– 英语/中文 双语歌词

歌词与翻译

[中文]

[掌声]

>> 我的童年非常美好。

父母关爱有加，拥有一个安全、

充满支持的家。

我在新社区的一所好学校读书。

neighborhood.

我拥有一切成功的机会。

可即便如此，我还是做了一连串错误的决定，

decisions that led me down a dangerous

走上了一条危险的道路。

我在校期间

曾是个好学生。

但进入高中后，挑战随之而来。

我感到了压力、

自卑，以及渴望融入群体的心理负担。

这让我开始质疑：

“我是谁？

我的归属在哪里？

毕业后我该做什么？”

我不知道答案。

我感到迷茫、无助，

且毫无准备。

那也是我与负面应对机制

relationship with negative coping

产生联系的开端。

我开始逃学，

几乎每天都在

酗酒和吸毒。

当时我并没有意识到，自己正在

失去掌控。

到17岁时，我因两场严重车祸

被送进医院两次。

两起事故都涉及毒品和酒精。

在那之后不久，

我就因毒品指控被捕了。

我的20多岁是在一系列小胜

和挫折中度过的，这让我不禁反问：

“我在干什么？”

我断断续续地上学，

在不同的城市间奔波。

我找工作，又被解雇，

不止一次地从头再来。

那是十年毫无意义的奔波。

meaning.

现在，作为两个小男孩的父亲，

我回想起当年让父母承受的一切，感到惊恐。

parents through.

那种压力、失眠的夜晚，

以及他们看着我深陷泥潭时的

那种无助。

当你的孩子陷入人生低谷时，

spiral,

没有一份说明书教你怎么拯救他们。

你只能满怀希望、

期盼、

祈祷能有什么人或事

最终能点醒他们。

我很幸运，真的有人做到了。

我父亲把我介绍给他的私人教练Donnie，

trainer Donnie, and the direction of my

从此我的人生方向彻底改变了。

有一句古话：当学生准备好时，

student is ready,

老师就会出现。

事实正是如此。Donnie接纳了我，

took me under his wing, sharing his

向我分享他关于生活和事业的见解。

他成了我的导师。

他跟我谈论目标、积极的自我对话，

self-talk and surrounding yourself with

以及要与鼓舞人心的人为伍。

他特别擅长说一些

one-liners that made you rethink your

让你重新审视整个人生的金句。

比如，“你不去面对的问题，就永远无法解决。”

won't face."

或者，

“如果维持现状，

那就什么都不会改变。”

还有些小谜语，比如“小小的铰链，

能开启大门。”

至今我还不懂这句话的意思。

这些话听起来像是全新的智慧，尽管我确定

the first time, even though I'm pretty

sure my parents have been saying the

我父母多年来一直也在对我说同样的话。

老实说，父母的忠告，

parents lands about as well as when your

就像配偶教你怎么正确装洗碗机一样，

dishwasher properly.

你听到了，但你就是听不进去。

但如果出自导师之口，同样的话就

具有了全新的力量。

就像有人递给你一副眼镜，突然之间，

glasses, and suddenly you see things

你比以往任何时候都看得更清楚。

You see yourself

你比以往任何时候都更能看清自己。

我的导师看到了我身上的某些特质，

believed in me before I had the ability

在我自己还没信心之前，他就先相信了我。

今天，我戒酒已经5年了。

戒毒已经15年了。

>> [掌声]

>> 我是一位幸福的丈夫，也是一位自豪的父亲。

过去十年，我也致力于

帮助他人改变他们的人生。

我分享这些并非为了炫耀，

而是想让你们明白导师引领与连接

能带来怎样的可能性。

现在，我们比以往任何时候都更需要这两者。

我的故事证明，没有人能免于

feeling lost

迷茫感，

或免于糟糕决策带来的后果。

挣扎是普遍存在的，它影响着每个人。

事实上，确实如此。研究显示，

we're witnessing a generation where many

我们这一代年轻人中，很多男性正在默默挣扎，

对抗抑郁、

焦虑、药物滥用，

甚至产生轻生的念头。

2024年，加拿大男性健康基金会发现，

Foundation found that more than half of

19到29岁的年轻人中，超过一半

感到中度至高度焦虑，42%

有抑郁风险。

在英国，社会正义中心发布的

published by the Centre for Social

《迷失男孩》报告指出，男孩和年轻男性

正处于危机之中。

想象一下，每天醒来都背负着一种

invisible weight

无形的重担，

它影响着生活的方方面面。

Your ambition,

你的抱负、

你的学业、

你的人际关系，

但最重要的是，你对未来的希望。

更糟的是，许多年轻人常常默默忍受，

in silence, believing that it's not

认为求助是不够“男人”的表现。

于是，

they often bottle up their emotions and

他们压抑情感，转而使用

毒品、酒精、游戏，或沉溺于社交媒体

alcohol, video games, or doom scrolling

来逃避现实。

当他们感到迷茫、停滞不前或压力过大时，

stressed,

it's often easier to escape reality than

逃避现实往往比面对它容易得多。

但如果有一位导师能在年轻人人生的关键时刻

this critical time in a young man's

出现呢？

导师引领并不是要取代治疗，

treatment or therapy,

但我相信这是解决方案的一部分。

它具有实操性、

有效性，而且不需要数亿的预算。

billion-dollar budget.

导师引领之所以宝贵，是因为它提供了

provides something that everyone needs,

每个人都需要的：连接感。

一个愿意倾听的人，一个能映射出我们优点的人，

reflects our strengths back to us, and

gently nudges us towards who we're

并温和地推动我们向那个有潜力的自己迈进。

这能建立自信、

self-esteem,

自尊和希望。

而且导师引领并非新概念，它和人类历史一样悠久。

as old as human history itself.

历史上，我们依靠长辈和学徒制来生存。

apprenticeship to survive.

我们的祖先，

they didn't make it on their own.

他们无法独自生存。

我们是在连接中进化的。

而今天，尽管我们通过社交媒体和科技连接在一起，

we're starved for genuine, meaningful

我们却极其渴望真实、有意义的人际关系。

在某个阶段，我们开始

glorifying independence.

推崇独立。

当然，独立是好事，

但前提是你没有陷入孤独的挣扎。

导师引领可以给予激励与力量。正如铁磨铁，

just as iron sharpens iron, supportive

connections leave us all feeling

支持性的连接让我们所有人变得更强大。

常有人说，每个人的生命中都需要四个人：

people in their life,

一位教练、

a cheerleader, a friend, and a mentor.

一位啦啦队员、一位朋友，和一位导师。

这是真的。

但重点在于，

你也要成为别人的这四种人。

导师引领是双向的，作为导师，

mentor, you're called to embody the

你需要践行你所教授的原则和价值观。

teach.

在这样做时，你也会发现

新的意义和目标感。

帮助他人发现自己的优势，

strengths is one of life's greatest

是人生中最伟大的礼物之一。

问问Wally就知道了，他指导有抱负的

企业家。他以热心社区事务闻名，

community involvement and believes that

相信分享的成功才最有价值。

或者John，他已经指导年轻人超过50年，

over 50 years and still does at the age

即便93岁高龄依然在做。

他说这可能是让他保持年轻的原因。

feeling so young.

我想你们每个人都能想起

someone from your youth

年轻时让你印象深刻的人，

以至于你现在还能看到他们的脸，甚至听到他们的声音。

even hear their voice.

那么，我们该如何重拾导师文化？

通过行动。

首先，我们需要创造空间，让年轻人

it's safe for young men to open up and

能够安全地敞开心扉，寻求反馈。

在这些空间里，他们可以通过共同体验连接彼此，

shared experience like a group hike,

比如徒步、学习新技能，

或者围着篝火谈心，而不是去酒吧买醉。

to the bar.

其次，我们需要刻意为之。

留意身边人的变化。一句简单的“嘿，

those around you. A simple, "Hey, do you

want to grab a coffee and go for a

想去喝杯咖啡散散步吗？”

就能给一个年轻人的生活带来巨大改变。

第三，我们要以身作则。

行动胜于言语，

others are always watching whether you

无论你是否意识到，别人都在注视着你。

我们生命中都有年轻人。

儿子、

兄弟、

侄子或邻居。当他茁壮成长时，

thriving, it literally creates a ripple

这会为整个家庭和社区带来连锁反应。

年轻人有巨大的潜能。

一直都有，

always will.

永远会有。

你能成为一位导师吗？

你生命中，谁需要你成为那声鼓励，

voice of encouragement or that catalyst

或成为改变的催化剂？

毕竟，这不仅仅是关于导师引领。

mentorship.

这是关于寻找意义、

and purpose

目标，以及服务他人。

我相信，在内心深处，

that's what everyone's searching for

这正是每个人都在寻找的。

年轻人现在比以往任何时候都更需要导师。

ever.

导师引领拥有改变生命的力量。

lives.

我深知这一点，因为它改变了我。

谢谢大家。

>> [掌声]

[掌声]

[英语]

[applause]

>> I had a great childhood.

Loving parents, a safe and supportive

home.

I went to a good school in a new

neighborhood.

I had every opportunity to succeed.

And I still made a series of bad

decisions that led me down a dangerous

path.

I was a good student

when I attended.

But with high school came challenges.

There was stress,

insecurities, and pressure to fit in.

And it left me questioning,

"Who am I?

Where do I belong?

What do I do after graduation?"

I didn't know.

I felt lost, overwhelmed, and

unprepared.

And that marked the beginning of my

relationship with negative coping

mechanisms.

I started skipping school,

drinking alcohol, and doing drugs almost

daily.

I didn't realize it then, but I was

losing control.

By 17, I'd been hospitalized twice after

two major car accidents.

And both involved drugs and alcohol.

And shortly after that,

I was arrested on drug charges.

My 20s were a series of small wins

followed by setbacks that left me

wondering, "What am I doing?"

I was in and out of school and bounced

from city to city.

I found work, got fired,

and started over more than once.

It was a decade of motion without

meaning.

Now, as a father of two young boys, I

look back in horror at what I put my

parents through.

The stress, sleepless nights, and

helplessness as they watched me

struggle.

When your child is caught in a downward

spiral,

there's no manual for how to save them.

You're left hoping,

wishing,

praying that something or someone

finally gets through to them.

And lucky for me, someone did.

My dad introduced me to his personal

trainer Donnie, and the direction of my

life completely changed.

And there's an old saying that when the

student is ready,

the teacher will appear.

And that's exactly what happened. Donnie

took me under his wing, sharing his

knowledge about life and business.

He became my mentor.

He talked about goals and positive

self-talk and surrounding yourself with

inspiring people.

And he had this knack for dropping

one-liners that made you rethink your

whole life.

Things like, "Uh, you can't fix what you

won't face."

Or,

"Well, if nothing changes,

nothing changes."

And little riddles like, "Small hinges

open big doors."

I still don't understand that one.

It felt like wisdom I was hearing for

the first time, even though I'm pretty

sure my parents have been saying the

same sort of thing for years.

Let's be honest. Advice from your

parents lands about as well as when your

spouse tells you how to load the

dishwasher properly.

You hear it. You just don't hear it.

But from a mentor, the same words take

on a whole new power.

It's like someone hands you a pair of

glasses, and suddenly you see things

better than ever before.

You see yourself

better than ever before.

Well, my mentor saw something and

believed in me before I had the ability

to believe in myself.

And today, I'm 5 years sober.

I'm 15 years drug-free.

>> [applause]

>> I'm a happy husband and proud father.

And for the last decade, I've worked to

help others transform their lives, too.

Now, I don't share that to impress you,

but to impress upon you what's possible

with mentorship and connection.

And we need both now more than ever.

My story shows that no one is immune to

feeling lost

or the consequences of poor decisions.

Struggle is universal and it can affect

anyone.

In fact, it is. And studies suggest that

we're witnessing a generation where many

young men are quietly struggling,

battling depression,

anxiety, substance abuse,

and even thoughts of suicide.

In 2024, the Canadian Men's Health

Foundation found that more than half of

all young men aged 19 to 29 reported

moderate to high anxiety, and 42% were

at risk of depression.

In the UK, the Lost Boys report

published by the Centre for Social

Justice stated that boys and young men

are in crisis.

Imagine waking up every day with an

invisible weight

that impacts every single aspect of

life.

Your ambition,

your education,

your relationships,

but most importantly, your hope for the

future.

Even worse, many young men often suffer

in silence, believing that it's not

manly to ask for help.

So, instead,

they often bottle up their emotions and

turn to negative coping mechanisms like

drugs,

alcohol, video games, or doom scrolling

social media to check out.

And when they feel lost, stuck, or

stressed,

it's often easier to escape reality than

actually deal with it.

But what if a mentor were to show up at

this critical time in a young man's

life?

Mentorship, it's not meant to replace

treatment or therapy,

but I believe it's part of the solution.

It's actionable,

it's effective, and it doesn't require a

billion-dollar budget.

Mentorship is valuable because it

provides something that everyone needs,

connection.

Someone who listens, someone who

reflects our strengths back to us, and

gently nudges us towards who we're

capable of becoming.

It builds confidence,

self-esteem,

and hope.

And mentorship's not a new concept, it's

as old as human history itself.

Historically, we relied on elders and

apprenticeship to survive.

Our ancestors,

they didn't make it on their own.

We evolved to thrive in connection.

And today, despite being connected

through social media and technology,

we're starved for genuine, meaningful

relationships.

Somewhere along the way we began

glorifying independence.

And look, independence is great,

unless of course you're struggling

alone.

Mentorship can uplift and empower. And

just as iron sharpens iron, supportive

connections leave us all feeling

stronger.

It's often said that everyone needs four

people in their life,

a coach,

a cheerleader, a friend, and a mentor.

And it's true.

But here's the twist,

it's also about being those people for

someone else.

Mentorship is a two-way street, and as a

mentor, you're called to embody the

values and the principles that you

teach.

And in doing so, you also find a

newfound sense of meaning and purpose.

Helping somebody to discover their

strengths is one of life's greatest

gifts.

Just ask Wally who mentors aspiring

entrepreneurs. He's known for his

community involvement and believes that

success is best when shared.

Or John who's mentored young men for

over 50 years and still does at the age

of 93.

He says it's probably what keeps him

feeling so young.

I imagine that each of you can recall

someone from your youth

who made such an impression on you that

you can still see their face or maybe

even hear their voice.

So, how do we restore mentorship?

With action.

First, we need to create spaces where

it's safe for young men to open up and

ask for feedback.

Places where they can connect through a

shared experience like a group hike,

learning a new skill, or bonding around

a bonfire rather than just bellying up

to the bar.

Second, we need to be intentional.

Pay attention and notice changes in

those around you. A simple, "Hey, do you

want to grab a coffee and go for a

walk?" can make a huge difference in the

life of a young man.

And third, we need to lead by example.

Actions speak louder than words, and

others are always watching whether you

realize it or not.

We all have young men in our life.

A son,

brother,

nephew, or neighbor. And when he's

thriving, it literally creates a ripple

effect through families and communities.

Young men have enormous potential.

Always have,

always will.

So, here's what I ask you to consider.

Can you be a mentor?

Who in your life needs you to be that

voice of encouragement or that catalyst

for change?

After all, it's about more than just

mentorship.

It's about finding meaning

and purpose

and being of service to others.

And I believe that deep down inside,

that's what everyone's searching for

anyway.

Young men need mentors now more than

ever.

Mentorship has the power to change

lives.

I know this because it changed mine.

Thank you.

>> [applause]

[applause]

重点词汇

词汇	含义
childhood /ˈtʃaɪld.hʊd/ A2	noun - 童年
opportunity /ˌɒp.əˈtʃuː.nə.ti/ B1	noun - 机会
succeed /səkˈsiːd/ A2	verb - 成功
overwhelmed /ˌəʊ.vəˈwelmd/ B2	adjective - 不知所措的
mechanism /ˈmek.ə.nɪ.zəm/ B2	noun - 机制
spiral /ˈspaɪə.rəl/ B2	noun - 螺旋
mentor /ˈmen.tɔːr/ B2	noun - 导师
inspire /ɪnˈspaɪər/ B2	verb - 鼓舞
transform /trænsˈfɔːm/ B2	verb - 改变
consequence /ˈkɒn.sɪ.kwəns/ B2	noun - 后果
universal /ˌjuː.nɪˈvɜː.səl/ B2	adjective - 普遍的
ambition /æmˈbɪʃ.ən/ B2	noun - 抱负
effective /ɪˈfek.tɪv/ B1	adjective - 有效的
confidence /ˈkɒn.fɪ.dəns/ B1	noun - 自信
embody /ɪmˈbɒd.i/ C1	verb - 体现
catalyst /ˈkæt.əl.ɪst/ C1	noun - 催化剂

重点语法结构

• I still made a series of bad decisions that led me down a dangerous path.

  ➔ 使用 'that' 的关系从句

  ➔ "that" 一词引导了一个描述 "decisions" 的关系从句，提供了关于该名词的额外信息。

• I'd been hospitalized twice after two major car accidents.

  ➔ 过去完成被动语态

  ➔ "had been" + 过去分词结构表示在过去某一时间点之前已经完成的动作。

• And there's an old saying that when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.

  ➔ 时间状语从句

  ➔ "when the student is ready" 从句充当时间状语，为从句设定了条件或时机。

• Advice from your parents lands about as well as when your spouse tells you how to load the dishwasher properly.

  ➔ 比较结构 (as... as...)

  ➔ 使用 "as well as" 可以比较两种不同情况下的有效性。

• My mentor saw something and believed in me before I had the ability to believe in myself.

  ➔ 一般过去时与过去完成时的对比

  ➔ "believed" (过去) 和 "had" (过去) 之间的区别清晰地展示了事件的顺序。

• Studies suggest that we're witnessing a generation where many young men are quietly struggling.

  ➔ 使用 'where' 的关系从句

  ➔ 这里的 "where" 用作关系副词，修饰名词 "generation"，描述了那个时期的情况。

• Many young men often suffer in silence, believing that it's not manly to ask for help.

  ➔ 分词短语

  ➔ "Believing..." 充当分词短语，解释了他们为何默默忍受痛苦的背景。

• It's as old as human history itself.

  ➔ 同级比较 (as... as...)

  ➔ 该结构用于断言两件事（导师制概念和人类历史）具有相同的历史渊源。