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[English]

OK OK

Okay

Hello everyone, welcome back to my podcast with Zhi Fei

Zhi Fei What are we talking about today

Today we are going to talk

Uh, do you like yourself

Um, right

I think this is a very important topic

Hmm, okay

Then I want to talk about this topic

Because I watched a video yesterday

Then there is a person in this video

He is very, very rich now

And what he often says is

He likes himself very much

Then I think

Wow great

Hmm great

Yes, I remember I also know someone

He also always tells me wow

I like myself so much

Who is this person so clear

Hahaha

Is it me

Hahaha

It must be you

Of course it is you

So you have said it many times

To me, me, I, I quite like myself

Hahaha

Well, then I think

Everyone may have a little different understanding of liking themselves

It may be a little different

Hmm

I feel like myself

There are many, many different understandings

That may be um

Er

Maybe the first thing I can think of is your appearance

Do you like your appearance, right?

Um um

What about you

How about you

Do you think you like your appearance

I think

Sometimes I don’t like it now

Sometimes I like it. . .

Because I always thought before

You are good like this

You are good-looking

You are very beautiful

But in the past few years

it is difficult for me to feel this way

Hmm, really?

Because now I think many people will say

You are the most beautiful

Well

You are perfect

Then I

I won’t say such things

I don’t believe such things

I will say that I am average

but more beautiful

Hahaha yes hahaha

It’s in my village

I can still

Hahaha

Yes, then Zhifei knows

When I was young

In my village

Many, many people said that I was the most beautiful child

Oops

Hahahahaha

I want to tell everyone

Su Qing is already very humble in this video

But when chatting with us, she is always wow

They think I am the most beautiful in the village

I am the village flower

Very beautiful to me

Yes hahaha me

My mother doesn’t understand either

My mother loves me very much

My mother said

Oh why do everyone think you are the most beautiful

There are so many beautiful children

Hahaha yes oh well

To your mother

Your mother loves you very much

And she will say it, right

Well

Yes, yes

What do you think

Does that affect how you feel about yourself

Yes, of course

I think mother's love is very, very important

Well, I have known it since I was a child

My mother really loves me very much

Yes, so I also love myself very much

Your mother makes you feel that you are good enough.

Are you already good?

Well, I

I am very good

Hahaha yes

I am beautiful and smart

I have no shortcomings

Hahaha

Wait for the next video

I will talk about my shortcomings

Hahaha

Yes No

Very few hahaha yes

Hahaha yes

I think mother's love is really important

Mother's love is to make you feel

Well there is someone who will love you forever and forever

So you are not afraid of many, many things

Well there is a very important point

If I find a bad boyfriend

Well, he is not good

Then I can think, um, I can go to my mother

I can call my mother and cry

Yes, so I don’t need a bad boyfriend

A scumbag

I can go to my mother

Well

For you

I know that many parents in China are a little anxious

For example, if you don’t have a boyfriend

Many parents say

Just find an ordinary person to be with.

Well, you are not very, very good either.

Why are you looking for such a good one?

Then you may be old. My mother thinks my boyfriend is just average

...

...

...

...

...

Haha, yes

Hehehe

He didn't say

Not good enough

No um

He didn't think eh

I'm just average

So I found an average boyfriend

But he thinks my boyfriends are all average

Um

Oh yes but

But my mother found me a boyfriend

Oh

Very ugly, ugly, ugly

Hahaha

Eye-catching

Hahaha

So my mother thinks it’s just so so

Maybe it’s my mother’s problem

Because she found me a boyfriend

Really ugly, ugly

Uh hahaha

Why did you say he was ugly

Now I’m curious

Because he’s really ugly

Hahaha

Your mother thinks he is handsome

My mother may not have seen the photo

She may think his family is rich

Hmm

OK

What about you

What do you think your mother will say to you

My mother watched a podcast because of you

You sent it to me for me to watch

Uh, let me think about it

What my mother said to me when I was young

is usually that you are not good enough

You need to be better

Well

If you do

very well this time, it may not be very good next time

You must continue

Continue to be good

Well, and if you think you are good

you can't say

I am very proud of you

In Chinese culture

...

We like to be modest

Yes, so I remember that when I was a child, I was a humming

very confident person

I really like everyone to look at me

I like to sing to everyone

But uh

After many years

I gradually don’t like it

Or when doing such things

No one said it

It’s good for you to do this

Uh, the voices around me are usually

You can't do this

Well, you can't say this

Well, this is right

This is my environment

I understand that I feel that the place where Zhi Fei lives

is really different from where I live

I am in a rural area

I am in a rural area

I am a smart child

Hahaha

Yes, then Zhi Fei lives in a big city

In Shenzhen, then Shenzhen has many smart children

Right,

It counts as

But if I am already that very good child

they don’t want me to say

They say you have to be humble

Well you can’t say

You can’t

My teacher will also say to me eh

If I am confident

My teacher

It's possible that I

I don't remember

I was very confident when I was young

So the teachers and parents said

You are too confident

You are too proud

Don't say that

This is not allowed

Of course, grow up slowly

You really find that there are many powerful people around you

So later I

I became who I am now

Oh OK

When I was a child, I was a little different from Zhi Fei

I was also very confident

I talked a lot

A lot of the same as now

Yes, many teachers will think I am very smart

Then they said this child is very smart

Hahaha

Really I heard it before and I felt very embarrassed

Because teachers used to say this

The child is really smart

She can go to the best university in China

Go to Peking University

But at that time I knew I couldn't

Hahaha I'm not smart

He just talks a lot to me

Yeah, so maybe um

This one is a little different

If you heard it from childhood

You can't be too confident

Don't be too proud

Well, but I heard from childhood that you are very confident

So you are very smart

Hahaha

Okay, then I want to ask Suqing

Do you like yourself

You, what do you do to like yourself

Yeah, right

I like myself

Uh-huh

What have I done

I think most of the time

I think my feelings

My feelings are the most important

Um

Um okay

For example, a very small thing

Well, if I go to a restaurant with my friends to eat

I will say very loudly that I don’t like eating that

Yes hahaha

I really don’t like it

Hahaha

Yes and then

What I hope is that my friends will discuss it with me

I don’t like that

I don’t like that either

I like this

How about this

We can discuss

But many people think so

I can do it

I can do it

So I become that troublesome person

Hahaha yes

But I am a Chinese

I really think what I eat is too important to me

So I always say I don’t want to eat hamburgers

I don’t like going to cafes

yes

Okay, so I think I like myself very much

Then I like myself

Uh, for example, I like the way I look

I think I'm pretty

Hahahahahaha

Right and then

Er, the second one is that I think

because I like myself

so I think my

boyfriend should like me very much

Hahaha

I think they should like me very much

Hahahahahaha

Yes, if they don’t like me

Hey, I don’t care now

Because I like me very much

Hahaha

Yep

You like to be Suqing, right

To me, I like to be myself

So if others don’t like me

It won’t make me think

Maybe I am a bad person

I will think there is something wrong with him

Ah, yes

So you don’t want everyone to like me

If this person is a little strange

Then you think

What did I do

Did I do something wrong

Did I say something wrong

This is not you

Not at all

Now I really feel that most people are idiots

I don't care

Hahaha

I just want my good friends to like me

Yes and then yes

If my good friends sometimes don't like me

I don't think it matters

Well, no, no need

Yeah

It's good all the time

Uh, like

Yes is perfect

To my boyfriend I told my boyfriend before

I said

I want to show my true self to my good friends

Then my good friends can decide whether they like it

or not

Don’t do it to make you like me

Then I only have the most perfect look

This is too tiring

Yeah, yes

Just be true to yourself

Yes

If he chooses to be your friend

It's because of you

Not because of you

What you pretend to be

That's right, that's right

Sometimes

Maybe I would like it very much

Talk about some topics that make others uncomfortable

I like to quarrel

Quarrel, yes

I know, yes

I have experience

Uh-huh, then my boyfriend doesn’t understand

For example, some friends come to my home for the first time

Then I will ask him a question that makes him very uncomfortable

Hahaha

My boyfriend said you didn’t notice his face

It looks very uncomfortable

I said no

Yes, then my boyfriend said

Why did you come to our home for the first time

Saying this, he might be scared that he won't come in the future

I said OK if he doesn't come

I don't care if he doesn't come

Hahaha

Wow so you

You are very comfortable

Your life is very comfortable

Most of the time, yes

Is it impossible to be comfortable all the time?

Most of the time it is very comfortable

Hmm

Yes, because in Chinese

we have a relatively new word

called internal friction

which means you have a lot of conflicts with yourself

Well, it’s just what you think

Is it because of this

No

No, no, not this

So you quarrel with yourself

Well, then you didn’t do anything and you were very tired

Yes

That is called internal friction

I found that sometimes I also have internal friction

Hmm, I can’t figure it out

What should I do

I think Su Qing is a person with less internal friction

Hmm, do you think you are like this

Yes, I don’t care about most people

Good, right, right

如果我让智菲生气

我会有一点点内耗

我会觉得啊我啊

我说太多话了

我说错了啊对不起

但是我会马上和智菲道歉

所以呢我常常和智菲道歉

哈哈哈上次你对

上次素清说了一个东西

Well, I have forgotten what it is

Yes, then I thought

Su Qing is very annoyed

Well, I thought about it

After 10 minutes

I thought, Su Qing is like this

It doesn't matter, I'm already doing something else

Su Qing apologized to me

I apologized for a long time

Hahaha, yes, yes

I think

Sometimes I think it’s someone I care about

I want to make it clear

Well

If I apologize

I understand then I think I made it clear

Then Zhifei said um

I can’t forgive you

Then I feel like there’s no way

I’ve tried my best

Hahaha Goodbye hahaha

Yes

I, you know I often think OK

Zhi Fei may not want to be my friend

Then what can I do

Hahaha

Really do you often think about it

Yes

I really often think about it if

If it is

I think

I really don’t have a better way

I don’t know what else I can do

Then I thought OK

The worst case scenario

The worst case scenario is that Zhi Fei doesn’t want to be friends with me

Then I thought

But I’ve tried my best

I have no other choice

That’s okay, that’s okay

Well, I said it’s okay

I forgive you

Otherwise we wouldn’t have this podcast today

We are no longer friends

Yes

Yes um

Yes yes yes

I think I want to ask you

I think many people are not in the same state as you

Hmm

Many people will have internal friction

Yeah

Does he like me

What have I done wrong

Is it my fault

I have to do more

What do you think

What can they do to make it easier

Very simple

Just two points

One point is that you are not that important

Do you think

Does he like me or not

Does he like me or not

No one is thinking about you

Uh-huh and then the second point is

Others are not that important

You have your life

He has his life

So you spend a lot of time thinking

This kind of relationship is not important

Many people are not important

Your friends

Your good friends

Your boyfriend and girlfriend

Your family is very important

Sometimes it is not important either

Hahaha sometimes

Your family is not important either

But many people spend a lot of time thinking about it

My relationship with my colleagues

My relationship with my boss

My relationship with this stranger is not important

Well

She is very wise to Su Qing

So we can say

Su Qing is a wise woman

A little bit beautiful and wise

Hahaha

I remember um last time

uh there was

I had a question

I told you

That was a big problem for me

Yeah, yeah

Then oh

I remember I told you um

I don’t want to go to class anymore

Well I took a lot of classes

I want to try something else

Suqing told me

You are not that important

This world does not need you as a Chinese teacher

Hahaha, you can do what you want

Hahaha

At that time, my heart was like

I just have a knife

Click

That’s right

Yeah, but that helped me

Really

Because that really helped me

Well because I

My problem

I think about it big and big

Well I think all the people in the world need me

Well but I'm really not that important

Well I don't need to do uh

very unhappy things

Because they need me to do it

Because my students want me to be happy

So if I

I can be happy

I can take care of myself

Then I have done a good job

Yes, so yes

I think it is useful to think like you do

Well, it is

We are really not that important

Not that important

If you don’t want to do it

That means this job is not the most suitable for you

There is someone more suitable

Then what I find interesting is

you think of you saying that your students want you to be happy

I don't care

My students want me to be happy

I want me to be happy

Hahaha

Right if your students want you to be unhappy

Wouldn't you be happy

Hmm

It seems that I haven't thought so much

But I haven't thought about this problem

That's right

Why do others want you to be happy

Then you are happy

You can be me if you want me to be happy

It doesn't matter whether others want me to be happy or not

Yes, so I said

Suqing, your ability is very good

I can tell you a story

Why am I like this

When I was in college

Sometimes very happy things

I would post them on WeChat

Well, we say posting on Moments

means you post some photos for others to see

Uh, you are very happy

But I don’t want my mom and dad to see

Uh-huh

Because I think if I am happy

I have problems

which is not good

Well

So

maybe the environment we live in is different

When I was a child

In my life

My parents magnified many problems

Well they like it

This is not good

My life is very bad

Well

I want to listen

But I am a happy child

Well

Or there will be happy things in my life

But it makes my parents feel

How can you be so happy

I feel this way

Uh-huh

So now

I am still working hard to learn

how to be happy

Yeah, that’s right

I want to be happy myself

Well, so I'm happy

Well I'm still growing

Well

Well I have a similar story

When I was little

One day I was very happy

Then I jumped while walking

Then my dad said

What's so happy

Why are you jumping

Hahaha yes

Hahaha yes

Then I thought my dad was weird

When I was very young

Maybe when I heard that

I would stop immediately

Because dad said it

So maybe I feel I shouldn’t be happy

We have nothing to be happy

Our life is difficult

Very bitter but now think about it

You will think what he said is bullshit

Yes, bullshit, bullshit

Shit Shit

Now I think happiness is a kind of ability

Well, if you can take care of

yourself to be happy every day

Or there are many things in your life

You choose to be happy

Well, I feel great

Yes, yes

Good Na Zhifei

Do you think you like yourself today

Today I

This question is difficult

I think I have many advantages

Er

For example, beautiful hahaha

Very good um

That was a joke

Because now I feel that I am not very beautiful

Er, but not because I am not beautiful

It’s some of my thoughts

Oh, this is my brain

Yeah, yeah

Because if I see a girl

Well, for example, she is a little fat

I will feel nothing

Well, if she smiles at me

I feel um

You are so beautiful

But I don’t think so about myself

Oh, understand

I, I, I, now if you ask me,

Do you like yourself,

I, I may need to think about it.

It doesn't matter

Oh

Of course I am very fond of me. I can use other words

I think I have many advantages

Well I admire myself very much

Well

I am also very happy recently

But maybe I don't have this habit

Oh, just like this

I like myself very much

You are so cute

I don’t seem to have this habit

Yes hahaha yes

But I think it’s good yes yes

It’s hard to like yourself

Well I think it’s a very difficult thing

Because in Chinese culture

you can’t be proud

You can’t be too confident

You can’t run and jump

Yes hahaha so annoying

Yes, but I think

I think it is something that everyone should do

Everyone should learn

Yes

Well yes

Okay, I hope next time

I asked Zhi Fei

Zhi Fei who you are today

Do you like yourself

I hope next time

I heard Zhi Fei say quickly

I like myself very much

Yes

Everyone, give me some time

Yes, yes

It will be a different Zhifei next time you see me

Yes

OK

That’s OK

That’s it for today

We’ll see you on the next podcast

OK OK

See you next time

See you next time, bye

Bye

[Chinese]

OK OK好

好的

大家好欢迎回来我和智菲的播客

智菲今天我们聊什么

今天我们要聊

呃你喜不喜欢自己

嗯是不是

对我觉得这是一个很重要的话题

嗯嗯好

那我想聊这个话题

是因为昨天我看了一个视频

然后在这个视频里有一个人

他现在非常非常有钱

然后他常常说的一句话是

他很喜欢他自己

然后我觉得

哇哦很棒

嗯很棒

对对我记得我也认识一个人

他也总是跟我说哇

我好喜欢我自己

这个人是谁素清

哈哈哈

是我吗

哈哈哈

肯定是你

当然是你

所以你已经说了很多遍

对我我我我挺喜欢我自己的

哈哈哈

嗯好那我觉得

每个人可能对喜欢自己的理解

可能有一点点不一样

嗯

我觉得喜欢自己

有很多很多不一样的理解

那可能嗯

呃

可能第一个我可以想到的是你的样子

你喜欢不喜欢你的样子对不对

嗯嗯

对你呢

你你怎么样

你觉得你喜欢你的样子吗

我觉得

现在有时候不喜欢

有时候喜欢，我。。。

因为以前我总是觉得哦

你这样很好

你很好看

你很漂亮

但是就这几年

我很难有这种感觉

嗯真的？

因为现在我觉得有很多人会说啊

你是最漂亮的

嗯

你是完美的

那我

我不会说这样的东西

我不相信这样的东西

我会说我一般

但是比较漂亮

哈哈哈对哈哈哈

就是在我的村子里

我还可以

哈哈哈

对然后智菲知道

在我小的时候

在我的村子里啊

很多很多人说我是最漂亮的孩子

哎呀

哈哈哈哈哈哈

我要告诉大家

素清在这个视频里已经很谦虚

但是跟我们聊天的时候都是哇

他们觉得我是村子里最漂亮的

我就是那个村花

对我很漂亮

对哈哈哈我

我妈妈她也不明白

我妈妈很爱我

我妈妈说

哎呀为什么大家都觉得你最漂亮呢

有那么多漂亮的孩子

哈哈哈对哦嗯

对你妈妈

你你妈妈很爱你

而且她会说出来对不对

嗯

对对对

对你觉得

那个有没有影响你对自己的感觉

嗯当然

我觉得妈妈的爱非常非常重要

嗯我从小到大我都知道

我的妈妈真的很爱很爱我

对所以我也很爱我自己

你的妈妈让你觉得你已经够好了嗯

你已经很好了吗

嗯我

我是很好呀

哈哈哈对

我又很漂亮又很聪明

我没有缺点

哈哈哈

等一下下个视频

我说我的缺点

哈哈哈

对没有

很少哈哈哈对

哈哈哈对

我觉得妈妈的爱真的很重要

妈的爱就是让你觉得

嗯有一个人永远永远爱你

所以你不害怕很多很多东西

嗯有一个很重要的一点

如果我找到了一个不好的男朋友

嗯他不好

那我可以想嗯我可以找我的妈妈

我可以打电话给我的妈妈哭

对所以我不需要一个不好的男朋友

一个渣男

我可以去找我的妈妈

嗯

对那你

我知道中国的父母很多有一点焦虑

比如说如果你没有男朋友

很多父母说

你找个一般的人在一起就好了

嗯你也不是非常非常好

为什么要找这么好的呢

那你有可能老了

你还是找不到那个人

嗯我猜我猜你的妈妈不会说这个

嗯

她是怎么样的

我妈妈觉得我的男朋友一般般

呵呵对

呵呵呵

他没有说

不够好

不嗯

他没有觉得嗯

我一般般

所以我找一个一般般的男朋友

可是他觉得我的男朋友都一般般

嗯

哦对可是

可是我的妈妈给我找了一个男朋友

哦

很丑很丑很丑

哈哈哈

辣眼睛

哈哈哈

所以我的妈妈觉得一般般

可能是我妈妈的问题

因为她给我找了一个男朋友

真的很丑很丑

呃哈哈哈

为什么你说他很丑

现在我很好奇

因为他真的很丑

哈哈哈

你妈妈觉得是帅的

我妈妈可能没有看照片吧

她可能觉得他的家很有钱

嗯

好

对你你呢

你你觉得你的妈妈会对你说什么

我的妈妈因为你看了一个播客

你发给我让我看嘛

呃让我想了一下

我小时候妈妈对我说的话

一般是你不够好

你还要更好

嗯

如果你这次做的

很好下一次不一定很好

你一定要继续

继续很好

嗯而且如果你觉得你很好

你不可以说

对这个是很

很骄傲你

中国文化里面

我们喜欢谦虚

对所以我记得我小时候是一个哼

很自信的人

很喜欢很喜欢大家看我

很喜欢唱歌给大家听

但是呃

过了很多年

慢慢的不喜欢

或者是做这样的事情的时候

没有人说哦

你这样做是好的

呃我身边的声音一般是

你不可以这样子做

嗯你不可以这样说

嗯这个是对

这个是我的环境

我明白我觉得智菲生活的地方

和我生活的地方真的不一样

我在一个农村

我在农村里

我是一个聪明的孩子

哈哈哈

对然后智菲住在大城市

在深圳然后深圳有很多聪明的孩子

对不对

也算

但是如果我已经是那个很好的孩子

他们不想要我说

他们说你要谦虚

嗯你不可以说

你不可以

我的老师也会跟我说嗯

如果我很自信

我的老师

有可能我

我不记得了

我小的时候非常自信

所以老师们和爸爸妈妈都说

你太自信了

你太骄傲了

你不要这样说

这个不可以

当然慢慢地长大

你真的发现身边有很多很厉害的人

所以后来我

我就变成了现在的自己

哦OK

我的小时候和智菲有一点不一样

我也非常自信

我话很多

很多和现在一样

对然后很多老师会觉得我很聪明

然后他他们说这个孩子很聪明

哈哈哈

真的我以前听到我觉得很不好意思

因为以前常常有老师说这个

孩子真的很聪明

她可以去中国最好的大学

去北京大学

可是那个时候我知道我不可以

哈哈哈我不聪明

对我只是话很多很多

嗯所以可能嗯

这个有一点不一样

如果你从小到大听到啊

你不可以太自信

不可以太骄傲

嗯但是我从小到大听到你很自信

所以你很聪明

哈哈哈

好那我要问一下素清

你喜欢自己

你你做一些什么来喜欢自己

嗯对

我喜欢我自己

嗯呃

我做了什么呢

我觉得大部分的时候

我觉得我的感受

我的感觉是最重要的

嗯

嗯好

比如说一个很小的东西

嗯如果我和我的朋友去饭店吃饭

我会很大声的说我不喜欢吃那个

对哈哈哈

我真的不喜欢

哈哈哈

对然后呢

我希望的是我的朋友和我讨论啊

我不喜欢那个

我也不喜欢那个

我喜欢这个

这个怎么样

对我们可以讨论

可是有很多人觉得啊

我都可以啊

我都可以

所以我变成那个很麻烦的人

哈哈哈对

可是我是一个中国人

我真的觉得对我来说吃什么太重要了

所以我每次都会说我不要吃汉堡

我不喜欢去咖啡馆

对

好所以我觉得我很喜欢我自己

然后我喜欢自己

呃比如说我很喜欢我自己的样子

我觉得我挺漂亮的

哈哈哈哈哈哈

对然后呢

呃第二个是我觉得

因为我喜欢我自己

所以我觉得我

的男朋友应该很喜欢我

哈哈哈

我觉得他们应该很喜欢我吧

哈哈哈哈哈哈

对如果他们不喜欢我

哎我现在也不在乎

因为我很喜欢我

哈哈哈

嗯对

你很喜欢做素清对不对

对我我喜欢做我自己

所以如果别人不喜欢我

不会让我觉得哦

可能我是一个不好的人

我会觉得他有问题

啊对

所以你不是想要每个人都要喜欢我

如果这个人有一点奇怪

然后你想啊

我做了什么

我做错了吗

我说错了什么

这个不是你

完全没有

我现在真的觉得大部分的人都是傻逼

我不在乎

哈哈哈

我只要我只要我的好朋友喜欢我

对然后对

如果我的好朋友有的时候不喜欢我

我觉得没有关系

嗯也不也不需要

是嗯

所有的时候都是很好的

呃喜欢

对就是很完美

对我以前告诉我的男朋友

我说

我要给我的好朋友看我最真实的样子

然后我的好朋友可以决定他们喜欢

还是不喜欢

对我不要为了让你喜欢

然后我只有最完美的样子

这个太累了

嗯对

还是做真的自己

对

如果他选择做你的朋友啊

那是因为是你

不是因为你

你装的东西

对对对就是

有的时候

可能我会很喜欢

说一些让别人不舒服的话题

我很喜欢吵架

吵架对

我知道对

我有经验

嗯哼然后我男朋友不明白

比如说有的朋友第一次来我的家

然后我会问一个让他很不舒服的问题

哈哈哈

我的男朋友说你没有发现他的脸

很看起来很不舒服

我说没有啊

对然后我男朋友说

你为什么第一次来我们家

说这个他可能会很害怕他以后不来

我说如果他不来OK

他不来我不在乎

哈哈哈

哇所以你

你很舒服

你的生活是很舒服的

大部分的时候是的

不可能一直都舒服吗

大部分的时候很舒服

嗯

对因为在中文里面

我们有一个词也比较新

叫内耗

意思是你自己跟自己有很多矛盾

嗯就是你想啊

是不是因为这个

不

不不不不是这个

所以你自己跟自己吵架

嗯然后你没有做什么你很累

对

那种是叫做内耗

我发现我有时候呢也会内耗

嗯想不清楚啊

怎么办对

我觉得素清是一个内耗比较少的人

嗯你觉得你是这样的吗

是啊我不在乎大部分的人

好对对对

如果我让智菲生气

我会有一点点内耗

我会觉得啊我啊

我说太多话了

我说错了啊对不起

但是我会马上和智菲道歉

所以呢我常常和智菲道歉

哈哈哈上次你对

上次素清说了一个东西

嗯我已经忘了是什么了

对然后我想啊

素清很烦

嗯我想了一下

过了10分钟

我想啊素清就是这样

没关系嗯我已经在做别的事情

素清跟我道歉

道歉了很久

哈哈哈对对对

我觉得

有的时候我我觉得是我在乎的人

我会想要嗯说清楚

嗯

如果我道歉了

明白然后我我觉得我说清楚了

然后智菲说嗯

我不可以原谅你

那我觉得没办法

我已经努力了

哈哈哈再见哈哈哈

对

我你知道我常常想OK

智菲可能不想做我的朋友了

那我有什么办法呢

哈哈哈

真的你常常想吗

对

我真的常常想就是如果

如果就是

我觉得啊

我真的没有更好的办法

我不知道我还可以做什么

然后我觉得OK

最不好的情况

最糟糕的情况是智菲不和我做朋友

然后我就想

可是我已经努力了

我没有别的办法了

对对那那还好

嗯我说没关系

我原谅你

不然我们没有今天这个播客

对我们已经不是朋友

是的

是的嗯

是是是

我想我想问你

我觉得很多人的状态不是你这样的

嗯

很多人会有内耗

嗯就是啊

他喜不喜欢我

我做错了什么

是不是我不好

我还要做更多

你觉得嗯

他们可以做什么更轻松一点

很简单

就是两个点

一个点就是你没有那么重要

你觉得啊

他喜欢不喜欢我

他喜欢不喜欢我

没有人在想你啊

嗯哼然后第二个点就是

别人没有那么重要

你有你的生活

他有他的生活

所以你花很多很多时间在想

这样的关系不重要

很多人是不重要的

你的朋友

你的好朋友

你的男朋友女朋友

你的家人很重要啊

有的时候也也不重要

哈哈哈有的时候

你的家人也不重要啊

但是很多人花很多很多时间想啊

我和我同事的关系

我和我老板的关系

我和啊这个陌生人的关系啊不重要

嗯

对素清很有智慧

所以我们可以说

素清是一个有智慧的女人

一点点又漂亮又有智慧

哈哈哈

我记得嗯上次

呃有

我有一个问题

我跟你说

那个对我来说是一个很大的问题

嗯对

然后哦

我记得我跟你说嗯

我不要再上课了

嗯我上了很多课

我要试一试别的事情

素清跟我说

你没有那么重要

这个世界上不需要你这个中文老师

哈哈哈你想做你做吧

哈哈哈

那个时候我的心就啊

就是有一把刀

咔

就对

嗯但是那个帮助了我

真的

因为那个真的帮助了我

嗯因为我

我的问题

我把它想得很大很大

嗯我想世界上所有的人都需要我

嗯但是我真的没有那么重要

嗯我不需要去做呃

很不开心的事情

因为他们需要我这样做

因为我的学生希望我开心

所以如果我

我可以开心

我可以照顾好自己

那就已经做的很好了

对所以对

我觉得像你这样想很有用

嗯就是

我们真的没有那么重要

没有那么重要

你不想做

那就说明这个工作不是最适合你的

有更适合的人

然后我觉得很有意思的是

你想到你说你的学生希望你开心

我不在乎

我的学生希望我开心

我希望我开心

哈哈哈

对如果你的学生希望你不开心

你就不开心了吗

嗯

好像是我没有想这么多

但是我没有想过这个问题

对就是

为什么是别人希望你开心

然后你才开心呢

你可以是我要我开心

别人要不要我开心不重要

对所以我说

素清你的这个能力很好

我可以给你讲一个故事

为什么我会这样

我我大学的时候

有时候很开心的事情

我会在微信上发

嗯我们说发朋友圈

就是你发一些照片让别人看

呃你很开心

但是我不希望我的妈妈爸爸看到

嗯哼

因为我觉得如果我开心

我有问题

是不好的

嗯

所以就是

可能我们生活的环境不一样

我小时候

我的生活里面

我的爸爸妈妈放大很多问题

嗯他们喜欢啊

这个不好

我的生活很不好

嗯

我要听

但是我是开心的一个孩子

嗯

或者我的生活中会有开心的事情

但是让我的父母觉得

你怎么可以这么高兴

我有这种感觉啊

嗯呃

所以现在来说

我还在努力地学习

怎么开心

嗯就是哦

我自己想要开心

嗯所以我开心

嗯我还在成长中

嗯

嗯我有一个差不多的故事

我小的时候

有一天我很开心

然后我就一边走一边跳

然后我的爸爸说

有什么好开心的

你为什么跳

哈哈哈对

哈哈哈对

然后我就觉得我的爸爸很奇怪

就是在很小的时候

可能我听到那个

我会马上停下来

因为爸爸说了

所以可能我觉得我不应该开心

我们没有什么好开心的

我们的生活很难

很苦可是现在去想

你会觉得他说的是狗屁

对狗屁狗屎

狗屎大便

对现在我觉得开心是一种能力

嗯如果你可以照顾

自己每天开心

或者你的生活里面有很多事情

你选择去开心

嗯我觉得很棒

嗯是的

好那智菲

今天的你觉得你喜欢你自己吗

今天的我

这个问题很难

我觉得我有很多的优点

呃

比如说漂亮哈哈哈

很好嗯

那个是开玩笑的

因为现在我觉得我自己不是很漂亮

呃但是不是因为我不漂亮

是我的一些想法

哦我这个是我的脑子

嗯对嗯

因为如果我看到一个女孩子

呃她比如说有一点胖

我会觉得没有什么

嗯如果她对我笑

我觉得嗯

你太美了

但是我对我自己不是这样的

哦明白啊

我我我现在如果你是问我

你喜不喜欢自己

我我可能需要想一想再说

没关系

哦

我对我当然是很我可以用别的词

我觉得我有很多优点

嗯我很欣赏我自己

嗯

我我最近也很开心

但是可能我没有这个习惯

哦就是像素清这样

我很喜欢我自己耶

你真可爱

我好像没有这个习惯

对哈哈哈嗯对

但是我觉得很好是是是

喜欢自己是一个很难的

嗯我觉得是一个很难的东西

因为在中国的文化

你不可以骄傲

不可以太自信

不可以跑跑跳跳

对哈哈哈好烦

嗯对但是我觉得

我觉得是每个人都都应该做的

都应该学习的

是的

嗯是的

好的那希望下一次

我问智菲

智菲今天的你

你喜欢你自己吗

我希望下一次

我听到智菲很快地说

我超级喜欢我自己

对嗯

大家给我一点时间

嗯对

下次你们见到我又是不一样的智菲

对

好OK

那好

那我们今天就到这里

我们下个播客见

好的OK

好下次见

下次见拜拜

拜拜

Key Vocabulary

Vocabulary	Meanings
like /laɪk/ A1	verb - to enjoy or feel affection for something or someone
feel /fiːl/ A1	verb - to experience an emotion or sensation
think /θɪŋk/ A1	verb - to have an opinion or belief
beautiful /ˈbjʊtɪfl/ A2	adjective - pleasing the senses or mind aesthetically
good /ɡʊd/ A1	adjective - having the qualities required for a particular role
smart /smɑːrt/ A2	adjective - having or showing quick-witted intelligence
humble /ˈhʌmbl/ B2	adjective - having or showing a modest or low estimate of one's importance verb - cause to feel shame
confident /ˈkɒnfɪdnt/ B1	adjective - feeling or showing certainty about something
important /ɪmˈpɔːtnt/ A2	adjective - of great significance or value
comfortable /ˈkʌmftəbl/ A2	adjective - providing physical ease and relaxation
happy /ˈhæpi/ A1	adjective - feeling or showing pleasure or contentment
love /lʌv/ A1	noun - an intense feeling of deep affection verb - feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone
mom /mɑːm/ A1	noun - one's mother
friend /frend/ A1	noun - a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection
relationship /rɪˈleɪʃnʃɪp/ B1	noun - the state of being connected
appearance /əˈpɪərəns/ B1	noun - the way that someone or something looks
feeling /ˈfiːlɪŋ/ A2	noun - an emotional state or reaction
life /laɪf/ A1	noun - the existence of an individual human being
grow /ɡroʊ/ A2	verb - to increase in size or develop
forgive /fərˈɡɪv/ B1	verb - to stop feeling angry or resentful toward someone for an offense