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hello everyone welcome back to the
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English dialogue podcast I'm Mike and as
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always I'm here with Emma how's it going
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today Emma hi Mike I'm doing well we've
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got an interesting topic today emotional
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intelligence it's something that affects
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our personal and professional lives yet
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it's often
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overlooked absolutely emotional
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intelligence or EI is all about
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understanding our own emotions and those
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of others and then using that
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understanding to guide our Behavior it's
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a crucial skill not just a buzzword yes
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emotional intelligence involves several
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components
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self-awareness self-regulation
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motivation empathy and social skills
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when we're emotionally intelligent we
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recognize our feelings as they
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arise understand how they influence our
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actions and learn how to manage them
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effectively at the same time it's about
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understanding other people's emotions
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this helps in building better
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relationships resolving conflicts more
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smoothly and communicating more
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effectively in short it can transform
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how we interact with the world well said
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let's break it down
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how does self-awareness factor into
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emotional
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intelligence self-awareness is the
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foundation it means knowing your
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emotional triggers strengths weaknesses
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and values without understanding
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yourself it's hard to understand others
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exactly if you're not sure what you're
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feeling or why you might react
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impulsively have you ever been in a
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situation where you just snapped without
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knowing the real reason
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I have for example imagine you've had a
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stressful day and someone makes a small
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harmless joke you might snap at them not
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because their joke was offensive but
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because you're already tense and tired
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if you are more self-aware you'd
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recognize I'm on edge because of my
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stressful day and you'd respond more
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calmly this awareness stops you from
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misdirecting your emotions onto others
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and helps maintain better relationships
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that's a great example after
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self-awareness comes self-regulation
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managing our emotional responses rather
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than letting them control us right it
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doesn't mean suppressing emotions but
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handling them in a productive way for
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instance if you're angry you acknowledge
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it and choose a healthy
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response maybe stepping away to cool
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down before addressing the issue exactly
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self-regulation can look like taking a
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few deep breaths before responding to an
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angry email or resisting the urge to
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shout during a heated argument it's
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about pausing and considering the
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consequences of your
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actions this skill reduces regrets and
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misunderstandings because you respond
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thoughtfully instead of reacting
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impulsively yes that pause is powerful
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another component is motivation
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emotionally intelligent people often
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have internal motivation that isn't just
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a about Rewards or recognition they
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strive to grow learn and improve
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themselves internal motivation helps
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them stay resilient during tough times
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they can manage setbacks better because
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they're driven from within not just
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externally
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exactly when you're internally motivated
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you view challenges as opportunities
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rather than threats this mindset helps
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you bounce back from failures adapt to
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change and keep pushing forward people
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who rely solely on external rewards
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might crumble when the going gets tough
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but those with inner Drive persist
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because they genuinely care about their
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goals that's a solid Point next up
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empathy this one is huge understanding
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others feelings helps us connect yes
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empathy allows us to step into someone
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else's shoes to sense what they're
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feeling it Fosters compassion and better
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communication when you're empathetic you
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listen more carefully you pick up on
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non-verbal cues like tone of voice or
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body language and interpret the emotions
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behind
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words this understanding leads to better
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teamwork stronger friendships and more
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meaningful
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conversations empathy isn't about always
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agreeing it's about showing you care
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enough to understand someone's
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perspective even if it differs from your
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own exactly and and empathy is closely
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linked to social skills the final
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component being able to communicate
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effectively resolve conflicts and build
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report requires understanding both your
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emotions and others good social skills
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mean you handle disagreements gracefully
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Inspire and influence others positively
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and navigate social situations smoothly
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when you have strong social skills you
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can manage group dynamics encourage
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collaboration and create an environment
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of trust this applies in workplaces
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families friendships everywhere people
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interact it doesn't mean you have to be
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extroverted it's about being attentive
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respectful and responsive to emotions
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both yours and others so we have these
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components self-awareness
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self-regulation motivation empathy and
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social skills how can someone improve
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their emotional
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intelligence first practice is
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recognizing your emotions journaling can
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help ask yourself what am I feeling and
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why
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regularly yes writing down your emotions
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at the end of the day can reveal
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patterns maybe you notice you get
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anxious before team meetings or
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irritated when deadlines
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approach understanding these triggers
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helps you anticipate and prepare for
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them over time this increases your
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self-awareness and aables better control
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over your
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reactions also try pausing before
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responding to emotional triggers count
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to 10 take a deep breath or step away
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this builds
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self-regulation exactly another approach
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seek feedback from people you trust ask
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how they perceive your communication
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style or emotional
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reactions receiving feedback can be eye
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openening maybe you didn't realize you
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interrupt people or come off as
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dismissive when stressed constructive
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feedback from friends family or
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colleagues helps you understand how
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you're viewed giving you a chance to
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make positive changes just remember to
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stay open-minded and avoid becoming
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defensive great point also practice
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empathy by actively listening put your
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phone away make eye contact and really
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hear what the other person is saying
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show curios it and validate their
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feelings even a simple I understand why
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that would upset you can make a big
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difference exactly by acknowledging
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someone's feelings you show respect and
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care this builds trust over time you'll
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find it's easier to navigate conflicts
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Inspire cooperation and deepen
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relationships empathy is like a bridge
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that connects people on an emotional
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level and about motivation set personal
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goals goals that align with your values
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so you're driven from within yes reflect
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on what truly matters to you that way
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even when obstacles arise you have a
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meaningful reason to keep going also
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celebrate progress when you achieve
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small Milestones acknowledge them this
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reinforces your internal drive instead
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of waiting for external praise give
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yourself credit for your efforts and
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growth this habit strengthens your self
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motivation helping you stay focused and
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resilient in the face of
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challenges this holistic approach
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improving self-awareness self-regulation
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empathy motivation and social skills
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truly enhances our daily lives yes
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emotional intelligence leads to better
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decision-making healthier relationships
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and more effective
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leadership think about it in the
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workplace a manager with high emotional
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intelligence can diffuse tensions
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encourage teamwork and guide employees
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through stress in personal life friends
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who understand each other's emotional
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states can offer better support
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emotionally intelligent parents can
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nurture resilient children it affects
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every area of life because emotions are
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everywhere that's why investing time in
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developing EI is so
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worthwhile are there any common
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misconceptions about emotional
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intelligence
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one misconception is that being
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emotionally intelligent means always
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being nice or agreeable it doesn't
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sometimes it means having tough
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conversations with empathy and
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Clarity exactly emotional intelligence
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doesn't mean avoiding conflict it means
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handling conflict in a constructive
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manner you can be firm yet compassionate
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another misconception is that EI is
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innate while some people may have a
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natural inclination everyone can improve
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with practice it's a skill not a fixed
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trait so don't feel discouraged if it
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doesn't come naturally at first that's
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crucial with effort and patience anyone
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can grow in this area yes it's a
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lifelong journey we constantly encounter
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new people and situations that challenge
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us to respond better each experience
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whether it's a misunderstanding with a
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friend a stressful work deadline or a
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disagreement at home provides an
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opportunity to practice emotional
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intelligence over time these small
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improvements compound you'll notice your
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calmer in stressful situations more
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understanding in conflicts and more
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aware of your own emotional landscape
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well I think we've covered a lot
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emotional intelligence is a
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GameChanger agreed to our listeners
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remember it's never too late to start
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improving your EI small consistent
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efforts can yield big
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results thanks for joining us on the
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English dialogue
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podcast until next time keep learning
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and growing take care everyone
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歌词与翻译
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大家好，欢迎回到英语对话播客，我是迈克，和往常一样，艾玛也在这里，今天过得怎么样？
English dialogue podcast I'm Mike and as
always I'm here with Emma how's it going
你好，迈克，我很好，今天我们有一个有趣的话题——情商，它影响着我们的个人和职业生活，却常常被忽视。
got an interesting topic today emotional
intelligence it's something that affects
our personal and professional lives yet
it's often
overlooked absolutely emotional
情商，或者说情商，就是关于理解我们自己的情绪和他人的情绪，然后利用这种理解来指导我们的行为，这不仅仅是一个流行词，而是一项关键技能。
understanding our own emotions and those
of others and then using that
understanding to guide our Behavior it's
a crucial skill not just a buzzword yes
情商涉及几个方面：
components
自我意识、自我调节、
动机、同理心和社会技能。
当我们情商高时，我们能认识到自己的情绪，理解它们如何影响我们的行动，并学会有效地管理它们。
recognize our feelings as they
arise understand how they influence our
actions and learn how to manage them
同时，它也关于理解他人的情绪，这有助于建立更好的关系，更顺利地解决冲突，以及更有效地沟通。
understanding other people's emotions
this helps in building better
relationships resolving conflicts more
smoothly and communicating more
effectively in short it can transform
简而言之，它能改变我们与世界互动的方式。
让我们详细分解一下。
自我意识如何影响情商？自我意识是基础，它意味着了解自己的情绪触发点、优势、弱点和价值观。
emotional
intelligence self-awareness is the
foundation it means knowing your
emotional triggers strengths weaknesses
and values without understanding
如果不了解自己，就很难真正理解他人。
exactly if you're not sure what you're
feeling or why you might react
你有没有过这样的情况：你突然发火，却不知道真正的原因是什么？
situation where you just snapped without
knowing the real reason
我有过，比如，想象一下，你经历了一天压力很大的日子，有人开了一个无伤大雅的玩笑，你可能会对他们发火，
stressful day and someone makes a small
harmless joke you might snap at them not
不是因为他们的玩笑冒犯了你，而是因为你已经很紧张和疲惫了。
because you're already tense and tired
如果你更了解自己，你会意识到：“我今天压力很大，所以有点紧张，”然后你会更冷静地回应。
recognize I'm on edge because of my
stressful day and you'd respond more
calmly this awareness stops you from
这种意识能防止你将情绪误导到他人身上，有助于维护更好的关系。
and helps maintain better relationships
这是一个很好的例子，在自我意识之后是自我调节，管理我们的情绪反应，而不是让它们控制我们。
self-awareness comes self-regulation
managing our emotional responses rather
than letting them control us right it
这并不意味着压抑情绪，而是以一种有益的方式处理它们。
handling them in a productive way for
比如，如果你生气了，承认这一点，然后选择一个健康的反应，也许先冷静一下，再解决问题。
it and choose a healthy
response maybe stepping away to cool
down before addressing the issue exactly
自我调节可能看起来像是在回复愤怒的邮件前深呼吸几次，或者在激烈的争论中抵抗住喊叫的冲动。
few deep breaths before responding to an
angry email or resisting the urge to
shout during a heated argument it's
这关于暂停，考虑你行为的后果。
consequences of your
这项技能减少了后悔和误解，因为你是深思熟虑后回应，而不是冲动地反应。
misunderstandings because you respond
thoughtfully instead of reacting
impulsively yes that pause is powerful
另一个方面是动机，情商高的人通常有内在的动机，而不仅仅是为了奖励或认可。
emotionally intelligent people often
have internal motivation that isn't just
他们努力成长、学习和提升自己，内在动机帮助他们在艰难时期保持坚韧。
strive to grow learn and improve
themselves internal motivation helps
them stay resilient during tough times
他们能更好地处理挫折，因为他们是被内在驱使的，而不仅仅是外部因素。
they're driven from within not just
externally
没错，当你有内在动机时，你会将挑战视为机遇，而不是威胁。
you view challenges as opportunities
rather than threats this mindset helps
这种心态帮助你从失败中反弹，适应变化，并继续前进。
change and keep pushing forward people
那些只依赖外部奖励的人可能会在艰难时期崩溃，但那些有内在驱动力的人会坚持下去，
might crumble when the going gets tough
but those with inner Drive persist
因为他们真正关心自己的目标。
goals that's a solid Point next up
下一个是同理心，这很重要，理解他人的感受能帮助我们建立联系。
others feelings helps us connect yes
同理心让我们能设身处地为他人着想，感受到他们的感受，它促进了同情心和更好的沟通。
else's shoes to sense what they're
feeling it Fosters compassion and better
当你有同理心时，你会更仔细地倾听，捕捉到非语言线索，如语气或肢体语言，并解读言语背后的情绪。
listen more carefully you pick up on
non-verbal cues like tone of voice or
body language and interpret the emotions
behind
这种理解带来了更好的团队合作、更牢固的友谊和更有意义的对话。
teamwork stronger friendships and more
meaningful
同理心不是总是同意，而是表现出你足够关心，愿意理解他人的观点，即使它与你自己的不同。
agreeing it's about showing you care
enough to understand someone's
perspective even if it differs from your
own exactly and and empathy is closely
没错，同理心与社会技能密切相关，最后一个方面是有效沟通、解决冲突和建立关系的能力。
component being able to communicate
effectively resolve conflicts and build
良好的社会技能意味着你能优雅地处理分歧，积极地激励和影响他人，并顺利地处理社交场合。
emotions and others good social skills
mean you handle disagreements gracefully
Inspire and influence others positively
and navigate social situations smoothly
当你有强大的社会技能时，你能管理团队动态，鼓励合作，并创造一个信任的环境。
can manage group dynamics encourage
collaboration and create an environment
of trust this applies in workplaces
这适用于工作场所、家庭、友谊，任何有人互动的地方。
这并不意味着你必须外向，而是关于对情绪的关注、尊重和回应，无论是你自己的还是他人的。
extroverted it's about being attentive
respectful and responsive to emotions
both yours and others so we have these
所以，我们有这些方面：自我意识、自我调节、动机、同理心和社会技能，有人能提高情商吗？
self-regulation motivation empathy and
social skills how can someone improve
their emotional
intelligence first practice is
首先，练习识别你的情绪，写日记可以帮助，定期问自己：“我在感觉什么，为什么？”
help ask yourself what am I feeling and
why
没错，每天结束时写下你的情绪，可以揭示模式，也许你会注意到，在团队会议前你会焦虑，或者在截止日期临近时你会烦躁。
at the end of the day can reveal
patterns maybe you notice you get
理解这些触发点能帮助你预见并准备应对它们，随着时间的推移，这会增加你的自我意识，并能更好地控制你的反应。
irritated when deadlines
approach understanding these triggers
helps you anticipate and prepare for
them over time this increases your
self-awareness and aables better control
在回应情绪触发点前暂停，数到十，深呼吸，或者离开一会儿，这能建立自我调节。
reactions also try pausing before
responding to emotional triggers count
to 10 take a deep breath or step away
this builds
self-regulation exactly another approach
另一种方法是寻求你信任的人的反馈，问问他们如何看待你的沟通风格或情绪反应。
how they perceive your communication
style or emotional
接收反馈可能很启发性，也许你没意识到，在压力下，你会打断别人，或显得不耐烦。
openening maybe you didn't realize you
interrupt people or come off as
dismissive when stressed constructive
来自朋友、家人的建设性反馈，或同事的帮助，让你了解他人如何看待你，给你机会做出积极的改变。
colleagues helps you understand how
you're viewed giving you a chance to
make positive changes just remember to
记住要保持开放的心态，避免变得防御性。
defensive great point also practice
通过积极倾听来练习同理心，放下手机，保持眼神交流，真正听对方在说什么，表现出好奇心，并验证他们的感受。
phone away make eye contact and really
hear what the other person is saying
show curios it and validate their
即使简单的“我理解为什么这会让你不高兴”也能产生很大影响。
that would upset you can make a big
difference exactly by acknowledging
通过承认他人的感受，你表现出尊重和关心，这会随着时间建立信任，你会发现更容易处理冲突，激励合作，并加深关系。
care this builds trust over time you'll
find it's easier to navigate conflicts
Inspire cooperation and deepen
relationships empathy is like a bridge
that connects people on an emotional
关于动机，设定与你的价值观一致的个人目标，这样你会被内在驱使。
goals goals that align with your values
so you're driven from within yes reflect
反思对你真正重要的事情，这样，即使遇到障碍，你也有继续前进的有意义的原因。
even when obstacles arise you have a
meaningful reason to keep going also
庆祝进步，当你实现小目标时，承认它们，这强化了你的内在驱动力，而不是等待外部赞扬。
small Milestones acknowledge them this
reinforces your internal drive instead
of waiting for external praise give
为你的努力和成长给自己一些肯定，这个习惯加强了你的自我动机，帮助你在面对挑战时保持专注和坚韧。
growth this habit strengthens your self
motivation helping you stay focused and
resilient in the face of
challenges this holistic approach
这种整体方法，提高自我意识、自我调节、同理心、动机和社会技能，真正提升了我们的生活。
empathy motivation and social skills
truly enhances our daily lives yes
情商带来了更好的决策、更健康的关系和更有效的领导力。
decision-making healthier relationships
and more effective
leadership think about it in the
想想在工作场所，一个情商高的经理能化解紧张局势，鼓励团队合作，并指导员工应对压力。
intelligence can diffuse tensions
encourage teamwork and guide employees
through stress in personal life friends
在个人生活中，理解彼此情绪状态的朋友能提供更好的支持。
states can offer better support
情商高的父母能培养出坚韧的孩子，它影响生活的各个领域，因为情绪无处不在。
nurture resilient children it affects
every area of life because emotions are
everywhere that's why investing time in
这就是为什么投资时间发展情商是如此值得的。
worthwhile are there any common
关于情商，有什么常见的误解吗？
intelligence
一个误解是，情商高意味着总是好脾气或顺从，其实不然，有时它意味着用同理心和清晰度进行艰难的对话。
emotionally intelligent means always
being nice or agreeable it doesn't
sometimes it means having tough
conversations with empathy and
Clarity exactly emotional intelligence
情商并不意味着避免冲突，而是以建设性的方式处理冲突，你可以坚定，同时富有同情心。
handling conflict in a constructive
manner you can be firm yet compassionate
另一个误解是，情商是与生俱来的，虽然有些人可能天生倾向，但每个人都能通过练习提高，这是一种技能，而不是固定特质。
innate while some people may have a
natural inclination everyone can improve
with practice it's a skill not a fixed
所以，如果一开始不自然，不要气馁，这很关键，通过努力和耐心，每个人都能在这方面成长。
doesn't come naturally at first that's
crucial with effort and patience anyone
can grow in this area yes it's a
没错，这是一段终身旅程，我们不断遇到新的人和情况，挑战我们做出更好的反应。
new people and situations that challenge
us to respond better each experience
每个经历，无论是与朋友的误会，紧张的工作截止日期，还是家庭中的分歧，都是练习情商的机会。
friend a stressful work deadline or a
disagreement at home provides an
opportunity to practice emotional
intelligence over time these small
随着时间的推移，这些小进步会累积，你会注意到，在压力下更冷静，在冲突中更理解，更意识到自己的情绪状态。
calmer in stressful situations more
understanding in conflicts and more
aware of your own emotional landscape
我认为我们已经涵盖了很多，情商是一个改变游戏规则的因素。
emotional intelligence is a
GameChanger agreed to our listeners
同意，听众们，记住，开始提高情商永远不会太晚，小而持续的努力能带来大的结果。
improving your EI small consistent
efforts can yield big
感谢大家收听英语对话播客，下次再见，继续学习和成长，保重！
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podcast until next time keep learning
and growing take care everyone
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重点词汇
开始练习
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topic /ˈtɒpɪk/ A2 |
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emotional /ɪˈməʊʃənəl/ B1 |
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intelligence /ɪnˈtelɪdʒəns/ B2 |
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personal /ˈpɜːsənəl/ A2 |
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professional /prəˈfeʃənəl/ B1 |
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affects /əˈfekts/ B1 |
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understanding /ˌʌndərˈstændɪŋ/ B1 |
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guide /ɡaɪd/ B1 |
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behavior /bɪˈheɪvjər/ B1 |
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crucial /ˈkruːʃəl/ B2 |
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components /kəmˈpoʊnənts/ B2 |
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self-awareness /ˌself əˈwɛːr.nəs/ B2 |
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regulation /ˌreɡjʊˈleɪʃən/ B2 |
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motivation /ˌməʊtɪˈveɪʃən/ B2 |
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empathy /ˈempəθi/ B2 |
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relationships /rɪˈleɪʃənʃɪps/ B1 |
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resolve /rɪˈzɒlv/ B2 |
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conflicts /ˈkɒnflɪkts/ B1 |
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improve /ɪmˈpruːv/ A2 |
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awareness /əˈwɛːrnəs/ B2 |
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