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嗨，大家好，欢迎回到我的频道

今天我想再次谈谈自我关爱

这是我热衷的话题，我不会停止讨论它，直到

我让你们每个人都爱上自己，昂首挺胸地走路，

going to make each every one of you fall

in love with yourself and walk around

这样你们的“王冠”就不会掉下来。好了，今天我其实

fall okay okay so today I actually

想谈谈自我关爱和人际关系。我收到了很多私信，

relationships I'm getting a lot of DMS

有很多了不起的女孩愿意和我分享，我非常感激。

amazing girls that feel comfortable to

do that with me and I'm so grateful but

但在过去两天里，我收到了一些关于人际关系的消息，

days about relationship things so I'm

所以我想提几点，希望这些观点能引起你们的共鸣。

points that hopefully will resonate with

首先，在选择伴侣之前，你必须先做好内在工作，

your inner work before you choose your

这适用于所有年龄段。无论你是在寻找结婚对象，

ages if you are looking for someone to

get married or you're looking for a

还是寻找男朋友，或者你才14岁，喜欢男孩，他们也喜欢你，

and you like like boys and they like you

他们扯你的头发，你都得做好内在工作。我来告诉你为什么，

do inner work and I'll tell you why you

在你人生的某个时刻，你会意识到没有人能像你自己一样让你快乐，

that no one can make you happy the way

我不是说你应该退休，养15只猫，独自生活，

saying that you should retire and have

我的意思是，你不能把这个责任推给别人，

saying is that you can't put that

responsibility on other people you have

你必须自己让自己完整，而不是寻找某个人来拯救你，完成你。

instead of searching for somebody to

save you and complete you that's not how

遗憾的是，事情并不是这样运作的。我知道有很多电影、

there's a lot of movies and a lot of

爱情歌曲和流行曲调告诉你相反的道理，但现实是，

tell you otherwise but reality is that

如果你不快乐，无论你身边的那个人有多么了不起，

how amazing the person beside you is

你都不会感受到，因为你会破坏那段关系，

you're going to ruin that relationship

because your relationship with yourself

因为你与自己的关系还没有建立起来。当你处于一段关系中，

relationship um and you are whole on

而你自己已经完整，这是一个非常坚实的基础。

base to start with if your partner have

如果你的伴侣有不开心的时候，你不会随之崩溃；

it if your partner you know just not

如果你的伴侣情绪低落，或者没有给你足够的关注，

effect it doesn't like ruin your life

这不会毁了你的生活。有时候，我们在情感上过于依赖伴侣，

so much emotionally on our partners that

当伴侣无法满足我们时，我们就会彻底崩溃。

partner can keep up when you put that

如果你把让自己快乐的负担全部放在伴侣身上，

make you happy it can damage your

这会损害你们的关系。不要把自己的幸福完全掌握在别人手中，

entirely in others people's hands

because if you can't make yourself happy

因为如果你不能让自己快乐，没有人能让你快乐。

the end another message that I got that

我收到的另一条消息让我深有感触，因为我以前也经历过类似的情况。

I was in that situation before is a

beautiful girl that just says that the

一个漂亮的女孩说，她男朋友很棒，很有趣，很了不起，很聪明，

and he's amazing and he's smart but he

basically treats her like but she's

但他基本上是把她当成空气。别人如何对待你，取决于他们如何看待你对待自己。

they see you treat yourself if you belit

in yourself if you are being mean to

如果你贬低自己，对自己苛刻，总是说负面的话，

things about yourself that sets the tone

这会影响别人如何接近你。所以，你必须对自己有高标准，

really have to have high standards to

the way you treat yourself because other

因为别人会看到。你要记住，你是以身作则，

you lead by example when you're being

mean to yourself or you let people step

如果你对自己苛刻，或者让别人践踏你，这会告诉他们这样做是可以的，

do it cuz you don't stand out for

yourself you don't say no I I'm not

tolerating this and I'm better than this

因为你没有为自己辩护，没有说“不，我不容忍这样，我值得更好”。

people say or do or act towards you

所以，请注意你允许别人如何对待你，因为你基本上是给了他们“可以”的信号。

okay go sign and that also triggers for

you that it's okay this one is something

这非常重要，我希望你们能听，倒回去再听一遍。

going to listen and rewind this and

listen to it again the woman you're

你正在成为的那个女人，会让你失去一些人，一些关系，一些地方，

you relationship will cost you places

always choose her over everything so you

但你必须始终选择她，忠于未来的自己，

future self because if you don't make

因为如果你今天不做出正确的投资、正确的举动、正确的决定，

right decisions today it will affect you

这会影响你未来。有时候，你不得不与某些人、某些朋友断绝关系，

sometimes you will have to cut ties with

certain people with certain friends uh

and relationships that just don't

progress you as a human they don't make

因为这些关系无法让你成长，无法让你感到快乐。

and that's okay you'll be sad just for a

这没关系，你会难过一小会儿，但你会没事的，我保证，这非常值得，

it's so worth it you're putting the

你是在为未来的自己投资。10年后，当你回首时，

know what in 10 years you look back and

say I'm so happy I made myself a

你会说：“我很开心我把自己放在了第一位。”

my tips for self- Lov and relationships

这些就是我关于自我关爱和人际关系的建议，

希望对你们有所帮助。如果没有，那我就自言自语了5分钟。

talking to myself thank you so much for

感谢你们的聆听，我非常感激你们愿意为了自己而战，你们做得很好。

your willingness to go and fight for

yourself so you're doing great

[英语]

hi guys welcome back to my Channel today

I want to talk about self- Lov again now

this is a passion for me and I'm not

going to stop talking about it until I'm

going to make each every one of you fall

in love with yourself and walk around

with your head high so your crown won't

fall okay okay so today I actually

wanted to talk about self- Lov and

relationships I'm getting a lot of DMS

from you for advice there's a lot of

amazing girls that feel comfortable to

do that with me and I'm so grateful but

I got a few messages in the past two

days about relationship things so I'm

just going to kind of mention a few

points that hopefully will resonate with

you first things first you got to do

your inner work before you choose your

partner and that really applies to all

ages if you are looking for someone to

get married or you're looking for a

boyfriend or you're just 14 years old

and you like like boys and they like you

back and they pull your hair you got to

do inner work and I'll tell you why you

will at some point in your life realize

that no one can make you happy the way

you can make yourself happy and I'm not

saying that you should retire and have

15 cats and live by yourself what I'm

saying is that you can't put that

responsibility on other people you have

to make yourself whole on your own

instead of searching for somebody to

save you and complete you that's not how

it works unfortunately and I know that

there's a lot of movies and a lot of

love songs and a lot of C tunes that

tell you otherwise but reality is that

if you're not happy it doesn't matter

how amazing the person beside you is

you're not going to see it because

you're going to ruin that relationship

because your relationship with yourself

is not there yet when you are in a

relationship um and you are whole on

your own um it's such an amazing strong

base to start with if your partner have

bad days you don't kind of crumble with

it if your partner you know just not

feeling it or not showing you enough

effect it doesn't like ruin your life

and that's the thing we rely sometimes

so much emotionally on our partners that

it completely destroys us when that

partner can keep up when you put that

burden on your partner to constantly

make you happy it can damage your

relationship don't put your happiness

entirely in others people's hands

because if you can't make yourself happy

no one will be able to make you happy

the end another message that I got that

really struck something with me because

I was in that situation before is a

beautiful girl that just says that the

guy she's with he's great and he's funny

and he's amazing and he's smart but he

basically treats her like but she's

still there people treat you the way

they see you treat yourself if you belit

in yourself if you are being mean to

yourself if you keep saying negative

things about yourself that sets the tone

to how people will approach you so you

really have to have high standards to

the way you treat yourself because other

people see it you have to remember that

you lead by example when you're being

mean to yourself or you let people step

over you it shows them that it's okay to

do it cuz you don't stand out for

yourself you don't say no I I'm not

tolerating this and I'm better than this

so please be aware of what you let

people say or do or act towards you

because you're basically giving them the

okay go sign and that also triggers for

you that it's okay this one is something

very very important and I hope you're

going to listen and rewind this and

listen to it again the woman you're

becoming will cost you people will cost

you relationship will cost you places

always choose her over everything so you

have to be true to that woman to your

future self because if you don't make

the right Investments the right move the

right decisions today it will affect you

in the future and um unfortunately

sometimes you will have to cut ties with

certain people with certain friends uh

and relationships that just don't

progress you as a human they don't make

you feel good they don't make you grow

and that's okay you'll be sad just for a

little bit but you'll be fine I promise

it's so worth it you're putting the

investment for your future self and you

know what in 10 years you look back and

say I'm so happy I made myself a

priority um this is kind of it these are

my tips for self- Lov and relationships

um I hope it did something for you if

not whatever I just had 5 minutes of

talking to myself thank you so much for

listening to me and I truly appreciate

your willingness to go and fight for

yourself so you're doing great

重点词汇

词汇	含义
self-love /ˈsɛlf ˈlʌv/ B1	noun - 自爱 (zì ài)
resonate /ˈrezəˌneɪt/ B2	verb - 共鸣 (gòng míng)
whole /hoʊl/ A2	adjective - 完整的 (wán zhěng de)
crumble /ˈkrʌməl/ B1	verb - 崩溃 (bēngkuì)
burden /ˈbɜːr.dən/ B1	noun - 负担 (fù dān)
belittle /bɪˈlɪtəl/ B2	verb - 轻视 (qīng shì)
standards /ˈstæn.dɚdz/ B1	noun - 标准 (biāo zhǔn)
tolerate /ˈtɑː.lə.reɪt/ B2	verb - 容忍 (róng rěn)
investments /ɪnˈvɛst.mənts/ B1	noun - 投资 (tóu zī)
progress /ˈprɑː.ɡres/ B1	verb - 进步 (jìn bù)
prioritize /praɪˈɔː.rə.taɪz/ B2	verb - 优先 (yōu xiān)
gratitude /ˈɡrætɪˌtud/ B1	noun - 感激 (gǎn jī)
resilience /rɪˈzɪl.i.əns/ B2	noun - 韧性 (rèn xìng)
boundaries /ˈbaʊn.də.riz/ B1	noun - 界限 (jiè xiàn)
empower /ɛmˈpaʊ.ər/ B2	verb - 赋权 (fù quán)

重点语法结构

• you have to do your inner work before you choose your partner

  ➔ 情态动词‘必须’ + 动词原形（义务）

  ➔ “have to”相当于“必须”，表示主语必须完成的义务。

• no one can make you happy the way you can make yourself happy

  ➔ 比较从句 “the way” + 一般现在时

  ➔ “the way”引导比较从句，说明动作的方式。

• I’m not saying that you should retire and have 15 cats and live by yourself

  ➔ 现在进行时否定 + that从句 + 情态动词“should”+ 动词原形

  ➔ “I’m not saying”采用现在进行时否定形式，使陈述更柔和，后面的 that 从句使用情态动词 “should” 表示建议。

• if you’re not happy it doesn’t matter how amazing the person beside you is

  ➔ 第一类条件句（if + 一般现在时，结果也用一般现在时）

  ➔ “if you’re not happy”是使用一般现在时的条件从句；结果句 “it doesn’t matter …” 也用一般现在时，表达普遍真理。

• don’t put your happiness entirely in other people’s hands

  ➔ 祈使句（动词原形）

  ➔ “don’t” + 动词原形 “put” 构成否定祈使句，直接给出建议。

• people treat you the way they see you treat yourself

  ➔ 关系从句 “the way” + 一般现在时

  ➔ “the way”引导关系从句，说明事情发生的方式。

• you have to remember that you lead by example

  ➔ 情态动词‘必须’ + 动词原形 + that从句

  ➔ “have to”表示必要性，后跟动词原形 “remember”，再接由 “that” 引导的内容从句。

• if you don’t make the right investments today it will affect you in the future

  ➔ 第一类条件句（if + 一般现在时，will + 动词原形）

  ➔ “if you don’t make”是使用一般现在时的条件从句，结果句 “it will affect” 用 will + 动词原形表示将来的结果。