I was born in a refugee camp in Thailand
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A few years ago, I met this doctor who
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actually worked at that camp, right? And
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you know what he said to me? He said,
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"Did you know that one and out of three
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babies that were born in that camp in
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Veni didn't make it past their second
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My parents were was in that camp for 10
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years, you know. And in while they were
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there in that camp, they had three
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babies. And in 1987, we landed here and
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Statistically, one of us weren't
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supposed to survive.
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one of us wasn't supposed to make it
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But against all odds, we did. So that
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fact, it changes everything about me and
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it changes everything that I do.
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You want to know something? I I going to
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college, I studied communications, and
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my professors at W Lacrosse reminded me
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of this that you cannot not communicate.
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We're always communicating. It's in our
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bodies. you know, you're always sending
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messages, you're always receiving
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messages, you're always decoding
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messages. You know, that's what it is.
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It's it's literally in our DNA. We're we
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are constant communicators.
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You know, when I was growing up, uh, at
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my house, my parents taught me how to
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speak M. And then when I went to school,
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I learned how to speak English, becoming
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bilingual early on. But it wasn't until
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adulthood that I realized my family has
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been speaking another language all
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along. One that I didn't recognize until
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From the moment we are born to the
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moment we die, we're always intaking
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everything. We're always learning. So
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I'm thinking, what if the most powerful
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universal language isn't spoken? What if
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it's not even verbal?
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Food holds meaning. It carries emotion,
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memories, and identity. It tells stories
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without using words. And food is the
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language I speak the best. My name is
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Yavang. I'm a proud son of Mong
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Refugees. I'm the founder of Union Monk
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Kitchen and the owner and chef at Vi,
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where we serve food that tells our
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And that's the language I speak, the
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Here's the thing. At the end of the day,
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I'm a cook, right? I love it. You know,
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I see the world through the eyes of the
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kitchen. My whole adult life has been
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about, you know, big cuts of meat and
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cutting boards and big knives and, you
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know, fire and all that stuff. I learn
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about everything in life, you know,
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through the kitchen. I learn about
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timing and pressure from grilling a
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steak, right? So, you know, you got your
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pan, right? It's super hot, right? And
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you take that piece of steak, whatever
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cut you want, and you lay that steak
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right on that pan, and you hear that
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that sizzle. You want to hear that.
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That's that's the number one thing you
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want to hear. If you don't hear it, you
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got problems. So, you hear I mean I mean
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it you you want to hear that and you
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know what something happens? There's
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this while you press that steak down
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lightly, not too hard, lightly, there is
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this in that pressure you put on,
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there's this beautiful reaction that
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happens between the sugars and the amino
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acids and it comes together and it has
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that sear, right? And it's so delicious.
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It's so rich in flavor.
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But if you push it too hard and you let
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it sit too long, what happens? It burns.
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It becomes bitter. It's it's not
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something you want. That's life.
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Pressure can bring you the best things
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out. You you know it's you know if you
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lean into it, it's amazing if you you
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know you got to know when to lean away,
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lean in everything. See, that's how I
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understand the world. That's how the
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world works through me. I call it the
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lens of the kitchen. Food is how I
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speak. the kitchen and the food becomes
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And if we, you know, talk this way, we
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create a completely amazing common
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language that we can use. Even if we
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don't share the same words, we share
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flavors, rhythm, and understanding. It
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brings people together across cultures,
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background, and time.
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You know, growing up, I just wanted to
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fit in, right? I was embarrassed to let
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kids know that I spoke M.
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You guys want to know how I learned
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English? Late night talk shows and
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sitcoms. I would watch them, right? And
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I I go into the bathroom and make sure
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my parents didn't hear me, but then I
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would actually look in the mirror and I
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would emulate these words. I wanted to
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make sure I didn't have an accent. So, I
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learned how to annunciate very well.
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actually to the point where I remember
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calling my cousin's house and she was
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like, "Um, dad, I think there's like a
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salesman on the phone. Like, there's a
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there's a white guy on the phone,
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right?" And I was like, "Yes, I made it.
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I was mistaken for a white dude on the
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But I didn't realize it then. What what
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was going on was I was running so hard
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away and so fast to trying to fit in
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that I was actually leaving my Mong
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identity behind me. Meanwhile, my
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parents stood strong and rooted. While I
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was drifting away, they quietly held on
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and you know preserving our language and
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our traditions and our values. I didn't
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see their quiet strength back then. They
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didn't give big speeches about
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resilience or identity. You know what
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they did? They just lived it.
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Their journey from war to refugee camp
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to a new life in America was its own
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kind of hero's journey. Now, I used to I
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used to do this when I was a kid. That
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that kid right there, he would go to bed
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and he would pray and he would hope that
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in the morning he'd wake up and he wake
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up with a family that was white and they
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spoke English and then he looked like
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everybody else. And I was so ashamed of
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it. But you guys want to know something?
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Over 30 years later, I cannot not speak
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about them. That's all I want to do. I
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go to bed now hoping the next day I get
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to speak about them. I get to tell their
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story because you know what? Every dish
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I cook with, every story I tell, it's a
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quiet thank you to my parents, a way to
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honor where I come from and the strength
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that was passed on to me.
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I believe that there's one language
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spoken all around the world and it's
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food. I felt the language of food at
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like most collaboration dinners we do
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when the when the farmer comes in,
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right, and goes, "Hey, this is all I
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got." Or or or the shrimper or the
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fisherman, they would come in and us
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chefs from all different backgrounds and
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we literally would speak different
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languages. You know what we do? We just
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we didn't have to say much to it. We
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just gather around and we knew what to
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do. Why? Because we would get it. We
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spoke the language of food.
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Ask anybody what is your favorite dish,
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right? Or or or what's a dish that you
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know you grew up with? You know, I
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remember I asked my buddy that once and
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he's I don't know. He kind of felt like
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Yeah. And so the first thing he said to
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me was he's like, I don't know, like hot
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dogs and mac and cheese, you know? And
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that's what he talked about, but it was
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like the good hot dog, you know, the one
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with the good snap on it. You know what
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I'm talking about. And and he said that
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and then there was like a sense of shame
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in his voice. And I just looked at him.
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I said, "Do you know that that hot dog
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and mac and cheese? You know what that
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is? That's a mother's love. A single
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mother on a Friday night,
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doing her best, giving everything she
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can so her children can have some.
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No matter the accent, ingredient, or
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techniques, food gives us a rhythm that
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we can all move to. It's how we
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understand each other every day without
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We all eat, right? So, here's my ask.
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When you eat, be quiet for a moment. Be
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curious and let the food do the talking
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because food can tell a story. Stories
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about food usually doesn't start with,
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you know, big complex question. It's
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it's a simple question.
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You know, in my parents' world, you
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don't eat truffles, caviar, or fancy
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French words that you can't pronounce,
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You know what they do? We cook with
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taro, with yuka, banana leaves, mung
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mustard greens, mung cucumbers grown
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from their farm, carrots, herbs, things
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that we pull straight from the dirt.
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Here in Minnesota, I've met people who
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have never heard about mung people who
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have never doesn't understand what mung
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pallets are or mung flavors are. But you
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know what they know? They know root
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vegetables. They know leafy greens. They
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know what it feels like on those harsh
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summers when you're working that field
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super hard. and you might not have
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anything to show for.
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They know how to make the most of what's
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in their hands and what's around them.
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Food doesn't just feed us. It connects
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us. It opens the door to to someone's
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story. And if you're willing to ask,
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because food is never just about food.
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It's about memory. It's about meaning.
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It's a story served on a plate.
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The greatest gift my parents gave me was
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the language of food. But it wasn't
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until I came home literally and and I
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cooked and ate with them. That I truly
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that every dish they made when I was
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growing up was made by their hands. Cuz
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you know what? Those hands were
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connected to these arms and their arms
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were connected to this body. And that
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body had a heart. And in that heart
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there was a soul. And you know what that
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soul says to me? So we love you. We went
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through war. We sacrificed so that you
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can have a hope of a future. And we
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would do it all again. No questions
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When you realize that someone has given
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up their life so you can have life in
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the full, it changes the way you talk to
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people. It changes the way you treat
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people. And for me, it changed the way I
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My mom once told me, "I can't speak
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English to my grandkids. It breaks her
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heart because you know the grandkids
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they don't speak m much.
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So she said all I can do is I can make
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them food to show them how much I love
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him. Uh my little nephew Lukey he's like
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grandma I want egg rolls. You know so
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you know that morning mom didn't make
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one three five 12. No no no she made a
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hundred egg rolls. Yeah.
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She wanted Luki to know my love for you
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is big and strong. When I love you, I
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love you to the max. I don't love you 12
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egg rolls. I love you a 100 egg rolls.
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My parents legacy lives in every dish we
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Right across the street, you know,
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bringing this home to our restaurant,
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Vina, right across the street is another
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award-winning restaurant, Oro, run by my
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good friend Gustavo Romero. He's a
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Mexican chef. you know, he was a DJ,
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came to America, you know, immigrant or
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two different immigrants literally from
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different parts of the world, right? You
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got Thailand, you got Mexico. You guys
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know what I'm saying? But we had one
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common language, food. You know, when
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when we talk, it's not just about food,
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it's about family, you know? Um, he
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talks to me about mole. I talk to him
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about curry. He tells me about
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tortillas. I talk to him about purple
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sticky rice. two immigrant kids raids
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worlds apart now cooking literally on
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the same block and we get each other
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different languages you know I try my
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best at Spanish no caprene you know at
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all and so you know but but but same
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story when both our restaurant that uh
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this past year uh made it on the New
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York Times list I ran over to him we're
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paper in hand and I hugged him and we
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cried we literally just cried together I
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said can you believe this we never
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thought in our life this would possible.
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You never thought that people would hear
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our stories through our food.
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That's the power of food.
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Every dish has a story. And if you
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follow that story long enough and close
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enough, you get to the people behind the
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food. And once you're there, it's
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actually not about food. It's about
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people. Because you know what? Food is
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this catalyst into cultivating great
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Food is the doorway to understanding, to
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connect to each other. And if you really
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want to know people, it has to start
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At the heart of it all,
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I'm a child of strength, raised by
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sacrifice, by resilience,
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and taught a language that can be served
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Food is the language my parents passed
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down to me. It's one I speak every day.
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It's a bridge. A bridge between
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generations, between strangers, between
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the past, between the future.
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Success is not measured in awards, you
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know, and and big headlines.
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Success is measured in a legacy.
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What you leave behind,
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the echo that is heard for many
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generations to come.
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This next part, I have this great thing
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to wrap up this whole thing, but I want
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to tell you this story. I'm really led
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to tell you this story.
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couple years a few years ago, we were a
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finalist for the James Beard and my my
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sister called my mom and explained to
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her what the James Beard is. My mom
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called me that night. I was driving home
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and she said, "You know, honey, today
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your sister called me and told me about
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this award that they gave you." And then
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in this award uh that it's for the whole
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United States and you were one of the
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best in the United States. And my mom
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said to me, she said, "Honey, I'm I I
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want to tell you a story." She said,
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"When we were in Veni, we were in the
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refugee camp. It was so poor. It was so
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hard. There were so many people dying
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that every morning I wake up and I would
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pray to God and as an act of mercy, I
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would want him to let me die because I I
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I couldn't bear to live anymore." And
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she said, "One morning when I woke up,
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there was a voice in my heart and it
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said that voice said, I I you can't you
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have to survive. You have to be strong
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because you don't know it yet." Mom said
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this voice said to me, "You don't know
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it yet, but but your children is going
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to change the world and and I need you
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to to take this pain and be strong and
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She's like, she said to me, "Today, when
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I heard this news, I knew that promise
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She waited almost 50 years to see that
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promise fulfilled. So when you come to
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Veni and you you eat from our table that
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comes from mom and dad's hands, you
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partake in that story.
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You're you're a part of that. When you
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eat the pepper sauce that the the the
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peppers that are grown on their farm,
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you partake in that. That is the story.
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So here's the deal. At the end of the
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day, guys, like I said, I'm a cook,
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right? It's like start fire, put me on
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fire. Oh, so cool. You know, like that's
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what I do. I love it.
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you don't need to be a chef to speak
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this language. You don't even need to be
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a good cook to speak this language. Sit
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at a table of someone new. Ask the
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question, where does this food come
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Because I don't know, maybe in this
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world we're living in right now,
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the most important language
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that we can use to speak to each other
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is the language of food.
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