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[中文]

（缓慢的钢琴音乐）

- 在我的一生中，我

一直在与对阳光下的一切抱有很高很高的期望

进行斗争。

我一直想拥有最好的这个，

最好的那个最好的体验。

当我到达那个

时我想要这个，你知道我有什么 发生过一千次

之后的那些事情

，让我的期望破灭了。

就像你所做的那样，因为当你还年轻的时候，

你怎么知道接下来会发生什么？

你确实不能，但我们可以 基于我们生活的大部分

以及我们寻求的精力 很难让我们自己

期待将会发生什么，

然后事实证明 我们实际上不知道。

我们查看了这段文字 昨天在五号。

我们开始谈论 这是因为这是我的头部空间

为今晚做准备。

但路加福音 2:48 到 51

是耶稣在圣殿里的故事。

我只是想把它放在那里 无需提供太多

，但您可能知道这个故事 耶稣 12 岁时，

他的家人回去了，他们 去耶路撒冷遵守

逾越节仪式并且 他们走了这么远的距离。

还有一些需要了解的事情 在我们更多地思考这个

是在古代以色列之前，他们 是一种强大的团体文化。

与我们不同的是，

我们是所谓的 激进的个人主义文化。

这意味着我们的栅栏是正确的。

我们有我们的员工，我们有我们的东西

而这些东西是 不是你的，而是我的。

你有你的东西 我有我的东西

，我们很诚恳，但我们 激进的个人主义者。

我的东西就是我的东西。

他们在旅行时也是如此。

他们不是在旅行 作为有拼车服务的激进分子

对了，他们的商队。

他们全家一起旅行 他们是大家庭

，他们都是彼此的。

当他们到达耶路撒冷时

然后他们完成例行程序。

那么这是可以想象的 玛丽和约瑟夫可以掉头

然后走，是的，我 不知道我的儿子在哪里

，但我确定他在 这个团体在某个地方。

我们正要开始返回

并接我的儿子耶稣 会知道回来

，因为他和他的 更大的大家庭。

所以相信这一点 那将会发生。

他们说，好吧，我们会 一路上找到他。

所以他们在所有逾越节庆祝活动结束后开始返回

...

，三天过去了，他们没有找到他

，他们开始恐慌。

所以他们会做你想做的事 当你还小的时候，你的父母告诉你

去了游乐园。

当您迷路时，请留在原地，

我们会回来找到您。

果然他们来了 圣殿，他们找到了耶稣

，所以这就是我们想要捡起的地方。

上面是这么说的，当他的父母看到他时，

他们很惊讶， 他母亲对他说。

“儿子，你为什么这样对待我们？

“看看你的父亲和 我一直在寻找

“处于极大痛苦中的你”。

他对他们说：“为什么 你在找我吗？

“你难道不知道我必须 在我父亲的房子里吗？”

就在那里 这里暴露的事情

是玛丽有一系列期望。

这就是慷慨， 这些

期望的优雅过程，特别是在这里。

作为母亲的期望，

也是作为母亲的期望 弥赛亚耶稣。

所以他继续 他们不明白

他所说的话 他们和他一起下去

，他来到拿撒勒， 他对他们顺从。

他的母亲珍视 把所有这些事情

记在她心里，感觉就像 这是一种非常礼貌的方式

表示她已注册， 哇，刚刚发生了什么？

这是什么？

这不是我所期望的。

我认为耶稣是 实际上

非常适合帮助我们承认这一点，哦 你对我有期望。

你不是吗？

你曾希望我能融入那个框，

那组类别。

你曾希望我 也许会是一个精灵。

哦，听着，我不是精灵 既然我爱你，

你就不会遇到麻烦 我想我明白了。

但你确实需要学习，

而我确实需要打破这种期望。

这是关于期望的内容。

期望往往是 经验不足。

请读一下，

的期望通常是 经验不足

，这就成为了一个问题。

这意味着我们不能 相信我们的期望。

这里曾经有人 有一个朋友或室友

对他们的期望太高吗？

只要举手，不要碰触任何人

但是有人有吗？ 谁处于恋爱关系中。

哇，这对这件事的期望真的非常高

。

那是什么样的？

这太令人窒息了。

你无法成为你自己。

这是一个巨大的负担， 你不能自由地做你自己。

你需要取悦那个人

否则他们会受伤或 他们走了或者他们很伤心

或者他们很沮丧或者 更糟糕的是，他们有自杀倾向，

或生气或沉迷于某事

，并且他们正在把 你的负担。

我认为同样可以 从我们的角度来谈论上帝。

我们倾向于 有太高的期望

或期望 只是与

他是谁以及他的全部内容无关

，我们将其带到桌面上。

我认为他在 帮助我们看到

这些期望 消息不灵通。

期望会让我们失去对真正重要的事情的看法

。

考虑第一个时刻 无论您是大四

还是新生。

你的第一刻 决定我要去拜奥拉。

那一刻你 对你的想法充满期望

将会在这里发生。

现在无论是好是坏 坏，无论好还是坏

这些期望都破灭了。

是的，是的，这就是你 你以为会是这样吗？

这可能真的很好。

这并不是说仅仅因为 这不是你所期望的。

这并不是说它不好。

只是说它有所不同。

这不是您想象的那样。

一方面，拜奥拉令人兴奋

而且它在教义上 坚定不移，并在消息中。

这与课程、

以及大学的资源有关。

您生活并经历于此 但另一方面，Biola

可能是一场斗争 你和你的室友不是最好的朋友

你以为你会的。

您意识到自己期望更多。

也许当你来到这里时你正在恋爱

，而你却把某人抛在了后面，

但事情并没有像你想象的那样 正如你所期望的那样。

也许是圣经课 和社交生活，

也许整件事并不是 结果就像你所希望的那样。

我想具体谈谈

三种基于身份的期望

，它们扭曲了我们对上帝、

我们自己以及关于 一般关系。

甚至推而广之 我们在拜奥拉

度过的时光，我认为这是成长的一部分 然后我们

就会出现在脸上，就像玛丽有一张脸一样。

哦，我对此有一个期望。

确定期望

，然后移动 通过期望

，以便您可以走向开放

以及接下来发生的任何事情。

所以这是三个 基于身份的期望

扭曲了我们的体验。

这不是幻灯片，也不是 是这样，也不是那样。

哦，我要倒退了。

只有两个按钮，这对我来说太难了。

这就是期望

那种精神感受会拯救你。

那个人会压垮你的。

期望关系

浪漫或其他方式能够描述您。

换句话说，它将 向他人描述你是谁。

哦，你就是那个人 与那些人在一起，

与那个人在一起，以及对伟大见解将定义您的期望

。

对于 Biola 的您来说，您的 任务本质上就是我将拥有的

，我将 为神找到伟大的情感。

我会找到一个人， 我会找到伟大的洞察力

，而这些东西将成为

，让我成为现在的我。

那么快到第一个。

精神上的期望 感情会拯救你。

您的此声明 我正在做的事情就是对自己说

好吧，因为我感觉到上帝。

我做得很好，因为我 感觉上帝是与第一个声明相匹配的声明

。

是的，这很危险 第一，这是一个危险的

，因为我们尽可能 我想说目标

是永远保持精神高度。

你知道客西马尼园

是一个时间 耶稣感觉不到上帝

，但他仍然被召唤去 就在他所在的地方。

早期教会是由殉道者定义的。

你知道他们是谁吗？

他们是感觉不到上帝的人，

但他们被称为 就在他们所在的地方。

看来是上帝在问 我们有时会跟随他

即使这并不容易， 即使我们感觉不到他。

所以如果我们的精神追求 就是永远感受到上帝

有一种精神 如果太高，那么

我们可能会错过一些

他要求我们了解的内容。

一个常见的经验是 我们可以崇拜，

去崇拜或教导 并进行精彩的对话

，让我们精神振奋。

有时精神高度会变得如此

我们判断是否存在的唯一标准 或者他们在这里没有成功。

这就像唯一的事情 这给了我任何反馈

是如果我做得还好是如果我 对神真的感觉很好。

如果我感觉到了什么，那就是成功。

听着，让我们说实话，

你会离开 今晚你会去，

“嗯，今晚好吗？

“让我们看看，我有感觉吗？ 今晚有什么事吗？

“我在精神上是否感到 对某事感到兴奋？”

如果我这样做了之后 黑暗脱离了链条。

如果我没有，那就是 没关系，没关系。

所以我们使用仪表 我们对上帝的情感成为

我们衡量成功的标准 将这巨大的

套期望带给上帝。

我要对你说的是这样的。

之后你会做什么 黑暗或歌唱

或五人或中午或早晨教堂。

而且你没有任何期望，

你知道自己在做什么， 你知道你在说什么。

你是说上帝，你可以 不管怎样，请出现并让我成长

你想这样做，因为你是上帝。

如果你想让我度过困难时期

。

或干旱季节，我会向你敞开心扉

上帝，我会向你敞开心扉

，如果我感觉灵性枯竭，我什至会顺从你

。

看看我们所做的就是我们感到干燥

然后我们从上帝身边退缩

并说我不知道是否 我真的要这么做。

我不这么认为 我们想要这样做

，但很多时候这就是正在发生的事情。

我与数十名学生交谈，他们感觉

他们在精神上感到麻木。

所以他们来这里尝试 来制造感觉。

我明白这个我想要这个 但这些感觉是一份礼物

，如果你得到了 然后他们向上帝敞开你的心

，因为 他正在把这些给你。

但是如果你没有感觉到它们， C.S. Lewis 在《Screwtape Letters》中精彩地谈论了这个

。

他说这就像父母 他移开了他的手

，以便婴儿可以学习走路。

上帝正在努力让我们成长，

他用很多不同的方式做到这一点。

有时他会给我们精神上的感受

为了让我们成长 有时他会把它们带走。

让我们给他这样做的自由。

总结这一点 当你离开这里时

问问自己是否 认为今晚是一个很好的

，取决于你是否感受到上帝。

抓住自己 那一刻，抓住你自己。

对自己温柔一些，

不要陷入整体 内疚和羞耻的循环

，但要问一个更好的问题。

你学到了什么吗 关于你自己或上帝

或他的创造物或其他人？

这是一种更好的方法。

当有人问你好不好时，

不要问你感觉的问题。

自我意识通常是 痛苦但这是必要的。

我们在那里看到的第二个

是关系 浪漫或其他。

我想我可能会 更倾向于浪漫

，因为这是一件大事

，它很好地定义了我在这里的时间

，试图追逐整件事。

但是你的声明 会说这个。

对应声明 会是我做得很好

因为这个人，这个 关系证明

我是被爱和被重视的。

所以你有一个期望 一个人可以做到

，你不知道吗？ 请注意，上帝希望我们

对您有好处。

因为没有人可以 承受

只有上帝才能告诉你你是谁的重量。

所以这个真的很难。

这对我来说至少是

，当我在这里时每个人都可以说。

其他人都这么做 整个推杆期望

和一些定义关系 他们，但那不是我。

但其他人都在这样做

但私下里我也在这样做。

如果我没有和某人约会的话 想要和某人约会。

如果我不想和某人约会，

我就想和某人约会。

Biola，你知道你在 Biola

，当每个人都喜欢某人

但没有人正确约任何人出去。

你知道你在拜奥拉 当这种情况发生时。

家人说得对，说实话。

我很高兴事情没有发生 20年改变了。

我记得坐在我的 在梅茨格草坪上毕业

看着演讲者，

“哈，我真的以为 我会在这里见到她。”

我已经将自己固定在这一点上。

这种关系就像 停泊在飓风中。

它向上，它向下，它 旋转你直到你头晕。

我怀着一颗破碎的心来到拜奥拉，

来到这里的部分原因是 我的心破碎了。

并且想要 逃离那些感觉。

我尝试过约会，但我太焦虑了

而且我脑子里很乱 关于这些事情。

我担心什么 其他人想着我

，如果我继续太多 日期会让我获得声誉。

只适合一起出去 太多不同的人。

太疯狂了，当时的拜奥拉

大约是现在大小的一半。

所以感觉如果你觉得

你现在认识每个人了。

当人数达到 2000 人时，人数就更多了。

人们知道你是否是 现场约会。

这种期望是很难避免的。

我没有太多建议可以提供

，但我有一些建议可以帮助您应对。

这就是这个扩展 你们的关系。

与更多的人建立更多的关系。

与人一起处理这个问题， 拥有优质的关系

，这样您就可以 通过多种友谊在多个方面实现

。

因为你的灵魂只需要

充满善良 上帝，这常常通过你与人的关系来

。

您与人之间的健康关系

因此，如果这是您的追求，

只需了解这种期望即可。

上帝正试图打破这一点 期望是有充分理由的。

第三个也是最后一个

是一个伟大的洞察力，它将定义您。

以及您想要的声明 在这里做这个

是我很好，因为

我终于意识到了一些重要的事情。

我们一直站在这里。

我们要去上课了， 我们要去教堂。

我们正在听布道， 我们正在听播客

，我们有点突然

，但又不那么突然，就像等待

以获得这一见解 灯泡就会熄灭，

然后它就会救我。

那么我就已经做到了。

哪里，哪里？

我们都是终身学习者吗？

我想当我们仍然与上帝在一起时，我们就会学习

。

每天都有更多关于他的新鲜事。

为什么这种洞察力是

以及到达洞察力 对我们这么重要？

但这对我来说也很重要。

为了节省时间，我只想说

Biola 是一家洞察工厂。

有一些非常重要的事情 想法在这里四处飘荡。

每天我们都能感受到它们的重量。

教授们投下真相炸弹，

然后拉开帷幕 并向您展示如果您或社会不这样做，会发生什么

活出那些真相炸弹。

即将发生的破坏。

你可能会不知所措 你会觉得

这是一场比赛，看看谁能拥有

尽可能多的这些类型 尽可能的真相。

但由于其性质 这些想法的分量，

正确的答案不能 只需记住，

，这很重要。

这是我们如何学习的问题，

这不是我们学习的内容。

如果这只是我们学到的东西

那么整个项目 生活的本质就是

，只需要记住正确的事实即可。

但是记忆并不会带来智慧。

当你学习你的 在圣经课上，您不仅仅是

记住元素周期表。

圣经经文是 神的永生之道，

这不是乘法 表将其取出

，然后将其放入您中。

你不会通过别人向你描述来学会向上帝祈祷

。

单独洞察力的问题 是洞察力不是智慧

当你在拜奥拉这里旅行时，

不要将洞察力与智慧混淆。

如果您设定自己的期望

，那么您将获得洞察力

，从而成为重要人物。

听着，智慧造就了 你重要的不是洞察力。

在 Biola，我们已经找到了我们尚未提出的问题

的答案。

让我们学会提出问题

，这样我们就能活在答案中，

它就会有意义 我们可以拥有智慧。

困难的是我们 我们向教授学习

，他们很有智慧

，因为他们提出了正确的问题。

然后生活在这些答案中

，然后他们就到达了终点，

他们给了你答案

，但你从未经历过这段旅程。

对您来说重要的部分 就是活在答案中。

跑马拉松需要什么？

这是一个很好的问题。

你可以查一下答案 现在就在互联网上

，如果您查找答案

，甚至记住答案。

您准备好跑马拉松了吗？

不，让自己做好准备

的唯一方法就是活出答案。

问问自己这个问题 这是我在课堂上的姿势

，快点告诉我答案

，或者告诉我教授、

或教授你对此有何看法。

我需要知道这样我才能 这也是我的立场。

如果这就是您正在做的事情

，那么您就期望

这可能会发生 被推倒。

因为上帝要求你学习智慧，

而不仅仅是洞察力。

我是说我们通过我们生活的节奏来学习

。

我只想以此结束，

回到路加福音第2章的开头。

玛丽有一些期望

，而她必须面对它们。

你为什么要搜索 对我来说耶稣，他说。

耶稣说的是他们。

“你为什么找我？”

这是一个多么好的问题啊。

她已经得到了所有这些答案，对吧？

正确答案，嗯 因为你是我的儿子。

不，但他问了一个更好的问题。

您对我有什么期望？

我会听的，听我的，我会和你一起去。

我会提交给你，但是 妈妈，我需要你知道

你有一些期望

，你需要面对它们。

我爱你妈妈，我们走吧。

（快节奏钢琴音乐）

- [播音员] Biola 大学让基督徒

做好准备，生动地思考一切 从科学到商业，

到教育和艺术。

请访问 Biola.edu 了解更多信息。

（缓慢的钢琴音乐）

[英语]

(slow piano music)

- I have in my lifetime wrestled

with having high, high expectations

for all things under the sun.

I have wanted to have the best this,

the best that the best experience.

I wanted to have this when I got to that

and you know what I've had a thousand times

that followed those things

that I've had my expectation dashed.

As you do because when you're young,

how could you know what's coming next?

You really can't and yet we based so much of our life

and our energy in seeking hard to have ourselves

expect what's gonna come,

and then it turns out that we don't actually know.

We looked at this passage yesterday at Fives.

We began to talk about this because this is

where my head space was preparing for tonight.

But Luke 2:48 through 51

is the story of Jesus in the temple.

I just wanna put that out there without giving too much more

but you know the story likely is that Jesus when he was 12,

his family goes back and they go to Jerusalem to adhere

to the Passover rituals and they travel this great distance.

And a couple things to know before we think more about this

is it in ancient Israel, they were a strong group culture.

And what that is different than us is that

we are what's called a radical individualist culture.

It means that we have our fences right.

We have our people, we have our stuff

and those things are not yours they're mine.

And you have your things and I have my things

and we're cordial but we're radical individualists.

My stuff is my stuff.

And so as they're traveling.

They're traveling not as radical individuals

who have their carpools right, their caravans.

They're traveling as families who are extended families

and they all belonged to one another.

And so as they get to Jerusalem

and they go through the routines.

It's conceivable then that Mary and Joseph can turn back

around and go yeah I don't know where my son is

but I'm sure he's up in this group somewhere.

We're just going to start heading back

and get my son Jesus will know to come back

because he's with his larger extended family.

And so trusting that that was gonna happen.

They're like, well we'll find him along the way.

So they start heading back

after all the Passover festivities

and three days go by they don't find him

and they start to panic.

And so they do what you your parents told you

when you were young and went to an amusement park.

When you get lost just stay where you are,

we'll come back and find you.

And sure enough they come to the temple and they find Jesus

and so that's where we wanna pick it up.

It says this and when his parents saw him,

they were astonished and his mother said to him.

"Son why have you treated us so?

"Behold your father and I have been searching

"for you in great distress."

And he said to them, "Why are you looking for me?

"Did you not know that I must be in my Father's house?"

Right there one of those things is exposed here

is that Mary had a set of expectations.

And this is is the generous, gracious process of those

expectations, specifically here.

Expectations for being a mother,

but also for being a mother of the Messiah Jesus.

And so he continues and they did not understand

the saying that he spoke to them and he went down with them

and he came in Nazareth and he was submissive to them.

And his mother treasured up all these things

in her heart and it feels like that's a really polite way

of saying she registered, wow, what just happened?

What is this?

This is not what I expected.

I think that Jesus is actually quite in the business

of helping us admit that, oh you had an expectation for me.

Didn't you?

You had hoped I would fit into that box,

that set of categories.

You had hope that I would be perhaps a genie.

Oh listen I'm not a genie and since I love you,

you're not in trouble for thinking that I understand that.

But you do need to learn,

and I do need to dash that expectation.

See here's the thing about expectations.

Is that expectations are often under-informed by experience.

Just read that for a second,

expectations are often under-informed by experience

and that becomes a problem.

It means that we cannot trust our expectations.

Anybody in here ever had a friend or roommate

who their expectations were too high?

Just raise your hand, don't nudge anybody

but did anybody had, somebody who is in a relationship.

Just wow that is a really exceptionally

high expectation for this thing right.

What's that like?

That's stifling.

You can't be who you are.

It's a tremendous burden, you are not free to be you.

You're needing to please that person

or they get hurt or they're gone or they're sad

or they're depressed or worse they're suicidal,

or angry or addicted to something

and they are putting the burden of that on you.

I think that the same can be said about God in terms of us.

We're the ones who tend to have way too high expectations

or the expectations that just have nothing to do

with who he is and what he's all about

and we bring that to the table.

I think he is in the business of helping us see

that those expectations are under-informed.

Expectations makes us lose our perspective

on things that are really important.

Consider the first moment whether you're a senior

or whether you're a freshman.

The first moment you decided I am going to Biola.

In that moment you were filled with expectations

about what you thought was gonna be happening here.

Now for good or for bad, for good or for bad

those expectations have been dashed.

Yes, yes is this what you thought it was going to be?

It may be really good.

It's not to say just because it's not what you expected.

It's not to say that it was bad.

It's just to say that it was different.

It's not what you thought it would be.

On one hand Biola is exciting

and it's doctrinally unwavering and it's on message.

And it's about the classes,

and the resources here at the university.

You live and experience in this but on the other hand Biola

is a struggle maybe you're not best friends

with your roommate like you thought you would be.

You realize that you expected more.

Maybe you were in love when you came here

and you left somebody behind,

and it's not going as well as you had expected.

Maybe the Bible classes and the social life,

maybe the whole thing is not turning out like you had hoped.

I wanna talk specifically

about three identity-based expectations

that skew our understanding of God,

ourselves and about relationships in general.

And by extension then even our time here to Biola

and I think part of growth then is going to be for us

to be in the face like Mary has a face.

Oh I had an expectation there.

To identify the expectation

but then also to move through the expectation

so that you can move towards openness

and whatever comes next.

So these are three identity-based expectations

that skew our experience.

That's not the slide nor is that, nor is that.

Oh I'm going backwards.

Just two buttons and it's too hard for me.

There it is, the expectation

that spiritual feelings will deliver you.

That one's gonna crush you okay.

The expectation that relationships

romantic or otherwise will describe you.

In other words it's gonna describe to others who you are.

Oh you're the person whose with those people,

with that person, and the expectation

that great insights will define you.

And so for you at Biola, your quest is essentially this

that I will have, I will find great emotion for God.

That I will find a person, that I will find great insight

and those things are gonna be the things

that are gonna make me who I am.

So quickly to the first one.

The expectation that spiritual feelings will deliver you.

This statement that you would make to yourself

about this one is I am doing okay, because I feel God.

I'm doing okay because I feel God is a statement

that goes with this first one.

Yeah this is a dangerous one, this is a dangerous one

because as much as we want to say that the goal

is to always have a spiritual high.

You know that the Garden of Gethsemane

just for instance, is a time where Jesus didn't feel God

but he was still called to be right where he was at.

The early church is defined by martyrs.

You know who they are?

They're people who don't feel God,

and yet they were called to be right where they are.

It seems that God asks us at times to follow him

even if it's not easy, even if we don't feel him.

And so if our spiritual quest is to always be feeling God

to have a spiritual high then it is possible

that we are going to miss something

that he is asking us to pick up on.

A common experience is that we can worship,

go to worship or teaching and have great conversations

to give us that spiritual high.

And that's spiritual high becomes at times

our only gauge for whether or not their success here.

That's like the only thing that's giving me any feedback

is if I'm doing okay is if I feel really good about God.

If I feel something then it was success.

Listen let's just be honest here,

you will walk away from tonight and you'll go,

"Hmm was tonight good?

"Let's see, did I feel anything about tonight?

"Did I feel spiritually high about something?"

If I did then After Dark was off the chain.

If I didn't yeah, it was okay, it was okay.

And so we use the gauge of emotion for God to be

our gauge of success we bring this tremendous

set of expectations to God.

And what I would say to you is this.

What is you come to After Dark or Singspiration

or Fives or Midday or Morning Chapel.

And you don't have an expectation,

you know what you're doing, you know what you're saying.

You're saying God, you can show up and grow me however

you want to do it why because you're God.

I'm going to be open to you

if you wanna grow me through hard times

or a season of dryness.

God I'm gonna be open to you

and I'm gonna be obedient to you even

if I feel spiritually dry.

See what we do is we feel that dryness

and then we pull back from God

and say I don't know if I'm really gonna do this.

And I don't think that we want to be doing that

but often times that what's happening.

I talk to dozens of students who sense

that they're feeling spiritually numb.

And so they come here trying to manufacture feeling.

I understand this I want this but those feelings are a gift

and if you are getting them then open your hearts

wide open to God because he is giving those to you.

But if you're not feeling them, C.S. Lewis talks about this

brilliantly in the Screwtape Letters.

He says it's like a parent who removes his hands

so that the baby can learn to walk.

God is trying to grow us,

and he does it in a lot of different ways.

Sometimes he gives us spiritual feelings

in order to grow us and sometimes he takes them away.

Let's give him the freedom to do that.

Take away on this point when you walk away from here

asking yourself if you thought tonight was a good

based on whether not you felt God.

Catch yourself in that moment, just catch yourself.

Be gentle with yourself,

don't get in the whole cycle of guilt and shame

but ask a better question.

Did you learn anything about yourself or God

or His creation or others?

That's a better way to get at it.

When somebody ask you was it good,

don't ask a question you feel.

Often self-awareness is painful but it's necessary.

A second one that we looked at there

is that relationships romantic or otherwise.

I think I would probably lean more towards romantic

because that is a big deal

and it's pretty define my time here

trying to chase after that whole thing.

But the statement that you would say with this one.

The correspondence statement would be is I'm doing okay

because this person, this relationship is proof

that I'm loved and valued.

And so you have an expectation that a person can do that

and don't you know, don't you see that God would want for us

expectation for your own good.

Because no person can bear the weight of that

only God can tell you who you are.

And so this one is really hard.

This one feels like to me at least

when I was here everybody could say.

Everybody else was doing that whole putting expectations

and some relationship defining them but that's not me.

But it's everybody else is doing that

but privately I was doing that too.

If I wasn't dating somebody I was wanting to date somebody.

If I wasn't wanting to date somebody,

I was wanting to want to date somebody.

Biola, you know you're at Biola

when everybody likes somebody

but nobody is asking anybody out right.

You know you're at Biola when that's happening.

Family talk right, real talk.

I'm glad things haven't changed in 20 years.

I remember sitting at my graduation on Metzger lawn

looking at the speaker going,

"Huh I had really thought I would meet her here."

And I had, anchor yourself to this one.

To this relationship is like being anchored in a hurricane.

It's up and it's down and it spins you until you're dizzy.

I came to Biola with a broken heart,

in part of came here because I had a broken heart.

and wanted to kind of run from those feelings.

I tried dating but I was so anxious

and I was so in my head about these things.

I was concerned what others thought about me

and if I went on too many dates would I get a reputation.

For just going out with too many different people.

It's crazy, Biola at that time

was about half the size it is now.

And so just felt like if you feel like

you know everybody now.

When it was 2000 people it was way more.

People knew if you were dating on the scene.

This expectation is pretty hard to avoid.

I don't have a lot of advice to give

but I have some advice to help you cope.

And that is just this broaden your relationship for.

Have more relationship with more people.

Process this with people, have quality relationship

so that you are being fulfilled on multiple fronts

with multiple kinds of friendship.

Because your soul just need to be filled

with the goodness of God and that often comes

through your relationship with people.

Your healthy relationship with people

and so if this your quest,

just understand that this expectation.

God is trying to dash that expectation for a good reason.

The third one and the final one

is a great insight will define you.

And the statement you would make here with this one

is that I'm okay because

I finally realized something important.

We're constantly standing here.

We're going to class, we're going to chapel.

We're listening to sermons, we're listening to the podcast

and we're sort of suddenly

but not so suddenly just like waiting

for that one insight light bulb to just go off,

and then it's gonna deliver me.

Then I will have arrived at that.

Where, where?

Are we all life-long learners?

I think we're gonna be learning

when we get to be with God still.

Something more about him new everyday.

Why is this insight thing

and it's arrival insight so important to us?

But it is, it's important to me too.

For the sake of time I'll just say this

that Biola is an insight mill.

There are incredibly important ideas floating around here.

Daily we can feel the weight of those.

Professors they drop truth bombs,

and then pull back the curtain and show you what happens

if you or Society doesn't live those truth bombs out.

The devastation that will happen.

You can be overwhelming and you can feel like

it's a competition to see who can hold

as many of these types of truths as possible.

But due to the nature of the weight of those ideas,

the right answers cannot simply just be memorized,

and this is important.

This is a how we learn problem,

it's not what we learn.

If it was only about what we learned

then the whole project of life would simply be

to just memorize the right facts.

But memorization doesn't lead to wisdom.

When you're studying your Bible classes you're not simply

memorizing a periodic table.

The Bible scripture is the Living Word of God,

it's not multiplication tables to just gut it out

and just get it in ya.

You don't learn to pray to God

by somebody just describing it to you.

The problem with insight alone is that insight is not wisdom

as you are journeying here through Biola,

do not get insight confused with wisdom.

If you're setting your expectations

that you're gonna gain insight

so that you will be somebody important.

Listen, it's wisdom that makes you important not insight.

At Biola we have answers to questions

that we haven't even asked yet.

Let's learn to ask the questions

so that we can live into the answers,

and it could have meaning and we can have wisdom.

The hard thing is that we are learning from professors

who have a good bit of the wisdom

because they ask the right questions.

And then lived into those answers

and then they just get to the end,

and they give you the answers

but you never lived the journey.

The important piece for you is to live into the answers.

what might it take to run a marathon?

That's a great question.

You could look up the answer on the internet right now

and if you looked up the answers

and even memorize the answers.

Would you be prepared to run a marathon?

No, the only way to prepare yourself

is to live into the answer.

Ask yourself for this one is my posture in class

just hurry up and tell me the answer

or tell me what to think professor,

or professor what's your position on this.

I need to know so that I can have that be my position too.

If that's what you're doing

that's an expectation that you have

that is probably going to get toppled over.

Because God is asking you to learn wisdom,

not just insight.

I'm saying that we learn

through the rhythms that we live.

And I just wanna conclude with this,

Go back to the beginning of Luke 2.

Where Mary has some expectations

and she had to confront them.

Why are you searching for me Jesus, he said.

Jesus said that them.

"Why are you searching for me?"

What a great confronting question.

She's got all these answers right?

The right answers, well because you're my son.

No but he's asking a better question.

What expectations do you have of me?

I'll listen, listen I'll go with you.

I'll submit to you but mama I need you to know

that you got some expectations

and you need to confront them.

I love you Mom, let's go.

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重点词汇

词汇	含义
wrestled /ˈrɛsl̩d/ B2	verb - 搏斗 (bódòu - to wrestle)
expectations /ˌɛkspɛkteɪʃənz/ B1	noun - 期望 (qīwàng - expectation)
experience /ɪkˈspɪəriəns/ B1	noun - 经验 (jīngyàn - experience)
dashed /dæʃt/ B2	verb - 粉碎 (fěnsuì - to shatter)
seeking /ˈsiːkɪŋ/ B1	verb - 寻求 (xúnqiú - to seek)
radical /ˈrædɪkl/ C1	adjective - 根本的 (gēnběn de - fundamental)
individualist /ˌɪndɪˈvɪdʒuəlɪst/ C1	noun - 个人主义者 (gèrén zhǔyì zhě - individualist)
cordial /ˈkɔːrdjəl/ B2	adjective - 友好的 (yǒuhǎo de - friendly)
extended /ɪkˈstɛndɪd/ B1	adjective - 扩展的 (kuòzhǎn de - extended)
panic /ˈpænɪk/ B1	verb - 惊慌 (jīnghuāng - to panic)
astonished /əˈstɒnɪʃt/ B2	adjective - 惊讶的 (jīngyà de - astonished)
distress /dɪˈstrɛs/ B2	noun - 痛苦 (tòngkǔ - distress)
messiah /məˈsaɪə/ C1	noun - 弥赛亚 (mísàiyà - Messiah)
registered /ˈrɛdʒɪstərd/ B1	verb - 登记 (dēngjì - to register)
submit /səbˈmɪt/ B2	verb - 服从 (fúcóng - to submit)
treasured /ˈtrɛʒərd/ B2	verb - 珍视 (zhēnshì - to treasure)
admit /ədˈmɪt/ B1	verb - 承认 (chéngrèn - to admit)
genie /ˈdʒiːni/ B1	noun - 精灵 (jīnglíng - genie)