– 英语/中文 双语歌词

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[中文]

意面塔可。

嗯嗯。

是啊！

是吗？

我想我们今晚要做意面塔可了。

我把自己定义为温柔的父母。

如果你不知道什么是温柔的父母，

让我给你简单讲解一下。

温柔育儿的三个关键点

是理解、同理心和尊重。

让孩子在自己

和他们的生活中拥有自主权，同时仍然是父母。

但我在我的妈妈群里看到一些讨论，

说温柔的父母不应该说“不”。

is that gentle parents shouldn't say no.

我不这么认为，因为我觉得

孩子们在生活中会听到“不”，

所以把他们完全屏蔽掉“不”是不合理的。

所以我想要尝试一个星期。

我想尝试对我的孩子们说“是”一个星期。

我做了，并且学到了很多。

所以首先我得设定一些规则，

不然的话，我的房子可能就要烧起来了。

首先，我不能让我的孩子们

知道我在做什么，

因为如果他们知道了，

那将会一片混乱。

所以他们完全不知道

其次，有些事情仍然需要发生。

有些与卫生相关的事情，

与健康相关的事情，

比如你不能每餐都吃饼干。

但除此之外，我放任自流，并且说了“是”。

现在是星期六早上。

早上六点四十五分。

我的两个孩子都醒了。

通常我会让他们看一会儿电视，

这样我就可以多睡一会儿，

但他们两个都饿了，看起来快要饿死了。

他们想去吃早餐。

所以我起来，我们走吧。

我们要去给杰克逊理发。

我们走着去，他

想骑他的滑板车。

通常我会说“不”，

因为我知道我的孩子们。

我知道我们会到那里，理完发，

然后我最终会扛着滑板车

和他的弟弟一路回家。

但我说了“是”。

我们顺利到达，令人惊讶的是，

他骑着滑板车回来的路程也一样。

这真是一个令人愉快的惊喜，

这让我意识到，“哦，这可能不是一件坏事。”

所以他们两个都想

晚餐吃鸡块，

他们问我们能不能一边

一边看探险活宝。

在这整个实验中，我最担心的

是食物方面的问题。

如果你像我一样是个忙碌的父母，

你就会知道准备饭菜是什么样的。

这真的很难。

所以我有一套标准的饭菜轮换，

我知道哪些有效。

所以我不会改变它，

因为如果一样东西很好，你就会一直做下去。

所以当我开始对他们说“是”的时候，

订单变得有点奇怪。

我有一些意面。

我打算尝试把它

放进硬玉米饼里，

因为我觉得用软玉米饼配软意面

会很奇怪。

你喜欢吗？

- 杰克逊，你开心吗？

- 是的。

- 怀亚特，你开心吗？

- 是的。

所以我想这是我孩子们

在这一周中察觉到的一件事，

就是我变得更加灵活了。

从这整个一周的他们选择食物中，

我学到的东西是，

如果他们选择了要吃什么，

他们更有可能吃完整盘。

这个孩子正在吃他的第三个。

天哪，看你吃吧，杰克逊。

最终，他们会获得

他们需要的营养，

只是可能以一种非常奇怪的方式。

这一周并非全是

一帆风顺，

肯定有一些失误，

我学到了一些

我绝对应该继续说“不”的事情。

孩子们真的很想

早餐吃星巴克，

所以我说了“是”。

我们今天有很多事情要做，

所以我只想开车去那里，

然后直接开车去完成今天的任务，

但杰克逊真的，真的想走路，

因为他说他想锻炼。

现在大约是85华氏度，

怀亚特坚持要被抱，所以我们正在做。

大错误！

现在是85度，杰克逊

已经厌倦了走路，

所以他崩溃了，怀亚特崩溃了，

我也崩溃了。

这简直是一场灾难，我们

and play soccer for dinner today and it's a work night.

这周有一个晚上，

所以孩子们想

在公园里野餐，

今天晚餐玩足球。

你觉得怎么样？

是啊！

如果你也是一个忙碌的父母，

那么你就会明白，

一天结束的时候，

就像食物、睡衣、刷牙、睡觉一样。

但我说了“是”，因为我必须这么做。

You know, we packed the picnic,

他们玩着他们的足球门，

孩子们让我和他们一起踢足球，

我说了“是”，因为我必须这么做。

这并不是我通常会做的事情，

因为我从来都不擅长运动。

他们不在乎我踢得不好，

他们玩得很开心。

这让我意识到，

我们可以把工作日

花在高质量的家庭活动上，

而不是只把它们留到周末，

因为这是我在以前从未想过的事情。

足球明星！

直到她踢进球。

这周说“是”的

最终是我的孩子们一直要求我做的一件事，

我知道它要来了，

但我一直很害怕，

因为我不知道

我该如何处理它。

今天早上我准备上班时，

- Yeah, yeah!

杰克逊说：“我想去。”

哇。

我无法想到任何理由说不。

你们兴奋吗？

我见过我的两个孩子

既是甜美、完美的天使，

又会在杂货店里变成尖叫的妖魔。

最终这变得非常有趣。

但首先，

让我的所有同事都认识我的两个孩子，

我为这两个行为举止端庄、

to have these two really well=behaved, sweet,

有礼貌、受人尊敬的孩子感到自豪，

这让我意识到他们只是想更多地了解

我以及我所做的事情，他们想在我身边。

这让我觉得

也许我做得还不错。

我认为这也有关系，

我们有这种巧克力覆盆子漏斗，

你只需要转动它，它们就会不断掉出来，

这可能是他们那天开心的全部原因。

我不知道。

我只想说是因为我。

I'm just gonna say it's 'cause of me.

所以，我从这整个星期中学到了什么？

首先，我发现我经常说“不”，

只是因为我认为这样做方便。

但事实证明，说“是”并没有那么困难，

而且回报更高。

我了解到我可以实现

作为父母更好的工作生活平衡。

不必是周一到周五工作，

周六和周日是孩子们的。

and Saturday and Sunday is kids.

这对我来说是一个非常重要的认识，

因为我每天都在为

作为一名在职父母而挣扎，我相信

你们大多数在职父母

都能感同身受。

最后，我意识到我有好孩子。

我知道我们都认为我们的孩子是最棒的。

当然，我的孩子们是最棒的。

但这一周让我放松，

让他们做出选择，

让我意识到他们有多么优秀，

多么甜蜜，多么聪明。

我还学会了如何制作意面塔可，

并且我学到我再也不会制作它们了。

这就是我今天所要说的。

如果你尝试过这个实验，或者想尝试一下，

或者你希望我尝试其他任何事情，

因为我现在正沉迷于此，

请在评论中留下，或者你可以发短信给我。

这是一个真实的号码。

我会阅读每一条短信，

但我并不一定会回复，

因为我收到的短信太多了，

但我很想知道你们想让我

在未来的剧集中谈论或做些什么。

下次再见。

我将尝试咬一口这个意面塔可。

我遇到的唯一困难是

让意面留在玉米饼里。

（嘎吱声）

[英语]

- Spaghetti tacos.

Uh huh.

- Yeah!

- Yeah?

I guess we're making spaghetti tacos tonight.

I consider myself a gentle parent.

And if you don't know what a gentle parent is,

let me school you a little bit.

The three key points of gentle parenting

are understanding, empathy, and respect.

Letting your child kind of have autonomy over themselves

and their lives, while still being a parent.

But something that I've seen circulating

in my little mom groups on Facebook

is that gentle parents shouldn't say no.

I don't practice that because I think

kids are gonna hear no in their lives

and so shielding them from that is silly.

So, I wanted to try something for a week.

I wanted to try saying yes to my kids for a week.

So I did it and I learned a lot.

So first I had to set some ground rules

because, if not, my house would probably have burnt down.

First, I did not let my kids know that I was doing this,

because if they had known,

that would have been just pure chaos.

So they had no idea that this was happening.

Second, there were some things that needed to still happen.

There are certain hygiene-oriented things

that need to happen, health-oriented things,

like you can't have cookies for every meal.

But beyond that, I let things go and I said yes.

And we had some interesting results.

It is Saturday morning.

It is 6:45 in the morning.

Both of my kids are awake.

Usually, I'd have them watch a little T.V.

so I could get a little extra sleep,

but they both are hungry, apparently starving to death.

And they wanna go to breakfast.

So I'm gonna get up and we're gonna go.

So we're gonna get Jackson's hair cut.

We're walking and he wanted to ride his scooter.

For sure, something I would say no to

because I know my kids.

I know that we'll get there, get his hair cut,

and then I'll end up lugging the scooter

and his younger brother all the way home.

But I said yes.

We got there fine and lo and behold,

he rode his scooter the whole way back, too.

And that was a pleasant surprise

and that was kind of my first realization of like,

"Oh, this might not be a bad thing."

So they both wanted chicken nuggets for dinner

and they asked if we could sit and watch Adventure Time

while we have dinner.

So the one thing that I was most nervous about

in this whole experiment of saying yes

was the food situation.

If you are a busy parent like me,

you know what it's like getting meals on the table.

It's really tough.

So I have this rotation of standard meals

that I know work.

And so, I don't deviate from it

because you got something good, you just keep doing it.

So when I started saying yes to them,

the orders got a little weird.

So I have some spaghetti.

I'm gonna attempt to put it in a hard taco shell

because I feel like a soft one with soft spaghetti

is gonna be, like, pretty weird.

Do you like it?

- Yeah.

- [Hannah] Jackson, are you happy?

- Yes.

- [Hannah] Wyatt, are you happy?

- Yeah.

- So I think this was the one thing

that my kids caught on to during the week,

that I was being a lot more flexible with.

What I learned from this whole week

of them choosing their foods

is that they're more likely to eat the entire plate

if they've chosen what they're gonna have.

This kid's on his third one.

Oh my gosh, look at you go, Jackson.

And ultimately, they'll get what they need nutrition wise,

just maybe in a really weird way.

So this week wasn't all rainbows and butterflies.

There were definitely some slip ups

and some things that I learned

that I definitely should continue to say no to.

The kids really wanted Starbucks for breakfast,

so I said yes.

And we have a lot of errands to run today,

so I wanted to just drive there

and drive straight from there to go do our stuff for the day

but Jackson really, really wanted to walk

'cause he says he wants to get exercise.

It's about 85 degrees out right now

and Wyatt is insisting on being held, so we're doing it.

Big mistake!

It's 85 degrees, Jackson's already tired of walking

and so he's melting down, Wyatt's melting down,

I'm melting down.

It was a disaster and we ended up just going home.

Never again.

There was one evening this week

that I really stepped out of my comfort zone.

So the boys wanted to have a picnic at the park

and play soccer for dinner today and it's a work night.

So I normally wouldn't do this but it's really nice out.

It's a beautiful day and they're having a blast

and we're having a good time.

Are you guys having a good time?

- Yeah!

- If you are a fellow working parent,

then you'll understand that at the end of the day,

it's just kind of like food, PJs, teeth, sleep.

But I said yes 'cause I had to.

And it ended up being one of the most beautiful nights

of the week for us as a family.

You know, we packed the picnic,

they played with their soccer goal.

The kids asked me to play soccer with them

and I said yes because I had to.

And that's not something I typically do

because I've never been good at sports.

And they didn't care that I was bad

and they had a great time.

It was really eye opening to me to realize

that we can spend weeknights doing quality family stuff,

instead of just reserving it all for the weekends,

'cause that's something I didn't think was possible before.

Soccer star!

- [Dad] 'Til she scores on you.

- So the culmination of this week of saying yes

was really this one thing that my kids ask me for constantly

and I knew it was coming, but I was kind dreading it

because I didn't know how I would handle it.

This morning I was getting ready for work

and Jackson was like, "I wanna come."

I couldn't think of a reason why not.

Are you guys excited?

- Yeah, yeah!

- Wyatt, are you excited to go to BuzzFeed?

(cheering)

Wow.

And I was terrified because kids are so unpredictable.

I've seen my two-year-old being a sweet, perfect angel,

then I've seen him morph into a shrieking banshee

in the middle of the grocery store.

It ended up being so much fun.

But it was really cool, first of all,

to have everyone I work with meet both of my kids

and I was just really proud

to have these two really well=behaved, sweet,

and polite, and respectful kids at work with me that day.

It made me realize that they just really wanna know

more about me and what I do and they wanna be around me.

And it just, it made me feel like

maybe I'm not doing such a terrible job.

I think part of it also had to do with

we have this like chocolate-covered raisin funnel

that you just like twist it and they keep coming out

and that might have been the whole reason

why they were happy that day.

I don't know.

I'm just gonna say it's 'cause of me.

So, what did I learn from this whole week?

I learned, first of all, that I say no a lot of the time

out what I think is convenient.

But it ends up not being that much more difficult to say yes

and it ends up being a lot more rewarding.

I've learned that there's a better work life balance

that I can achieve as a parent.

It doesn't have to be this like

Monday through Friday is work

and Saturday and Sunday is kids.

And that has been such an important realization for me

because that's something I struggle with every day

being a working parent and I'm sure

most of you working parents out there can relate.

And finally, I realized I have good kids.

And I know that we all think our kids are the greatest.

Like, obviously my kids are the greatest.

But just having this week to relax

and let them make the choices,

made me realize how genuinely great they are

and how sweet they are and how smart they are.

And I also learned how to make spaghetti tacos

and I also learned that I am never gonna make those again.

So that's all I got for today.

If you've tried this experiment or want to try it

or you want me to try anything else in the future,

'cause I'm totally on a kick right now,

leave it in the comments or you can text me.

This is a real number.

I do read every single text.

I don't necessarily respond because I get a lot of them

but I love to know what you guys want me to talk about

or do in future episodes.

'Til next time.

I'm gonna try to take a bite of this spaghetti taco.

The one difficulty I'm running into

is keeping the spaghetti in the taco.

(crunching)

Oh man, I'm messy and weird.

(upbeat music)

重点词汇

词汇	含义
spaghetti /spəˈɡeti/ A2	noun - 意大利面 (yìdàlì miàn)
tacos /ˈtɑːkoʊs/ A2	noun - 玉米卷 (yùmǐ juǎn)
gentle /ˈdʒɛntl/ A2	adjective - 温柔的 (wēnróu de)
parent /ˈpɛrənt/ A1	noun - 父母 (fùmǔ)
understanding /ˌʌndərˈstændɪŋ/ B1	noun - 理解 (lǐjiě)
empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/ B2	noun - 同情心 (tóngqíng xīn)
respect /rɪˈspɛkt/ A2	noun - 尊重 (zūnzhòng)
autonomy /ɔːˈtɒnəmi/ C1	noun - 自主性 (zìzhǔ xìng)
circulating /ˈsɜːrkjʊleɪtɪŋ/ B1	verb - 循环 (xúnhuán)
shielding /ˈʃiːldɪŋ/ B1	verb - 保护 (bǎohù)
circulating /ˈsɜːrkjʊleɪtɪŋ/ B1	verb - 循环 (xúnhuán)
chaos /ˈkeɪɒs/ B2	noun - 混乱 (hǔnluàn)
hygiene /ˈhaɪdʒiːn/ B1	noun - 卫生 (wèishēng)
oriented /ˈɔːriəntɪd/ B1	adjective - 定向的 (dìngxiàng de)
flexible /ˈflɛksɪbl/ B1	adjective - 灵活的 (línghuó de)
nutrition /njuːˈtrɪʃən/ B1	noun - 营养 (yíngyǎng)
experiment /ɪkˈspɛrɪmənt/ B1	noun - 实验 (shíyàn)

重点语法结构

• I consider myself a gentle parent.

  ➔ 反身代词 + 不定式

  ➔ “consider myself”这个短语使用反身代词“myself”和不定式“to be”来表达说话者如何看待自己的身份。这是一种常见的自我认知表达方式。

• So I wanted to try something for a week.

  ➔ 过去进行时与目的 (to + 不定式)

  ➔ “wanted to try”这个短语表明了过去想要尝试做某事的意图或愿望。“to try”部分是不定式目的，解释了说话者为什么想要做某事。

• I learned that they're more likely to eat the entire plate if they've chosen what they're gonna have.

  ➔ 条件句 (类型 1) - 'if' 子句 + 主句

  ➔ 这句话使用第一类条件句来表达一个可能的结果。“If they've chosen...”是条件，“they're more likely to eat...”是结果。“gonna”是“going to”的口语形式。

• It was a disaster and we ended up just going home.

  ➔ 过去式 + 动词短语 ('end up')

  ➔ 这句话使用过去式描述了一个负面结果。动词短语“end up”意味着最终达到某种情况，通常是无意的。它表示失败尝试的最终结果。