Welcome back to Lavendaire.
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Today I want to share life advice that
everyone needs to hear.
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This was originally tailored to recent college grads
because it is graduation season
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and it's a time where everyone's figuring out their lives
and starting a new career, a new path.
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But I feel like this advice applies to everyone,
so I'm just gonna open it up for everyone.
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The first piece of life advice is:
Take your biggest risks while you're young.
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This was advice given to me by my
business professors in college
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and it really stuck with me to take your biggest
risks while you're young.
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You want to take risks while you're young
because when you're young,
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you have nothing to lose or very little to lose,
especially if you're a recent graduate.
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You don't really have that much responsibility,
that many burdens in your life.
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The older you get, the more responsibilities, obligations,
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and those kinds of things pile on to make it
harder for you to take risks.
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It's harder to take risks when you have
a child or a mortgage.
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As you get older, those responsibilities pile on.
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So while you're still young, take your biggest risks now.
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And the fun part of that is:
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You are the youngest that you will ever be,
right now, in this moment.
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It's kind of scary to think of it that way, but it's true!
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In the next minute, you're one minute older.
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And in five minutes, you're five minutes older.
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Time is the one thing that you cannot rewind
and you cannot get more of.
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So take your biggest risks now.
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Another note on taking risks and why it's
important to take risks is:
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When you take a risk, you give yourself an
option of a greater reward.
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The bigger the risk, the bigger the reward.
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But the bigger the risk, the bigger the chance
for failure as well.
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When you take a risk, that's what makes it
so scary and exciting.
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It can go well or it can not go so well.
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But while you're young, you have less to lose
and so it's okay to fail a few times.
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You actually do want to fail, so take your risks,
fail, learn from them,
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and the more courageous you are to take those risks,
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the more abundance and reward you're
going to find in your life
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because some of those risks might work out,
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and it might take you to somewhere amazing
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that you can never have gone if you just
decided to play it safe.
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So at this point, you may be thinking,
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I should take some risks while I'm young,
but what risks do I take?
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How do I know what's right for me?"
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So this brings me to #2.
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The second lesson is: Get to know your inner voice.
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Get to know your intuition, what it's saying,
your heart, your guiding light.
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However you want to refer to it, it is that voice
inside of yourself
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that knows what you honestly, truly want.
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And for others, you might have to work on
getting to know that inner voice
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and being able to distinguish when it's "you",
that inner voice
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or whether it's the voice of your parents,
society, or peers or someone else's opinion,
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because the point of life is to live for yourself
and to create the life that you want for yourself.
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But in order to figure out what that is,
you have to really get to know yourself,
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get to know your intuition, journal – journaling
is my favorite way to talk to that inner voice
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and let it come out so that I know what
I'm truly thinking and feeling,
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because if you don't take the time to get
to know yourself,
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you're going to think that you want something
that you don't actually want
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just because maybe someone else has it or someone else told you that that was a good thing to want.
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For example: You might find that the dreams
that you had your entire life
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are actually just the dreams of your parents,
that they drilled into your head,
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and what you truly want is something else,
and that's a realization of,
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"Oh, I think I have this inner voice in me that's guiding me
in a different direction."
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And if you feel that, then definitely listen to that voice.
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The point of life is to continue to live
aligned to that voice.
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The third piece of advice is to be proactive, not passive.
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You cannot just sit there and expect things
to come your way.
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You cannot just sit there and expect things
to change for you in your life.
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You actually have to be proactive, take action,
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make choices that take you to where you want to go.
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There's that once quote that says something
along the lines of,
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"If you don't know where you're going,
you're going to end up somewhere else,"
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because that's how life is.
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If you have no idea of what you want and you
just sit there and go with the flow,
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live your day-to-day life, then you're just
going to end up somewhere random.
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And to me, that's a waste of time because
first you gotta figure out what you want
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and then you gotta be proactive, take action,
talk to people,
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do whatever it takes to make your life happen for you,
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because nobody's going to hand you anything.
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You have to really go out and get it.
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This was a lesson that I also learned in one of my internships, just to have a proactive work ethic.
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If you're in a job situation and nobody's
giving you instructions on what to do,
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instead of just sitting there and waiting for instructions,
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you use your brain to think for other people,
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"Okay, what needs to be done?
How can I help this person?
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How can I be of value to this workplace or this community or this group?"
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if you're in a group project or something.
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All you really need to do is put more thought
into it, ask yourself:
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"How can I be more proactive in this situation,
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rather than just sitting and waiting for
things to happen?"
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Alright, moving onto the fourth lesson:
Always be stretching your comfort zone.
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Most of us, naturally, like to stay in our comfort zone
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because it's safe, it's easy, we're used to it.
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But the hard truth in life that I had to learn and realize is:
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If you're not growing, you're shrinking.
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If you're not progressing, you're backtracking
and that is the sad truth,
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because you think that you can just stay the same and you can coast, but that's not true.
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You can never stay the same.
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You cannot just be constant because the only
constant in life is change, right?
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So you're either moving forward or
you're moving backwards,
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and if you're not pushing yourself outside
of your comfort zone,
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then you're shrinking your comfort zone
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and I've definitely experienced the shrinking
of your comfort zone.
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For example: in college and high school,
I was used to seeing a lot of people,
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going out, social events, and that was
pretty normal for me.
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But outside of school and everything,
I don't get to see people as much
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because I work from home so I have little
social interaction.
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So if I haven't seen people for a while and I go out,
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there's a little bit of that "Ugh…", that social anxiety,
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that "Oh my god, it's so uncomfortable.
Do I even want to go to this event I'm invited to?"
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You feel that your comfort zone has shrunk.
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But, for example, if you're consistently going out weekly
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and you're seeing people on the daily,
it's not a big deal to see people.
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So that's an example of your comfort zone shrinking.
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Another metaphor and example is your health,
your fitness.
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Growing your muscles is like stretching
your comfort zone.
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When you're doing workouts that push you,
that are painful and really tough,
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where you feel like you're going to die,
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then that's a good thing because you're growing.
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Yesterday, I did this really, really tough megaformer pilates class and I felt like I was going to die.
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I was in that mode where I'm cheating and
giving up but just still pushing myself on.
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And then today I did another workout class,
I did yoga where I just felt so strong,
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and I know it's because I went through that thing yesterday that made me stronger today.
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And if didn't put in the work to work on myself
and push those boundaries,
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then I wouldn't have been as strong as I am now.
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I hope that makes sense.
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You gotta push yourself and it's never going to be easy.
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It's not comfortable, obviously, to stretch
your comfort zone.
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But if you're not growing, you're shrinking.
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So it's your choice, what do you want to do?
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Forwards, backwards.
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That's the harsh truth of reality, that you
just gotta keep pushing forward
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and keep stretching and growing in all areas of your life.
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The last piece of advice that I want to share today is:
Invest in yourself,
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especially if you're young, if you're a recent grad.
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Time is your greatest asset, because when
you're young, you have so much time,
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so much life left to live, that you can use that time to read books, pick up new skills,
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new hobbies, new life experiences, sign up for an online course, whether it's free or paid.
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Really just keep learning outside of school because all of that is going to help you in your life
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and you're just going to be a more well-rounded, knowledgeable, intelligent, smart person.
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I never regret buying books.
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I never regret investing in courses or
anything that invests in myself.
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If you want to be a content creator, invest in a good camera, invest in tools and resources
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that can help you in your career, in your life,
or better you as a person.
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If you've been really wanting to get fit,
invest in a gym membership
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or a yoga membership to your favorite studio.
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Those are investments that I would not regret making
because they're there to benefit yourself.
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There's a way to spend money to simply consume,
and there's a way to spend money to invest in yourself.
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Consuming would be spending money on food or clothes or things that are temporary and fleeting
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that you're going to forget about, that won't
make a lasting impact on your life.
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Whereas investing is a way for you to spend money on things that will help you in the long-term,
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that will make a lasting impact and change
you as a person for the better.
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Of course, there's that grey area in between.
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I guess some food can change your life for the better
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or some items of clothing can be investment pieces.
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I mean, there's a lot of grey area.
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But what I'm trying to say is:
Don't be cheap with yourself.
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You can be cheap in other areas of life,
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like maybe you're shopping for groceries
or clothes or whatever.
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But with yourself, your life, and your future,
invest in yourself.
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Do what you can to give yourself the best chance at life because you are your greatest asset
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and you're going to be living with you for
the rest of your life,
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so you might as well invest in the things that help you.
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Speaking of investing in yourself,
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I am super excited to share with you the new
online course that I created.
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It is my first online course and it's called
"Create Your Dream Life with Lavendaire".
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What it is, is a six-week program of videos
and worksheets to lead you through
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creating your dream life, step by step,
from discovering yourself,
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figuring out what you're meant to do,
to designing your dream life,
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how to put it into action and actually make
that dream life a reality,
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and also how to overcome your fears,
remove limiting blocks
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or anything that might be holding you back.
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This course is essentially a compilation of everything I learned about how to create your dream life,
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how to make your dreams a reality, into the most structured and organized format that I can ever create.
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And it's essentially what I wanted when I was 21 and lost in life, had no idea what I wanted to do.
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So I want to say that this course is great for recent grads, but you don't have to be a recent grad.
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It is for anyone who is lost in their life,
who is not sure of what they're meant to,
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who needs some guidance on figuring out their way,
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and maybe some guidance on breaking
through any blocks
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that might have been holding them back,
because usually it is yourself.
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It is your mindset that is holding you back from actually achieving your goals and making your dreams real.
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There's so much unpeeling of the layers that
we're going to do in this course
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and I'm really excited to have something so structured and organized to take you guys through it.
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There's also going to be two bonus workshops,
one on law of attraction and manifesting,
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and another one on healing past wounds,
and that one I'm really excited for
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because I've never shared any of that
on my YouTube channel
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and that one's really deep, really personal and really effective and powerful, so that one I'm excited for.
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We're also going to have a Facebook community,
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so you'll have support and accountability
throughout the program.
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And I'll be doing three live Q&A video chat
sessions in that Facebook group
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so if you want live one-on-one action with me,
if you want personal interaction with me,
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then join during the live run which is
during June and July.
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So join now - the course will go from June 15th
to the end of July
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and those are the months that I'll be super active
and doing the live Q&As in the group.
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If you've done the Dream Life Series on my channel,
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you might be wondering how is this similar
or different from that.
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The Dream Life Series, I would say, is the
beginner version of this course,
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and the course is the advanced version because the course has more content,
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more topics, more worksheets.
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It'll go more in depth and detail than what I did
with the Dream Life Series.
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I'd say the Dream Life Series covers the surface
level of these topics
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and the Create Your Dream Life course dives
way deep into each topic
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in more detail and there's more inner work
for you to do.
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And also, since I've created the Dream Life Series –
it's been a year,
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so I've learned so much in the past year
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that I'll be adding new lessons and insights
into the course.
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It's going to be the most comprehensive, structured,
step-by-step program
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that I can possibly create to handhold you
through creating your dream life.
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And I'm confident that, if you are in a place
where you're lost and frustrated in life,
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that you will come out of it with so much more clarity
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and a plan for what you want to do,
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how to do it, and you'll even have gone
through those exercises
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to lift those fears away, lift those limiting
blocks away.
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And I'm just super excited to have you guys
go through the course
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and see the changes that you guys make in your lives.
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So please, if you want to learn more,
click that link down below.
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We're doing an early bird pricing, so for the first week,
the pricing will be lower.
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And I think after June 9th, the price will
go up to its regular price.
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Also, since this is my first time launching
an online course,
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I wanted to do something special for you guys.
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So I've decided to give out 10 free scholarships
to the Create Your Dream Life course.
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So if you win a scholarship, you get to go through the entire course and program for free.
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You get to join the group, you get everything
that's included in Create Your Dream Life.
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To enter to win a scholarship, find this photo
that I posted on Instagram,
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comment with why you want to take the course,
tag two friends,
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and make sure you're followed to Lavendaire
on Instagram.
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And we'll be choosing 10 scholarship winners
on June 12th.
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The course officially begins June 15th, so you'll find out,
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a couple days before the course starts,
if you have a scholarship.
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Alright, I'll leave it at that.
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If you want to learn more about the course
and read what's in each module,
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just click that link down below and make sure that you don't wait until early bird pricing is over
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because it's over June 9th, so sign up before then.
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Alright, love you guys so much.
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