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A lot of people are turned off by
learning. And if you don't find learning
one of the most exciting things in the
world, then the whole game, everything
else will fall apart. But it has to be
something that excites
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you. I've said to many people that live
in a world where knowledge and skills
are the most important thing. That's the
goal that you are after more than money.
You want to develop knowledge and
skills. And so this person asks, "What
would be the three or so skills that are
the most essential moving forward in the
21st century?" And you know, it's not
like specific skills that I'm going to
talk about like coding or, you know,
mastering AI or going to some business
strategy because I think that's not
really what the spirit of the question
is. In general, there are certain kind
of personal skills that you want to
develop. Okay. So, number one, and this
is something that I have in my book,
Mastery, you must see being social and
getting along with people and
cooperating and knowing how to work with
people as a skill. It's not something
you were born with. It's not something
that some people are good, bad, or bad
at. Like anything, it is a skill that
you develop. being social and knowing
how to work with people and knowing how
to be sensitive to their energy. And in
this skill, what it is is you're able to
pay attention to people and see who they
are as an individual and see what their
particular needs are, what they're
missing in life, and you're able to
supply that. You're able to enter their
spirit. You don't offend them
unnecessarily. You know how to work with
them, right? you know how to properly
criticize them if that's necessary.
Because if you don't understand that
being social is a skill, if you don't
develop it, you could be the greatest at
whatever you could do. You could be even
the greatest athlete in the world, but
you're going to be offending your
teammates. You can be offending the
people that you work with and all of
your knowledge and your other skills are
going to be completely neutralized by
how bad you are in dealing with people.
And so when you look at social as a
skill, what that means is you have to be
spending time with people. You got to
get out of your phone. You got to get
out of your office. You got to get out
of all of your virtuality. You have to
be around people. You have to interact
more. That's the only way that you will
become social. And if you find yourself,
you know, alone a lot. And and I have
found that difficult. You have to force
yourself out there. You have to force
yourself to go to clubs, to go to bars,
to hang out with people. So developing
social skills is incredibly important,
but it's not the only thing, right? So
another skill that's extremely important
and probably the most important of all
is to develop a love of learning. I know
personally when there's something that I
don't know, there's something that I'm
not good at that I then take an effort
to like learn it to get better at it.
And I'm not going to make say specifics.
It could be some sports or it could be
playing a musical instrument or a game.
That process of learning to me is so
exciting. It's like I know it because
when I was a child, getting better at
something is a really, really exciting
process. So, I will give you an example.
years ago when I was writing the war
book, I got myself a pool table because
I wanted something to take my mind off
the war book which is really heavy and
was like kind of driving me crazy and I
wanted something where I could just do
kind of feel the strategy in the game
itself and just kind of get out of my
head. And at first I was really bad at
it, but slowly I got better and better.
I was practicing and I was playing
against myself, you know, which is
pretty easy. And I would read books
about it and I would practice certain
shots and when I could make like a
double bank shot and things like that or
put spin on the ball, I was so excited.
Man, this was really great. The feeling
that you're improving at something. A
lot of people are turned off by
learning. And if you don't find learning
one of the most exciting things in the
world, then I think you're never going
to develop the whole game. Everything
else will fall apart. But it has to be
something that excites you. If you are
somebody who's interested in literature
and you try and learn algebra, that
could be interesting. You may enjoy the
challenge, but you won't learn as much
because you're not really that
interested in it, right? But if you
learn like a foreign language like
French where you can read the
literature, you're so motivated that you
will learn and you will that natural
love that you have will come out. The
other skill that you must develop, so
just to reiterate, is being social,
having a love of learning. The third one
is kind of related to the second one,
but it is patience. A lot of people
nowadays are really really impatient.
And the reason I think is I mean, I'm
very I I have a lot of impatience
myself, so I I can't preach about that.
But the reason why I think it's gotten
worse is we're so used to the power of
our phones, of our computers, that we
think everything should be happening
quickly and instantly. If we have to
wait 5 seconds to get a piece of
information on the internet, we think,
"Oh my god, it's taking so long. It's
takes so long to download." Whereas 20,
30 years ago, you would have had to go
to the library. You would have to spend
an hour to do it. You learned how to
develop patience to find things. But
people are so impatient because
everything is so quick and easy and
powerful right now. So you want to be
able to slow things down. You want to
have the ability to say if it's going to
take me an hour to learn this, if I have
to spend time practicing something
that's tedious, I'm okay with it. I like
the
slowness. I actually embrace the pain
that's involved. So learning anything,
developing any skill involves pain. When
I first got that pool table, I was so
bad at it. It was so frustrating and it
really made me kind of upset because I
like being really good at things, right?
But I played every day and I got better
and better and better and better. And
then I remember one day I I mentioned
this before. I was playing with 50 Cent
in his office and I beat him three times
in a row and he's a pretty good pool
player. I felt, "Wow, man, I've
arrived." But then I had a humbling
experience a few days later when I went
to this pool hall in Manhattan and I got
creamed by this other guy. So, you know,
put kind of put it in perspective, but I
was getting better at it. I had to be
patient because at first I really sucked
at it. So, developing patience is
absolutely critical thing. And related
to that, so all these things are kind of
related to that is the ability to be
bored. Right? So sometimes boredom is a
good thing. Sometimes being frustrated
in in what you're doing is okay because
it forces you it forces you to be
patient and to slow things down as well.
One other thing I would say is and I had
a a interview about this is the ability
the skill it is a skill of managing your
anxiety. So, when you're starting
something out, when you're trying to
build a business, when you're trying to
write a book, when you're trying to
create a movie, you're going to feel a
lot of anxiety because it's not there.
It's going to take a lot of work. You're
looking a month, for me, years of work
to produce it. And it makes you kind of
anxious and it makes you, as I said
before, impatient. But being able to
deal with your anxiety and being able to
handle it and manage it and not get in a
hurry to get to the goals that you want
is very important. Those elements of
dealing with boredom, dealing with
anxiety, and impatience are all
interrelated. They're the ability to
slow things down, to deal with the micro
aspects of any kind of learning process.
Those are skills that I think are
absolutely essential for going forward
in the 21st century because what you
want the endgame of all this is because
you love learning because you've been
patient and you've developed skills and
you're good with people you will reach a
point where you have mastered a couple
of things. Right? So it's not like you
want to go through life and just master
one thing. You want to master two at
least two kind of real skills in the
world. For me it was writing and
research and there were a few others but
being able to combine writing and
research as I had was what led to the 48
laws of power. So you reach a point
where you develop two two or three
really basic skills and then when you're
30 or or in that vicinity you're able to
combine them and to create something a
new kind of business a new kind of
enterprise. And because we live in an
age where there's so much information
available and so many skills you can
learn even online developing that I
absolutely guarantee that something
brilliant will happen for you. But if
you don't have the patience and the love
of learning then none of this will ever
matter. So those are the skills I think
that are essential.