work on mental

health of yourself your family your

friends and then your community gets

bigger you know so when if you see

anybody who has made it in life I always

look up to my uh you know father-in-law

and my husband you know but when I look

at them I know I see them so closely

they did not just land on top of the

mountain they have worked their way up

and that work is not just hard work in

terms of going to the office and getting

the work done there is a lot that comes

you know like taking care of your

friends you know as a leader I say this

story a lot of times that rzan sajun we

live together okay when he wakes up in

the morning he goes to his swimming he

does his yoga he meets his family which

is us and his mother who we live

together uh then he goes for his work he

comes late at night comes back has the

dinner and or sometimes skips the dinner

and goes to meet his friends who are

hosting a birthday or a wedding or

anything so he makes sure that his

friends also get their due respect and

time and then he comes back late in the

uh night and then wakes up early in the

morning and then the grind is there so

it's like the sun MH you know so the sun

is constantly working if we can't see

also that sun is working right so for as

an individual as well I always say that

even if you're sleeping you're sleeping

for something good the next day you're

sleeping to revive yourself you know so

if you put that energy in you that you

want to be productive in your sleep you

want your body to recover you want your

energy to recover the next day you will

be better and you will perform better

you know so and that's the example of

rwan sjun that he and I'm following

those footsteps as well and I have that

energy too that if I'm sleeping I know

that I want to rest now that my CS

recover my energy recovers and tomorrow

is a productive day again and I want to

be the best of myself you know so and

that's these energies together you know

creating your team caring for your team

caring for your family your friends all

together this all counts as your riches

MH oh yes wow that's incredible you you

mention your family quite a lot which I

love by the way but what would you say

is the main learning for you um let's

say Obviously personally I'm sure there

are many many many

but professionally when you you joined

this big family business what was the

mean learning for you mean learning

there are two things really really

important for life for your you would

call it success or what i' say your

relationships and your

Communication in my the family that I

live in in the leadership that I see and

the what I follow not only in my family

but as you know leaders of Dubai you

know it is so important to have the

right way of communication and the right

time of communication as well you know

it is important to act in the right time

if it is urgent you do it now there

there if you want to make a phone call

or if you want to reply to a WhatsApp or

an email you know you need to give the

right time if it is emergency you need

to call you know so to communicate it is

the strength of a person and to

communicate the right way to the right

person to in the right time and of

course this is also related to

relationships and main maintaining your

relationships that every relationship

you need to give its respect and time to

it m yeah wow it could be a relationship

with your client it could be with your

family it could be with your friends it

could be with you know your team anybody

and at any level of the hierarchy

relationship and communication that's

the key I love that well now that we're

talking about relationship this just

popped up into my mind we're going to

talk about relationship with yourself

now for a minute um if I were to ask you

on a happiness scale from 0 to 10

where's saana today oh I'm always 10 and

above ooh love that how no but I I have

to say this there are days yes uh it

could be related to my hormones or it

could be related to certain challenges

in life I try to be 10 and above but

it's it should not go to toxic

positivity of course not you know and a

lot of times when we post oh this and

that on positive stuff on Instagram

people don't see that they are

challenges that we meet as well and the

every day every day we find something or

the other as a small or big challenge

you know it could be just an order

waiting to be received yes and you get

impatient you know so self focus is as a

girl I say it is really really important

because uh instinctively we are

givers and uh we find more happiness in

giving and one of my TED Talks I also

said that charity and loving someone

these are the two most selfish things

that we do ooh let's talk about that

yeah we will come to that but happiness

and self focus is so important CU as

women we are the backbones of our family

you know and if we don't take care of

ourselves who will take care of the

others even when you go in an airplane

when they're giving that you know

emergency uh talk they say when there

will be a oxygen mask you put on

yourself first and on your child later

even in the video they show that the

child also should come later cuz if you

don't have the oxygen you will not be

able to help the other one also so there

are two people being damaged there so if

as a woman of the house as a girl you

know you need to really really take care

of yourself and taking care is I start

with

food food water and

sleep I'm not saying you need to sleep

10 hours a day I'm not even saying if

you don't if you are not able to sleep 8

hours a day do 6 hours but sleep at the

right time at the same time every day so

that your circadian rhythm comes into

place place and wake up at the same time

that's what is going to set your

hormones in place cuz we are evolved

beings you know and it's not even a joke

when we are a 2.0 version yeah and uh we

are not taking care of we are such

blessed beings we need to take care of

ourselves and once this is in place you

need to then start working on let's say

yoga or pilate or gym I say even half an

hour of any workout even if it is brisk

walking you know if you do that that

another you know you've done another B

of your thing when you're healthy you

perform better at work you when you

perform better at work you get better

money you get better confidence you get

you know everything just starts coming

full circle and you come back home

happier you know so everything starts

with your

health uh sometimes people just start

buying makeup and just covering things

up I like a little bit of makeup it's

nice you know but it should not be

something as a coverup yes you know you

need to to be glowing from inside from

your soul okay when you're healthy

mentally and physically the glow comes

out the confidence comes out and you're

able to help other people as well so

happiness and self-care is really really

important I put it as now my top

priority I love that but when you said

sometimes it goes a little bit down

lower than 10 but what is your approach

in general with challenges in life

whenever there's a challenging part

whether it's personal or professional

how do you deal with it so challenges

come different scales small big large

extra large or extra small

ex yes but you need to see what is the

problem so in medicine they teach you a

disease diagnosed well is half soled you

know so your prognosis is half already

fixed when you diagnose the disease

properly so if you know what the problem

is so when I face a problem my first

exercise mentally and now it's a

practice so what is it that I see what

is exactly the problem and can I define

it can I classify it you know and if I

need to delegate it to someone what is

it that is needed to do right now um

sometimes people say oh it's easier said

than done so one of the things one time

um I faced was my dad he had an issue a

health issue in the in the night 3:00 my

mom called me and she said we've called

an ambulance

I jumped while I was on the phone I

changed my clothes and in the night 3:00

what do you do Adel was not at home so I

don't know what to do okay I while I was

getting out of the car I called my one

of my male servant who I know is a

responsible person I said I'm going to

my mom's house if there is anything I

will call you so please keep your phone

on on and one one of the nannies I told

the same thing because I need at least

if one will fail the second one then I

called my secretary I know she will

respond I said this is the emergency if

needed I'll call you she said okay on

the way cuz there was no other male

person I called one of my relative cuz I

know he would respond you know you need

to have your brains your head on your

shoulder even in emergency think cuz I'm

speeding I need to keep my cameras also

and I should not be jumping at radar and

you know stuff like that in time I was

there the ambulance had reached I had

reached luckily nothing was such a big

damage but he was taken to the hospital

and everything but I was really proud of

myself that I had my head on shoulders

and I was not balling on the way or

something like thatz so that was the

thing that proved to myself that my head

will be on my shoulders in any emergency

so it is so important in any kind of

issue that you face that you need to

know what is the problem and what are

the steps you need to do in that moment

to solve it and then you see later on

what you can do and furthermore you know

so that okay my dad needs to take care

of himself and the diet and gym and this

and that what all but you need to know

in that moment what you need to do and

what are the following steps I try to do

that I like that so just like keeping

your emotions under control while you're

dealing with the problem yes and I think

that's the challenge that most people

struggle with including me right

whenever something goes wrong the

emotions start to come out it's a

practice yeah everything in our in our

body is a muscle including our emotions

yes and as much as like just like Jim

you cannot go and lift 25 kges of a

dumble on the first day at least not

most of the people right so you build up

your strength you build up your activity

and your body starts getting acquainted

to it and start practicing and your

muscles start getting that memory and

you strengthen yourself the same way

your mind you need to practice things in

every smaller things you know it's like

if you're in a traffic jam and

somebody's cutting you you should not be

you know swearing at that person it's

okay he's not going really fly away it's

okay maybe he's facing some issues

personally let him take over how much

are you going to you know how much delay

are you getting yeah having said that it

is so important to draw a fine line what

that you are understanding but you

should not be treated as a doormat yes

yeah so when you people there are a lot

of times that people start treating you

as a doormat taking you as for it

granted because when we say these things

that oh you should understand the other

women take it to another extreme yes

coming back and striking a balance no

you don't need to go into any extreme

just stay in moderation you need to

respect other people while other people

also respect you of course yeah so it's

all about

practice okay so there are two things

that I want to talk to you about but

before I forget um you mentioned that uh

your Ted Talk addressed charity being

one of the selfish thing please tell us

more about that oh I love this

um okay when you give let's say 10 dams

to somebody that okay you go have tea

yes that person will smile at you but

honestly search in your heart that when

you're giving charity to somebody okay

be it 10 dams 20 dams or 20,000 dams you

are giving it because you feel nice of

course at the end of the day okay so I

feel that I'm doing a very selfish deed

but it is for good and I encourage

people to selfish in that be selfish in

that way because you are creating a

happiness quotient there you are making

the other person happy you're making

yourself happy and this is how you're

going to multiply the happiness and you

raise the happiness quotient in your

family in your surroundings in your

community in your city and I say that in

Dubai it's similar that you know things

start getting easier if you see people

when they come to Dubai they get the

Dubai Vibe and they start getting more

chill more happy more helping more

respectful so that's what when you're

doing something you're not doing it for

the other person you're doing it for

yourself MH and I encourage people to be

selfish like that that's a beautiful way

of being selfish you know I don't have

you watch Friends yeah because Joey also

says something similar where he's like

even when it's a birthday when you're

buying present you're celebrating

someone else you do it because you feel

good because you've done something for

someone else but it is a beautiful thing

at the end of the day so it doesn't

matter that it is selfish but one thing

um going back to the conversation we

were having I would love for you to

share the Bison story to my audience as

well please if you can tell us that yeah

it is one of my favorite stories and a

bison or a bull that's what how people

understand it right so the story of a

bison or a bull so when there is a

snowstorm a bison goes head up into

those snowstorms why because they

instinctively know that when they face

the storm they will get out of it

faster the more you run away from it the

more it will follow you so I definitely

believe in facing your challenges in

life and getting done with them yeah the

shortest way is through

basically I love that okay final part of

our chat today so um I would say that if

we obviously are very happy to have you

here part of the podcast but if you had

to celebrate a woman in your life who

would it be

oh there are so many women I celebrate I

celebrate every woman in my life you

know it is uh cuz everyone brings their

own lesson to me and they teach me

something or the other other in their

own way but if I had to pick one right

now mhm I would celebrate one of my

nannies she's really really amazing I

love the way she takes care of my child

as her own and you know she just has

said it so many times that I don't have

one child I have three kids and you know

she counts my kids as her own but you

know she doesn't say it to make me feel

better uh I have seen her as not just a

staff member but now as my family member

how she takes care of she loves me she

loves my kids and uh how she's a team

player and she's not even you know

studied anything in management but she's

able to manage things and uh she's

living far away from her family and

she's managing over there her family as

well you know I really salute her and I

really love her so I would right now

celebrate her oh I I hope this message

gets to her because that's beautiful

yeah and for you we have a

bouquet to say a huge thank you and

there's a card in it from the previous

guest that wrote you a little message oh

wow and now you get to write the message

for the next guest thank you so much I

love this this is such a beautiful color

oh yeah it is isn't it it is and these

flowers are from lej so thank you for

sending that to us yeah thank you so

much no thank you my day no and now if

you have any party thoughts to share

with us anything you want to share

before we wrap up there are a few things

a few points I would say for everyone be

it um man or a woman it is very

important to keep dreaming and it is

very very important to keep your bucket

list I say it on repeat you do not have

to keep it time bound but keep your

bucket list alive so that's how you

achieve more and you become Larger than

Life oh wow and what's the next thing on

your bucket list oh you know more than

individual uh achievements now I feel

like empowering other people and that's

what's next on my bucket list that I

want to uh en incourage people to dream

and help them achieve their dreams and

one of the things that I have been

working on is getting a school to

educate children who cannot afford it

and it's work in progress It's been a

while now it's been a year that we're

working on it I hope that it comes to

our reality that's one of my dreams that

I think uh that's top right now amazing

well BAS on everything we've heard I

know you're going to make it happen I

hope so fingers crossed of course and

we're excited to see what else you do

son but thank you so much for being here

today and it was a lovely conversation

thank you so much it was fantastic being

here thank you

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Key Vocabulary

Vocabulary	Meanings
sulk /sʌlk/ B1	verb - to be silent and bad-tempered because you are disappointed or annoyed
monk /mɒŋk/ B1	noun - a man who has taken a solemn vow to devote his life to religion, often living in a monastery.
Ferrari /fəˈrɑːri/ B2	noun - an Italian manufacturer of luxury sports cars.
airplane /ˈeərpleɪn/ A2	noun - a powered flying vehicle with fixed wings and a weight heavier than air.
emergency /ɪˈmɜːrdʒənsi/ B1	noun - a serious, unexpected, and often dangerous situation requiring immediate action.
oxygen /ˈɒksɪdʒən/ B1	noun - a colorless, odorless, and tasteless gas essential for life.
mask /mɑːsk/ A2	noun - a covering for the face or part of the face.
reality /riˈæləti/ B1	noun - the state of things as they actually exist, as opposed to an idealistic or notional idea of them.
judge /dʒʌdʒ/ A2	verb - to form an opinion or conclusion about.
cover /ˈkʌvər/ A2	noun - an outer protective covering.
podcast /ˈpɒdkæst/ B1	noun - a digital audio or video file or series of files available for download to a computer or mobile device, typically available as a subscription.
host /hoʊst/ A2	noun - a person who receives or entertains guests.
philanthropist /ˌfɪlənˈθrɒpɪst/ C1	noun - a person who seeks to promote the welfare of others, especially by donating money to good causes.
entrepreneur /ˌɒntrəprəˈnɜːr/ B2	noun - a person who starts or runs a business, taking on financial risks.
energy /ˈenədʒi/ A2	noun - the strength and vitality required for sustained physical or mental activity.
contagious /kənˈteɪdʒəs/ B2	adjective - spreading from one person or organism to another, typically through contact.
journey /ˈdʒɜːrni/ A2	noun - an act of traveling from one place to another.
healer /ˈhiːlə/ B1	noun - a person who heals or treats the sick.

Key Grammar Structures

• ....

  ➔ Conditional Clause (Type 2 - Unreal/Hypothetical)

  ➔ The phrase "if I had to pick one" introduces a hypothetical situation. The structure 'if + past simple, would + base form' is characteristic of Type 2 conditionals, expressing what *would* happen if something *were* different.

• ....

  ➔ Past Perfect Continuous

  ➔ The phrase "I've been working on it" uses the present perfect continuous to describe an action that started in the past and continues up to the present. It emphasizes the duration of the activity.

• ....

  ➔ Relative Clauses (Defining)

  ➔ The phrase "who I celebrate" is a defining relative clause that provides essential information about the woman being celebrated. The relative pronoun 'who' connects the clause to the noun 'woman'.

• ....

  ➔ Modal Verbs (would)

  ➔ "I would celebrate her" expresses a conditional or habitual action. 'Would' indicates a willingness or intention to celebrate her.

• ....

  ➔ Use of 'as' for comparison

  ➔ The phrase "as a leader" functions as a complement, specifying the role in which she is being described. It indicates her qualities *in her capacity as* a leader.